I have intense regret about the past. If I know something earlier, or if I choose differently, or be a bit braver or more confident, I would have a different life. My current would be much better. I think about this all the time everyday. I wonder if itself has become ocd? Has anyone have the same experience?
It’s true that each thing you do takes you to the next thing in life. But as my dad always says, when you get to the end, there’s no scoreboard or anything showing that you did it right or wrong. Just be yourself and do what’s in your best interest. You can’t change the past but you can use what you’ve learned or mistakes as a way to guide your future. I have regrets too but you can’t do anything about it. You have to just look ahead and do your best. You’ll be okay.
@fid That’s a really great way of putting it ❤️
Yesssssss. I regret so many things about my past. I live more in the past than I do in the present. I spoke to my ERP therapist about it, and he asked, "How do you feel when you think about the past?" I'm like I feel terrible. He's like, "Why do you continue to do it then?" I was like I actually don't know... I finally accepted that I will never be able to change the past no matter how much I obsess over it. What's happening instead is that I'm ruining my present and possibly my future. And then in a few years I'll be obsessing over that! I know it's hard, but ERP tells you to accept the regrets. Live with them. Move on and continue your life because then you'll have regrets that you didn't!
I have great regret that OCD has progressed over the years, and seems to only worsen. I feel like I’ve wasted my life, not done things, because I feel so badly.
I have a very similar experience about a mistake I made in the past and thinking about the impact it’s made on my life now
Question, does anyone else experience real life event ocd? Like they have a lot of guilt about events that happened in the past and can’t seem to move on from it. It is related to my suicide ocd and I wish I could just move on from the past but I have so much guilt for it even though everyone is telling me to move on! I read that this could be considered real life event ocd but am just wondering if anyone else feels the same.
There are my pasts which I am not proud of and make huge mistakes.......now after so long suddenly these memories are coming back to me.....getting a worse anxiety...and feeling shit about myself...I don't think so I can ever forgive my self It turns me to a bad person...I don't know what to do.....how to live anymore..Is this even normal in OCD....or it's not my OCD...I don't know how to correct my past..
I try so hard to just let it be and move on with my life because there is nothing I can do to change even though I was an idiot as a teenager I’m so scared every day and I don’t know if it’s because of the ocd I don’t know anymore but I feel like I’m going crazy because it just stays in the back of my mind haunting me and the guilt, shame, whatever really hurts. I wish I could go back knowing what I know now. How could I have been so dumb
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