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If you live in the United States and your co-worker is not a gay man, he likely sees this as a date. I think it would be fine to go (and just explain that you all are friends if he does or says anything flirty) or fine to cancel, too! It’s just brunch. He probably knew it was safer to ask you to do something low key as opposed to dinner and a movie on a Saturday night. Relationship obsessing is so exhausting… hang in there and try to be okay with the ambiguity of human interactions.
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- 2y
Do brunch, see what happens! If it is a date, just make sure you know you just want to be friends. But you don't really know for sure unless he tells you what his intentions are. You could always ask as well, I'm sure he'd appreciate the upfront honesty! And if he gets mad, then he's not the kind of man who wants friendships with women without wanting more, and you don't want that kind of friend anyway. I'd hate for you to skip out on hanging out with a friend for no reason! It's totally possible to still be friends even after that awkward conversation, if it does have to happen.
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Ask him what his intentions are. Then you'll know, and you can tell him where you're at. After that, it's up to him if he wants to still he friends, and if he values the friendship, he will
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I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
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I feel wrong because at one point i didn’t tell all my coworkers about my boyfriend because i wasn’t sure if we would break up or not and i wanted to i guess keep my options open and i thought one of my coworkers were cute and he also ended up being my plug later on but i never did anything with him i swear also he’s like 16 and i’m like 19 pregnant with my boyfriends baby do you think it’s ocd because i know if i tell my bf it would probably just make him angry
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Ii spoke w my bf this weekend and he mentioned that he has thoughts just like me, but his don't bother him like me. I then felt a lot better and he tried dissecting one of his thoughts like I usually do and realized it felt more real for him after. That made me realize that none of my thoughts were ever true and I blew them up. However, yesterday I had a thought ab “wait wut if you liked that one guy? How dare you bc youre supposed to love your bf and not secretly like someone else” and treated it as I usually did bc I accidentally wanted to see if it was true but didn't rlly but I would check to see if it was there and now that thought feels so so so real now and I feel really bad how do Ik it's not real? I feel so bad and guilty bc lividly this makes 0 sense but it feels so prominent. It felt pretty real when it happened yesterday too. And now I feel awful bc how is it possible after my clarity the other day? Why does it feel so prominent 😞😞😞
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