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This is a kind of reassurance for us... all of these studies and such xd And actually invalidates other sexualities. "Only bisexual people exists." We are too many in this world and too different to that to be true. You can be horny about a lot of things in general, but what you choose in the moment is what build your orientation. People sometimes need labels. Some others not. And both are okay. Bisexual people are real just as ace, or gay, lesbian and straight. Let it be as an experience itself for everyone.
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@Brooklyn33 I see the point you’re making. And I totally agree that the headline is inflammatory (probably on purpose to get clicks and all that.) I was focused more on the study than the article itself. The point I was trying to get across was that a physical response to any kind of sexual stimuli is present in everyone of ALL orientations — NOT that anyones subjective sexual orientation is invalid. Rather than seeing this info as reassurance, I see it as adding to the uncertainty while challenging the compulsion: your body is an entirely imperfect testing ground! In fact, the response it’s providing is probably even more contradictory and confusing than you thought! Most people aren’t even fully aware of how they’re responding physically. I know testing is a big compulsion for people with SOOCD (I know because I read about it a lot here and because I once suffered from it). You’re right that the article itself has some issues and I’m glad you pointed them out!
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Thank you for that response ♡ you seem a pretty nice person ♡ I guess the idea is really good but the essay was a little agressive hahaha
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Totally! I should have paid more attention to how the article itself was written rather than just getting excited about the study and posting it right away.
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It does make sense
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You are great~ and also for people with soocd sometimes is more like fear of seeing people... than attraction. I found it really complicated either
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Hey everyone, I’m reaching out because I’ve been going through one of the hardest mental spirals of my life, and I’m hoping someone can relate or shed light on what’s happening to me. About 4 months ago, I accidentally came across a trans porn scene. It didn’t do much at the time, but later it triggered this overwhelming intrusive thought: “What if I’m gay?” Since then, it’s been absolute hell. I’ve always been into women—emotionally, sexually, everything. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with a girl I love deeply. But after that moment, my brain started spiraling into nonstop analysis. I began checking how I felt around men, whether I felt attraction, whether I was in denial, whether I was lying to myself. Literally everything became a test. I got stuck in this loop: • A thought pops in → panic • Try to solve it → brief relief • Another thought → worse panic • Repeat. At times, it got so bad I couldn’t feel anything at all—toward my girlfriend, toward women, toward myself. I started doubting everything. Some days, I feel emotionally flat, like I’ve lost my personality. Other days, I wake up with a full-body jolt of “truth” like “I’m definitely gay”—only for it to fade into numbness again. I’ve also noticed that I get short bursts of peace when I stop reacting, but then the fear comes back louder, like “See? Now you’re accepting it. That means it’s true.” Therapy hasn’t helped much so far—it felt more like general counseling. They told me to sit with the thoughts, but didn’t clarify if this was OCD, identity questioning, or trauma. That just made it worse because now I’m back to thinking “What if I’m just rejecting my truth?” I’m exhausted. I’ve lost connection to everything I used to love. • I want to love my girl again the way I used to • I want to feel desire without overthinking • I want to trust myself again I’m not looking for reassurance—I just want to know if anyone else has gone through something like this, and if this sounds like HOCD or identity OCD. Thanks for reading.
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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