K-M

Date posted: 2y

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It’s my bday so an old friend reached out to me (a male) and the 2nd thing he said to me was asking me if I’ve had babies yet. I don’t want children and my OCD is latched onto questioning everything about my decision so this was super triggering for me. In a sense I can kind of laugh because one of my compulsions has been rehearsing what I am gonna say to people who ask me that… so I already had my response prepared so long in advance lol 😂 😂 I have a lot of anxiety now and I keep checking my phone waiting to see what he’ll say but I’m going to try to just keep going about my morning. It’s not even 8am! 🤦🏻‍♀️

micybigfan

Date posted: 2y

Ah I’m sorry about that but I hope you have a great birthday!!

K-M

Date posted: 2y

@micybigfan Thank you!!!

rosegolden143

Date posted: 2y

happy birthday!

K-M

Date posted: 2y

@rosegolden143 Thank you!!

SarahSS36

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

Personally, I think it’s inappropriate for anyone to ask about your reproductive decisions. When will men or people in general learn this!

K-M

Date posted: 2y

@SarahSS36 Right? Me too. Most of the responses I’ve gotten are opposing my decision so my OCD loves that lol. My husband is on their side so that stinks too but it’s ok. I’ve watched some funny videos where women are just like “what does my womb have anything to do with you?” Lol

SarahSS36

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

@K-M 100% okay. I know sometimes people mean well but you never know what people are going through - like what if they can’t have kids or are trying. It’s insensitive. I think you could say, I would prefer not to talk about my choices but how are you? Or something like that

K-M

Date posted: 2y

@SarahSS36 That’s exactly what I told my husband too, but idk if it’s cause I’m just super sensitive about the topic. I think that’s a great thing to say!! I just told my friend “I don’t want children and it’s not for everyone” and I also told him I know he meant well cause I think he felt bad

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Date posted: 2y

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K-M

Date posted: 2y

@Anonymous Thank you!!! I always love hearing from you!!

K-M

Date posted: 2y

@Anonymous Thank you, love bug!

FactsOverFear

Date posted: 2y

That question triggers me too. Having children is such a sensitive topic for so many people, yet some people still have the audacity to bring it up. My first thought was, does this old friend want to see if you're happy with your husband/going to be single soon because he's interested in you? It's just odd that he would care. Nevertheless, remember that you don't owe anyone an explanation on how you want to live your life and the choices you make. Just curious, how did you respond?! Also, happy birthday!!

K-M

Date posted: 2y

@FactsOverFear I know!! My sister has been watching my journey/struggle with this topic and the rude remarks I’ve gotten from people and she said the other day “I had no idea other people thought it was just such a big deal not to have kids.” Some people are weenies! Lol. I don’t think he’s asking if I’m happy. He is older and he told me a while back he didn’t really want his girlfriend cause she was older and he wanted kids (she couldn’t have any probably), so maybe he sees me as a baby maker? Or perhaps it’s just because of what many of us are taught “get married and have kids, then they get married and have kids etc.” I’m not sure. I’ve told him in the past I didn’t want them so then I just said “you know I don’t want kids, not everyone is meant to have kids, I’m happy with my choice.” Might’ve been a little defensive 😂 but I think I’ve had so much pressure on me especially with the OCD hanging onto it that I can be pretty quick to defend my side lol.

K-M

Date posted: 2y

@K-M When I said other people thinking it’s a big deal, I meant some people don’t like it if OTHER people choose not to ** wasn’t trying to call everyone a weenie lol

Maddie811

Date posted: 2y

Happy Birthday!!!🎉

K-M

Date posted: 2y

@Maddie811 Thank you!!

Sb5

Date posted: 14w

Ocd relapse

Today is Easter and it was supposed to be low key for me and my family but my mom invited a family member that bothers my ocd alot and now they are on their way here and I'm freaking out I already had a panic attack (still having it) and my family is not helping either they keep making comments about how they just want one holiday with no problems and some other comments and it's like I'm sorry I'm not normal like my siblings I didn't ask to be like this now I'm just hurt, upset and I locked myself in my room for the rest of day. (And I was doing so good with erp and this is like making me have a ocd relapse)

g_rangel

Date posted: 9w

spiraling again.

i had recently been triggered to have so-ocd. its been on my mind non-stop. (i am a heterosexual female) and my mind has been all over the place questioning if i have been in denial the entire time. ive always had people tell me they sort of got that vibe it it never really affected me until my own mother had her suspicions. so i would constantly get triggered un public around the same gender, while knowing my true sexuality. ive always been attracted to men but as of recently ive been having super bad anxiety to where i cannot eat or sleep and feel weak all the time. it was like that for a week or so. now im in the calm where i have been trying accept the uncertainty but it still isnt fair as im getting triggered. im a little worried because it feels like i have been lying to my parents the entire time although ive never had the desire to be with the same gender. and i keep getting intrusive thoguhts that make me feel anxious and uncomfortable. its all starting to affect my friendships as im constantly getting triggered with the intrusive thoguhts. i feel a little less anxious compared to how i was a couple days ago. im really scared on why im having these thoughts now when i have been having romantic feelings for a guy the past year or so. ive also been struggling with false attraction and loss attraction to men. it makes me feel uncertain of my life the entire time

LV4523

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 7w

Hard day

Having a little bit of a rough morning. My boyfriend and I are finally ending long distance next month and moving in together! I’m so excited, but the big change means some ROCD and SOOCD flaring up. I also got triggered by a tik tok of a bisexual woman this morning. I’ve been ruminating about: - ending long distance and being in a more consistent routine will make me realize I don’t actually love him and that we’re not compatible - I will not like spending so much time with a man but I enjoyed a long vacation with a girl friend one time (my best friend and I took a 7 week trip to Europe after we graduated college early and I had so much fun and we hardly fought / disagreed) - if i have been suppressing my attraction to women, even though I really don’t think I have feelings for women. I admire their beauty and always have, but I truly think that’s as far as it goes - substance use ocd also came up this morning? Worrying that I will become an alcoholic / that I secretly want to drugs and drink all the time I’m also getting my period in a few days and have flair ups around this time and my ovulation time. Just looking for support 🫶🏼

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