Emily Cruce

User type: Member advocate

Date posted: 2y

Can I be open to dating while dealing with ROCD?

Navigating the modern dating world along side ROCD can be a major challenge. Maybe you fear that you will not find the "perfect person" or that they won't be able to "handle" the doubts and intrusive thoughts that you share from time to time. It can seem so intimidating to look for a partner when you struggle with the uncertainty of relationships to begin with. I want to remind you that just because you deal with ROCD doesn't mean you can't find a kind and loving partner. I encourage you to go on that date, sit with uncertainty and know that every step you take forward towards your happiness is a step in the right direction.

KazePeriwinkle

Date posted: 2y

thank you for writing this. rocd has taken so much of my life away from me and remembering that there’s hope it won’t always be that way really helps

Emily Cruce

User type: Member advocate

Date posted: 2y

You are so welcome! I am glad we can relate to each other, I know how hard it is dealing with ROCD. Recovery is absolutely possible! How have you been managing your ROCD?

KazePeriwinkle

Date posted: 2y

@ i’ve mostly been using the free sources with noocd as well as matt codde’s relationship ocd videos on youtube. more than that though honestly, being mistreated by others and leaving those environments has proved to me that i don’t deserve the things my brain tells me i do. ensuring i’m in a safe environment has helped me the most

Emily Cruce

User type: Member advocate

Date posted: 2y

@KazePeriwinkle - That's wonderful, it sounds like you are working hard trying to get your ROCD under control. You should be so proud of yourself! Have you heard of doing ERP therapy? I went through ERP and it ended up really helping me the most with my ROCD then anything else I tried.

KazePeriwinkle

Date posted: 2y

@ i am currently looking into switching insurance plans so that i can afford it :) im DIYing everything right now

Karmy

Date posted: 2y

Short answer; NO. I highly do not recommend this during recovery. It takes away your focus, and adds pressure. Just focus on you. Recovery is the foundation everything rallies on it.

EmieG07

Date posted: 2y

I’ve been having repetitive thoughts about my partner, my mind says I don’t like him and I’m forcing this. It’s been months and it doesn’t go away, sometimes it gets better but others it just gets worse, I try to get rid of them and I get to the point that my head hurts ‘cause I think too much about it. My mind tells me this is the truth, I don’t like him and I don’t want him.

Emily Cruce

User type: Member advocate

Date posted: 2y

I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling right now with intrusive thoughts surrounding your relationship. I know how draining it can be dealing with those thoughts without any relief. What have you been doing to manage your ROCD?

EmieG07

Date posted: 2y

@ - I've been trying to tell myself the truth but my mind says that it's not the truth, that the truth is that I dont want him and I'm just convincing myself that I do want him. It's been so draining I've been dealing with this for months and sometimes it gets better but other times worse.

nocdperson

Date posted: 2y

Mam, is ERP induced stress bad for you? I mean it exposes oneself to heightened level of stress and anxiety?

Raju Sutradhar

Date posted: 2y

After recovery, if i get hard work can OCD think trigger me?

ari_joe

Date posted: 2y

Aww this brought a happy tear to my eye 💜💜💜

Princessandt...

Date posted: 24w

Finding love with POCD. Help!

So I’m really struggling to believe that anyone will want to be in a relationship with me and still love me when they find out about my pocd and intrusive thoughts. I am holding a belief no one can love me with this condition and they will be repulsed by me when they find out. I just don’t know how to shake that feeling and be brave enough to try and share with anyone I’m dating.

POCD

Shhhhh

Date posted: 22w

Relationship OCD

For those of you in relationships with ROCD, do your partners know of your diagnosis. I am new to treatment and new to this avenue of mental health. I am generally pretty open and honest with my partner about things but the dark side of my mind I keep hidden. I’m scared to tell him about this if I’m diagnosed. And I’m scared that if I’m diagnosed and something real does go south in the relationship then my diagnosis will be used against me.

niu

Date posted: 14w

ROCD on vacation. Tips?

So me and my boyfriend are going on our first short trip together and as an avoidant person who tends to be very anxious about being seen in a relationship and being in a relationship in general, it could become a very triggering experience. I have had previous OCD themes but the last few years have been very latched to the topics HOCD and ROCD. I just know that spending so much time together could lead to intrusive thoughts about him and our relationship and result in micromanaging and being irritated. Anyone tips on how to enjoy this and not put too much pressure on myself ?

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