I’m really struggling with spending any time alone at the minute. I don’t want to become reliant on my partner being around all the time and want to be able to feel okay in my own company. I used to absolutely love my own company and now I really dread it and feel so anxious. Any body been through this and have any tips for me? It seems really difficult to sit with it and try not to do mental compulsions
I struggle with this too. I noticed it gets bad when my ocd flares up. I also used to love being alone and doing things independently even when I have a boyfriend. Now sometimes I’m scared to be alone. The intrusive thoughts get so scary sometimes. It makes me feel validated that some of you also feel this way. We got this the more time you spend alone the better. We’re not alone ❤️
@alexisrae I honestly thought I was the only one or there was something seriously wrong with me. We have got this ❤️
I’m actually going through this right now , for months I couldn’t stay home alone due to horrible intrusive thoughts and so much anxiety the past couple days I’ve bin pushing myself to be home alone , my mornings are horrible but it’s gets better during the day . What I found that really has helped me from the beginning was taking a nice 20 min walk it clears my mind and I feel more intone with the moment , even if it’s a little cold out just push yourself because you’ll thank yourself later ! I hope this helps! and remember you are not alone!
@samanthaL Thank you! I took myself to the gym for an hour and feeling better for it
Omg I totally relate to this. Last week my partner went out with his friends and I panicked. I was crying and telling him not to go. I couldn’t understand why I was feeling that way but now I know is OCD. I used to love being alone at home but now it’s not easy. One tip I can share is that the more you spend time alone the better it gets so whenever the opportunity to be alone comes then embrace it and practice your skills like breathing, reading, going for a walk etc etc until you feel good being by yourself. It’s like you exercise a muscle to get stronger and bigger.
@Hopeful soul I feel this!! Sometimes I panic when he says he’s going out because I’m like what am I gonna do ???? Thank you for the tips, I’ll be sure to try it ☺️
I to struggle with this. I found the more i sat with uncomfortable feeling instead of fighting the better. Ill sit there and after some time ill catch myself thinking about happy stuff or watching tv and not even caring what ocd is throwing at me.
I definitely relate to this, it's important for me to have time alone to focus on myself and I used to be fine with but my OCD always gives me a little panic about it. It's like it's telling me I'm going to do something wrong/deceptive on my own that I'd be hiding from my partner. I think it's latching onto my fears around my intrusive thoughts being secretive/shameful/I'm a liar/the compulsion to confess. My advice would be treat like an exposure and try a bit of time on your own intentionally, to show yourself you can manage the anxiety even if it's not pleasant. Otherwise unfortunately it's just avoidance and that will give OCD power to restrict from living a full life. Wishing you the best.
@ada110 You’re so right. Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it ☺️
Remember the more attention you give it the longer itll hang around
@Anonymous You’re so right! It just feels so wrong to not fight it 😂😂
@Ellouise Yes it does! It took forever for me to get past that lol. Your doin great and promise youll be fine! You got this!
My OCD/anxiety gets really bad when I’m alone, but sometimes I can’t prevent being alone. I don’t know how to get my mind off of it without others around me
Idk how to word this, but how do you think of or interact with your partner without triggering obsessions? I feel like my anxiety is getting to a point where I’m just triggered by even the thought of him and it makes it difficult. Idk how to stop the cycle once it gets to this point and just wondered if it made sense to anybody else?
I noticed that being alone really messes with my thoughts and it's been hard to relax at the moment. I just keep thinking about the past, negative thinking, and really disturbing intrusive thoughts that I just want to stop. Just want to go back to how I was before 2020 even happened. I wasn't the best person then but at least I wasn't going through THIS every single day.
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