how to go around false attraction

I found something useful on “dealing” with this as you may put it which can be used for any false attraction in ocd, like ROCD, POCD or SOOCD or anything to do with beastility/incest. I commented on someone else’s post about it but thought what i said may be useful so here it is. FIRSTLY, stop calling it false attraction. The whole premise of this makes people with ocd want to figure out wether they are experiencing a REAL or FALSE feeling which is just going to make people ruminate and pay attention to these feelings which will make it worse. So what are we gonna call it instead? Intrusive feelings. This allows us to work towards the goal of disregarding and habituating to these uncomfortable sensations and feelings rather than work out if it’s real or not. Secondly, I will tell you now that if false attraction gets to a strong point and is distressing you a lot you WONT be able to figure wether it’s a 100% true or not otherwise u wouldn’t be here. False attraction that is fleeting is obviously a strong indication it’s false but after lots of ruminating and worrying about being attracted to something it can lead to ur brain being even more confused. You need to stop all compulsions towards figuring this out: no checking, no ruminating, no testing! Also, if u respond strongly negatively to these emotions as in go into a state where u show ur mind how upset these feelings make u, it’s also a form of reacting and u don’t want to do this because it tells ur mind u care. You need to act like it doesn’t bother you to over come this. Thirdly, aesthetic attraction is different to sexual attraction. For someone with ROCD it’s okay to appreciate that your friends, coworkers, strangers may be good looking people not in a way that makes u want to act on or fantasise about. A girl suffering with HOCD may be worried she is attracted to her girl best friend because she thinks she is pretty. For someone who doesn’t suffer with this can understand they think they’re girl best friend is pretty but doesn’t make her attracted to them, it’s just having an awareness that your friend/ that person isn’t ugly to look at. For people with pocd it’s okay to find a little kid adorable/ cute in a completely innocent way like a puppy without it meaning anything else. There is a huge difference between aesthetic and false sexual attraction that ocd does a good job at blurring the lines inbetween. Fourthly, people who’s ocd use this so called false attraction against them, end up saying it FEELS real and it just can’t be anything else because it FEELS real. It’s hard to comprehend but this is also just a feeling, lol! and you have to learn to sit with it no matter how hard it gets because it’s just gonna get worse if not. and sitting with it, will also help you deal with it rationally if maybe over time u realise that it wasn’t “false”. Also, OCD is a doubting disorder. It can inflict such strong thoughts, urges, sensations, feelings and will use everything in its power to convince u of ur fears. Remember it can even fabricate fake memories so Please don’t forget that u do have OCD and it can be powerful, u can’t give up hope Finally, ik how scary this feeling can be as i’ve dealt with it myself and it is the milestone of sexual related obsessions as it can make u believe this is you but ocd is a liar and i also believe if you 1) label all ocd as intrusive feelings 2)stop all compulsions towards this. and stop ruminating on wether feeling is false / real. feeling is feeling. 3) understand different types of attraction 4) understand that *feeling real* is also a feeling and u MUST habituate to it You may be able to deal with this better. I’m not going to reassure anyone that it will dissolve but this is how u can learn to overcome this as a form of ocd. If you act as if this is ocd, as it’s best to label uncomfortable feelings as ocd to begin, those who are experiencing this intrusive feeling would eventually get to a point where the ocd knows you don’t care about this feeling and stops using it against you and regular attractions would reappear. But don’t do this as an end goal, the goal is to not be bothered! I hope this can help anyone dealing with this, hang in there and DISREGARD!!!