How do people deal with fear of failure or intrusive thoughts that they will fail? They’re getting me down at the moment but I don’t want to give up on self improvement and dream realisation because my thoughts have convinced me I will fail.
Personally my fear of failure is really about others seeing me fail and how that could change how they see me. I do ERP where I purposely “fail” in ways others see, starting very small and working my way up to bigger “failures”. Eventually I realized nothing happened when I failed and no one else cared nearly as much as I do. I realized failing wasn’t a thing I needed to protect myself from. Still have a lot of work to do but the freedom I’ve already gained has been life changing.
@J E S S I C A Thank you.
Well when you failed you failed there's not much you can do when it happens but just cause you failed doesn't mean you can't win again
I hear you buddy. I think that’s part of my core fear. That and the fear of rejection. All I could say is even if you do fail, trying is always better than not trying. I can’t tell you how many times I didn’t even try something because I was so scared of failing. Now I’ll always wonder what if.. Plus failing at something is always the end. Many successful people have failed over and over and over again, but they didn’t quit and neither should you. I hope that somewhat helps.
How do yall handle intrusive thoughts !? I never realized that was a thing I think I’ve been dealing with this sense I was in elementary school I remember getting on the bus and had the the worry my mom was gonna get in an accident and it’s just gone from there
This might contain triggering content, but I'm also wondering if others have dealt with this similar thought, and if so, how to deal with it? Overall, I've been doing so well these past few days. I'm able to eat again, which I hadn't been able to do because of how much anxiety I'd been experiencing. I'm spending time around loved ones and not just rotting in my room, and I've been able to wake up without immediately being bombarded by intrusive thoughts. When things first got really bad, I'd wake my mom up every night for reassurance, but I haven't done that in a while either. I'm really proud of myself, but there's still this nagging thought in my mind... While looking through others posts on here, hoping to find advice that'd fit my situation, I ended up making things worse. Someone mentioned how they had a fear that they'd purposely search for illegal content (related to POCD). I panicked, and "what ifs" flooded my thoughts. "What if the intrusive thoughts affect who I am as a person, and I do that?" I'm terrified that I'll search for those things, which I know means I wouldn't do it. But then, another person on here said they'd actually looked for those things, and that freaked me out even more. Does that mean it's possible for that to happen to me? I don't want to do that, but I keep having intrusive thoughts surrounding it. I've been doing so well these past few days. I'm just... stuck. I don't know what to do. I've spoken with other people who have the same fears, but how do I manage this? It's not something I've even thought about before seeing those posts. I've been practicing accepting the uncertainty, but I'm really struggling with this one. I hate this. This morning, I woke up, and the intrusive thoughts were back. It's just disheartening.
I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
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