Relationship ocd

How to beat intrusive thoughts about my relationship? I ended up thinking that if my partner left me I would just go with the guy my mind has been obsessing over that I don’t wanna think about like ever again :/ I can’t handle thinking about that guy he’s my boyfriends friend. My mind makes me think I wanna be with my bfs friend and I don’t wanna it’s making me think of him a lot which I don’t want to I can’t get this guy out of my head and it’s getting frustrating I just wanna be with my partner and him only without thinking of this other guy :/ what if it means Something :/ what if this guy never ends up leaving my head :/ I hate thinking of him I just wanna be with my boyfriend forever but my head makes me feel that if my partner leaves me that I can just go with that other guy but I don’t wanna think that at all like what the hell just leave my head

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

It really doesn’t sound like you want to be with the other guy lol don’t worry it’s ocd

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

I’ve had many experiences just like that

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

It seems like you’re in a rumination spiral, I’ve had similar thoughts and ROCD and it’s really distressing. What works for me is to try to let the thoughts be there but not engage with them. I respond with something like “maybe!” Or “that’s possible” or “that would suck, obviously.” This sorta takes some of the power out of the thought, because I’m no longer arguing with it or agreeing with it—I’m just letting it be there. So for example, if I have an intrusive thought “what if I’d rather be with that other guy?” I think, “maybe, maybe not” and don’t engage with the thought any further. The key is to stop trying to figure it out—you’ll never figure it out with compulsive rumination.