- Date posted
- 2y
Partner/parent who has kids partner with OCD help
Hi, pls someone advise me on this. I am in a loving relationship with my partner who has OCD at the beginning when he confessed I didn’t give much thought because all I knew about ocd was people checking the locks and stove 20 times. But his ocd takes different themes such as ROCD, moral scrupulosity, and last night he confessed me an incest ocd where he felt that his sister looked attractive he also told me that he’s had this thought before which has been followed by guilt and shame. We do an exposure exercise every night about his OCD even things where he constantly doubts his love for me finds another girl attraction and many others. I always deal with it because I know it’s his OCD and not his true feelings/intent. But since he has told me about the incest OCD I wanted to throw up I felt absolute disgust look I know it’s his OCD I know which is why I feel more disgusted on my self that I would feel this way about my own partner. But I find myself having sleepless night nightmare of him doing that to a family member I am in distress but ofc I love him and I wanna help him but I feel very drained. What should I do how can I help him without being drained or grossed out by some of the ocd thoughts he has had. Pls advise me. Ofc he does not know about of this. And I am just pretending to be normal infront of him. How do partners and parents of kids or partner having OCD deal with it?