I can't stand the words that come out of my mouth and the way I act. I find myself so annoying/irritating. It's so hard to live with myself. My thoughts make sense and then my words come out wrong. I just sound annoying and I can't get past it. I cringe from my own sentences so often. I don't know how to get past this. Anyone have any advice?
I’m very much like a lot of what people have posted on this thread. I also remember convos from years ago that make me cringe. The plus side is, at least we’ve all found each other, I really like people with ocd, I’ve been in lots of different groups when I was misdiagnosed before I found out I had ocd, and I like being here the most. And sure I’d like to not have ocd, but the people I’ve spoke to in ocd groups are really considerate, friendly and loving people, so in a way I’m proud to be one of them. I also think no matter who you are you have your flaws. As much as I aspire to be perfect, it doesn’t exist
yeah i deal with this a lot. i literally feel the same way & i never really heard anyone else describe it the same way i feel it. i don’t have any advice really. i just relate to this & ur not alone. i cringe literally almost anytime i speak. sometimes i speak too much too and i feel like i just annoy the people around me. and other times i say literally nothing or i just am awkward . i even think i stand/walk awkwardly. i guess the only thing i can say is whatever u feel like is most “annoying” about yourself just try to do the opposite. that’s what im gonna try to do. for ex if u feel like u word stuff wrong then practice in ur head what ur gonna say beforehand. but idk if that really works cause i didn’t try that yet . sorry u gotta deal w that
I accepted that I was annoying. Can’t ever shut up about my obsessions, end up on a soapbox half the time because morality and temperance are major themes for me. On top of that, I have ADHD so I’ll skip ahead in conversations or interrupt people before I can stop myself. I’ll take it all home and sit there thinking how much of a self-righteous dick I must sound like. Also, I’m combative and critical and I enjoy debate, border on enjoying arguing, but I’ll get embarrassed and fucking cry, I’m a terrible sport. I could go on, but I’m just annoying. For some reason the people who’ve stuck around like that, and who am I to deny them?
@Bronsautracks i relate to the interrupting a lot. i hate it. i wont even realize it sometimes or a lot of the times. and ik that’s annoying because my mom did it to me, i just got that from her, but im trying to not interrupt cause i don’t wanna be that way
@moonjoy Yeah, I got it from my mom too 😭 but being medicated for the ADHD makes me a lot more considerate about interrupting and a better listener so there’s that 🥲
i feel the same about myself, i feel like everything i say isn’t normal and it’s just cringe
I relate to this. I feel like everyone hates me and I have no social life because I'm so annoying. Part of my trauma response is always feeling the need to overshare. My anxiety makes it difficult to follow along in conversations because I'm always worrying about something, and then I can't respond with a coherent statement because I wasn't fully paying attention. And, my OCD has me asking the same question over and over until the person gets fed up or thinks I'm odd or "crazy". I've tried so hard not to be myself, but it gets exhausting. It's like being an actress in a Broadway show that lasts 24/7. It's impossible to do. I'm learning to accept myself, and if someone doesn't like me then that's out of my control!
Hey everyone — I wrote this in my journal the other day and I’m curious if anyone else experiences “talking in circles” or not being able to “get to the point” when answering a question because you think that a lot of information is necessary to answer it. I have this problem with schoolwork. Instead of a one-sentence answer, I’ll write a long paragraph explaining details that are relevant but aren’t necessary to answer the question. This entry is out of context, but I think you’ll get the vibe: ‘I want to say that I understood what you were asking. You were asking, “What has helped you to make progress in the past?” I understood why you were asking that question: so that you can help facilitate me in following the plan. I suppose I just didn’t have a good answer. And when I tried to answer, the thought I expressed branched off into another semi-related topic. I feel as if I can’t get a clear thought through. It makes me feel like I am stupid and unable to hold a followable and intelligible conversation. And then I understood what you were doing in response: you acknowledged what I said respectfully and then found a way to circle back to your original question which I didn’t answer very well. And then I would try and explain my answer to the original question again, but I had no direct answer and it led me off onto another path. I feel as if my cognition makes it difficult to hold a cohesive, purposeful, and coherent conversation. I want to apologize because I feel like I’m waisting time instead of getting to the important questions / topics. I really, really wish I could just put my stupid thoughts together in a concise way so that I could answer your question. I am painfully aware of my circling thoughts and overly-detailed responses that are difficult to follow. I am very self-conscious of it. And I am very well aware of which thoughts are normal and which are disordered. That’s why I always say, “I know that’s disordered.” I get afraid that people will think I’m crazy. I don’t know why this happens to me. Maybe it’s OCD, anxiety, or maybe it’s some other disorder that I’m not diagnosed with yet (ADD)? I’m also unsure if I talk like this all the time or if it’s only when I get anxiety or when a lot of thoughts that I want to express come into my mind at once. The same thing sometimes happens when I do my schoolwork. I get anxiety that what I am saying is unintelligible and that what I am saying makes no sense. I wonder if more medication will help or if this is just how I think. And I bet I’ve repeated myself numerous times in this script. So I’ll stop writing. I hope my point came across and I hope I was able to express all that I felt the need to say.’
Do you have any advice on how to not be too hard with myself? I mean how could I even like myself with having those thoughts and feelings. They come from my brain and cause me so much uncomfort and anxiety, how could I not hate myself for it?! I hate myself for my thoughts, for my feelings, for how I look.. But I'm reading everywhere you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. So any advice how to practice this? Thank you.
I don't know how to explain this but for some time now I've noticed that people don't like to spend time with me, apparently I make them uncomfortable and I bore them. I really don't know what I'm doing wrong. I try to do what others like even if I don't like it, but they still don't like me. Unlike my brother who has fun with everyone and everyone loves to be with him. I don't know what to do I haven't had any friends for years, no one to talk to, that's why I talk to myself all the time and I don't know what else to do!? I've been alone for so long that when I talk to myself it already feels natural, I even answer myself as if I were talking to someone. Before it seemed normal to me but some relatives listened to me and asked me if I was okay since apparently it is not normal for them!! but I do not know what to do!! It's hard to find a friend but the truth is that I don't care anymore, I even find people irritable, to the point of hating every moment I spend with them!!
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