Any advice?
My bf told me if I don’t get better he’ll leave me ? I told him about my intrusive thoughts and they ruin my days and I also deal with depression and anxiety what do I do? I love him so much i don’t want him to leave I feel like shit
Leave him. If he can’t be supportive of you he isn’t worth it. You deserve a partner that loves you for who you are no matter what.
I’m so sorry to hear that. You deserve someone who is gentle & patient with you, and who supports you in your recovery journey. You deserve so much better from a partner and i hate that your bf is making you feel ashamed or like there’s something wrong with you, or under pressure to get better soon. That’s not ok and someone who truly loves you would not treat you that way or give you some type of quasi-ultimatum. Sending care & solidarity to you 💚
Ideally partners are willing to listen about ocd with an open mind and respond in non judgmental ways. It makes sense you don’t want him to leave. If it feels worth it, consider trying to educate him on ocd, explain how hurtful it was to respond like that, and tell him how you’d hoped he would respond. I’m not going to tell you how to be in your relationship, but yeah that’s a pretty shitty response to say the least. Definitely something to consider in regards to moving forward. Anyways, hope I’m not off base here. Hope the best for you on your recovery journey
If he can't be supportive on your "worst" days then he doesn't deserve you on your better ones. At all.
I relate to this so much. I love my boyfriend so much and just recently I’ve been making him upset by constantly asking him for reassurance. We had a big argument because of how I was asking him though. I was being toxic and didn’t believe him and would be angry. But if you are nice and communicating in a healthy way, he should be understanding.
My bf has been the most supportive person ever. I told him about my harm intrusive thoughts towards our daughter. He supported me no matter what. He was open when he said that my asking for reassurance was really bad for us. And was taking a toll on him. We talked it through and he loved me through that. He supports my therapy and helps pay for it. Find someone who understands you have OCD. And that it won’t be easy. They may get upset and frustrated. But find someone who will love you through it.
wow. that’s not something he should say at all. i’m so sorry. as you love him so much he should treat you with all the respect in the world. this is not your fault at all :(
I’m so sorry. OCD is already so painful and hearing that come from someone you love is even more hurtful. I get if he feels overwhelmed with trying to understand and help you with your OCD, but there’s a way to go about it. Does he think that saying he’ll leave you will make you feel any better? This is not your fault and as others have said, you deserve kindness and understanding from your partner. What he said is really harsh and unnecessary tbh. I hope things will get better and easier for you soon 🫶🏽
I'm so sorry and I understand your not alone my life has been turned upside down and inside out because of this EVIL bullshit 😥 If he truly loves you he won't give up NO MATTER what but at the same time WE HAVE TO TRY TO GET WELL so yes we will FALL DOWN but we can't give up on OURSELVES and that's the problem I think many of us give in to the OCD when we have to keep telling ourselves it's just a THOUGHT and it's not REAL so why go any further and follow through by making it worse like doing some type of physical rituals like for me it's cutting my hair for hours and hours and hours and hours 😥 WE truly have the power but we NEED the support and HELP of those around US I believe that OCD is NO different then a addiction that really SUCKS there's really NO feeling good with this so I guess in the end WHY DO IT if only it was that easy UGH 🥴😔😥 YOUR in my thoughts be strong and tell him YOU NEED him and you LOVE him if he's not caring then YOU have to truly think about the relationship in the end YOU have to keep yourself WELL and on track and with negativity and resentment it definitely makes getting on track and trying to be healthy difficult 😔 This I know I deal with it as well in my own relationship my guy doesn't say he'll leave me but he says everything else that can make you feel like shit and then your triggered what a vicious cycle this is makes me cryz PLEASE stay strong for yourself you owe it to yourself....🥹
need help or tips? i've been spiraling because i have confession compulsion and i have this fear that once my boyfriend finds out the themes of my OCD, he'll leave me. he loves me and tells me he'll always be by my side but before i kind of confessed that my mind kind of has his followers memorized because of compulsions i've performed before and he admitted that it slightly turned him off because "damn that's something else" but it wasn't a dealbreaker... can't help but think if he thinks that's something else then he is definitely gonna be turned off after he finds out about my POCD especially now it kind of involved his younger nephew or about Harm OCD or Pure O Really need help to overcome this. I have this urge to confess to him and try to make him understand to get that reassurance from him that even after knowing these he won't leave me but I also don't want to bc not a lot of people will understand or be comfortable about it esp we've only been together for a few months
I have the most awful thoughts about my boyfriend and I’m so scared he’s going to leave me and he is one of the top most important things in my whole life. He is not just my boyfriend. He is my life partner and the father of our daughter. He is truly my everything. But I have such bad thoughts/feelings that make me feel a type of way and I feel like I start to truly believe and I’m horrible for that.
So while I was washing the dishes and my mother came into the kitchen I decided to tell her about OCD and when I talked about it with her she said something to me that is now worrying me and I can’t stop thinking about. She said “what will your boyfriend think about it? He’s probably gonna think you’re too problematic and leave you” now I feel pressured to tell my bf about the OCD I may have but at the same time I’m worried that he’ll want to leave me and think I’m too sad for him. I don’t know what to do. 😓
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