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This is a kind of reassurance for us... all of these studies and such xd And actually invalidates other sexualities. "Only bisexual people exists." We are too many in this world and too different to that to be true. You can be horny about a lot of things in general, but what you choose in the moment is what build your orientation. People sometimes need labels. Some others not. And both are okay. Bisexual people are real just as ace, or gay, lesbian and straight. Let it be as an experience itself for everyone.
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@Brooklyn33 I see the point you’re making. And I totally agree that the headline is inflammatory (probably on purpose to get clicks and all that.) I was focused more on the study than the article itself. The point I was trying to get across was that a physical response to any kind of sexual stimuli is present in everyone of ALL orientations — NOT that anyones subjective sexual orientation is invalid. Rather than seeing this info as reassurance, I see it as adding to the uncertainty while challenging the compulsion: your body is an entirely imperfect testing ground! In fact, the response it’s providing is probably even more contradictory and confusing than you thought! Most people aren’t even fully aware of how they’re responding physically. I know testing is a big compulsion for people with SOOCD (I know because I read about it a lot here and because I once suffered from it). You’re right that the article itself has some issues and I’m glad you pointed them out!
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Thank you for that response ♡ you seem a pretty nice person ♡ I guess the idea is really good but the essay was a little agressive hahaha
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Totally! I should have paid more attention to how the article itself was written rather than just getting excited about the study and posting it right away.
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It does make sense
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You are great~ and also for people with soocd sometimes is more like fear of seeing people... than attraction. I found it really complicated either
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.
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