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My boyfriend
Broke up with me today. I’m so sad… I just keep obsessing about what I did wrong, why he broke up with me. It’s horrible.. does anyone have any tips how to deal with this?
Broke up with me today. I’m so sad… I just keep obsessing about what I did wrong, why he broke up with me. It’s horrible.. does anyone have any tips how to deal with this?
I lost my boyfriend because of ocd, I obsessed and obsessed over what I could’ve done to fix it, your just hurting yourself by doing that you’re going to get through this and I won’t lie it’s going to be difficult at first but your strong and you can make it through this stay strong and remember you have a wonderful community of people here for you! If you need someone to talk to I’ll Listen!
Go no contact first. It doesnt have to be forever, but its a must so that you can heal properly. When you do no contact and let yourself feel emotions, you slowly come to terms with what you both could have done differently and learn from the relationship. Its okay to take time just to cry and feel your feelings, but also take breaks and yes, distract yourself with something fun to get your mind off it sometimes. I made a music playlist also all about self love, that helped a lot. sending hugs 💜
o also exercise. Any anger or hurt I had sometimes was all taken out on a treadmill lol
Sorry to hear that you both have gone through with this. :( Try not to ruminate on this because it could make things worse. I'm really sorry that happened
I broke up with a guy about three years ago and it was really hard, the heartbreak, the ocd all of it - It took about four months of me coping in unhealthy ways to realize that I wasn’t doing myself any favors - I decided to do something every day physically so that I could look back on the day and know I did something good for myself. I went on a walk. It made me get up and get outside and eventually I started wanting and doing other things for myself again like cooking and cleaning….. I kept people in my life that helped me and supported my journey and any guy I was talking to that I couldn’t see anything real with I let go - Something that really could have helped me quicker was finding a healthy way to cope and allowing myself to feel my emotions because I thought that if I had emotions towards him then I still wanted him or would do something awful….. Remember to feel and you’ll have days you won’t want to do anything at all for yourself but make sure you do something at least write down five things your body can do for you to give yourself some love and attention during this hard time…..
My ex best friend started dating my ex boyfriend. And me and the boy are in the same church so this is awkward. My heart is broken, not because he’s with someone else but the fact that it’s with her. I look back at every moment the three of us spent together and just wondering if they liked each other when me and him were together. I’ve lost all self respect, I keep stalking them on social media and I’m so mad at myself because I know that I’m letting them hurt me more but I can’t help it. I also still have my ex bsf location and I checked it today and saw that she was at my ex bf’s little brother’s baseball game, this hurt because me and him used to do that together, also me and his family are still close because of church so I have a soft spot in my heart for his little brother. I just feel like my whole world is upside down, I’m so confused. I’m trying so hard not to resent them, I try and remind myself that they are still God’s children. But I still find myself full of bitterness. I’ve been processing everything for about a month and I have tried tons of things to heal: put all of the items he gave me in a box, go to a rage room, visit the temple, journal, pray. Each of these things have helped a ton, but I still have a lot of pain. I know that this is all part of God’s plan but it’s still painful, I just need to remember that this pain is temporary and will help me grow as a person. I just wanted to share this and maybe get some advice on how to heal from a broken heart. I know this isn’t really OCD related but I just really needed to share this.
Finally my partner decided to break up with me, and I feel totally empty. He wants an open relationship, which I can’t handle. Just feel broken inside 💔
Does anyone have advice for dealing with a breakup. This hurts so bad and my brain is torturing me. OCD makes it so much worse. It’s been a month already. I need to start letting go but can’t stop. Any advice for letting things go .. ?
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