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- v
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Try likening the thoughts to cars on a highway. There are ton of cars (thoughts) speeding about; instead of tracking a car (thought) like a hawk and watching its entire journey, let the thoughts pass. That is, let the cars drive on out of view. They may circle back around, but that’s okay. You’re a great distance from the highway, and can see them for what they are: fleeting chemical reactions that come and go. They don’t define you.
It’s quite a pain! But the harder we try to “stop thinking,” the more we think. In my experience so far, I’ve seen that managing and coping with OCD is mostly about reframing my relationship to thoughts and feelings, not stopping the experience of them. They are only that. They are not our identities.
It’s very hard not to ruminate. I think the fact that you ruminate about these thoughts tells you who you are because you know that those thoughts are not a part of you. They happen to all of us I think of things that I don’t want to all the time but I know that how much I don’t want those thoughts tells me who I am. They happen for reasons we don’t understand yet. And we can’t push them away because that makes them more prominent so just except that they are there but as Doug said they are not our identities.
@v are you seeing a therapist or on medication? I was in your situation a few months ago. Life was miserable. But once I started going to therapy regularly and taking medication I started to feel better. Keep fighting!
it’s just so hard not to ruminate
I like what @Doug said.That is good advice for everyone
I don’t know how to get rid of them
does any one else have an intrusive thought and you go over it in your head and try to see if you react in a good or bad way? i’ve been having bad intrusive thoughts but i sometimes have this feeling inside that i like it? and i feel it’s right and i agree inside but my other thoughts are saying no i hate it ?!
Hi. I struggle with intrusive thoughts a lot and I don’t know how to deal with it. They scare me so much I end up crying. I have many panic attacks because of them. I don’t want to sound crazy. I swear I would never think these things but sometimes when I’m near people or something a random thought “I hope you die” comes in my head. And I would never wish that on anyone. And the worst part is, it happens with people i love and care for so much. I know these thoughts aren’t me. I swear they aren’t but I still get so anxious about them. They make me feel like I have to tell the person it involves and I don’t want to do that. I’ll sound crazy. I’ll sound horrible. I’d never wish that on anyone. I care for everyone and everything whether I know them or not. Idk what to do. I obsess over these thoughts even tho I know it’s not me. Currently crying writing this.
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