Broke up with me today. I’m so sad… I just keep obsessing about what I did wrong, why he broke up with me. It’s horrible.. does anyone have any tips how to deal with this?
I lost my boyfriend because of ocd, I obsessed and obsessed over what I could’ve done to fix it, your just hurting yourself by doing that you’re going to get through this and I won’t lie it’s going to be difficult at first but your strong and you can make it through this stay strong and remember you have a wonderful community of people here for you! If you need someone to talk to I’ll Listen!
Go no contact first. It doesnt have to be forever, but its a must so that you can heal properly. When you do no contact and let yourself feel emotions, you slowly come to terms with what you both could have done differently and learn from the relationship. Its okay to take time just to cry and feel your feelings, but also take breaks and yes, distract yourself with something fun to get your mind off it sometimes. I made a music playlist also all about self love, that helped a lot. sending hugs 💜
o also exercise. Any anger or hurt I had sometimes was all taken out on a treadmill lol
Sorry to hear that you both have gone through with this. :( Try not to ruminate on this because it could make things worse. I'm really sorry that happened
I broke up with a guy about three years ago and it was really hard, the heartbreak, the ocd all of it - It took about four months of me coping in unhealthy ways to realize that I wasn’t doing myself any favors - I decided to do something every day physically so that I could look back on the day and know I did something good for myself. I went on a walk. It made me get up and get outside and eventually I started wanting and doing other things for myself again like cooking and cleaning….. I kept people in my life that helped me and supported my journey and any guy I was talking to that I couldn’t see anything real with I let go - Something that really could have helped me quicker was finding a healthy way to cope and allowing myself to feel my emotions because I thought that if I had emotions towards him then I still wanted him or would do something awful….. Remember to feel and you’ll have days you won’t want to do anything at all for yourself but make sure you do something at least write down five things your body can do for you to give yourself some love and attention during this hard time…..
I’ve just recently found out that Relationship OCD is a thing. I feel like I relate but it also feels like relationship trauma. I’m in a fairly new relationship and I keep telling myself that things are going great, we are good, he cares for me, but does he? There’s this unbelievable amount of self doubt that sits in me because of what my ex did to me many months ago. I kept getting told that I do too much, i smother, need constant reassurance, then got told that I don’t care enough, the things I do aren’t enough and that I’m not enough. I feel like I am waiting for the day that I get broken up with because of these “problems” just so I can be proven right at the fact that I should be considered unlovable. I go through this every month around my period because I get so emotional and nervous that I stress over the idea that he doesn’t like me. How does someone continue a relationship with Relationship OCD? How do I explain it?
Tmi warning I was being intimate with my bf and I kept getting the name of someone else pop up, but I didn’t feel anxious. Afterwards, as much as I tried to delay confessing, I couldn’t help it. I confessed. My bf was fine he said I probably didn’t feel anxious because I’ve gotten used to the anxiety and it’s okay, it doesn’t define me any more than it would if I was anxious. A few minutes later, he got upset and said that the confession kinda ruined a blissful moment. I’m so upset that my head feels so turbulent I didn’t even notice it was a blissful moment for him and could’ve been for me. I feel so awful. I haven’t slept in a day, I can’t stop crying. My bf is afraid that because this specific name keeps popping up, it might mean something and he feels less than sometimes because of it. I know I shouldn’t have confessed but I felt so safe that it was like a dam broke loose. I feel so awful. What’s worse is that I’m still scared it means something, I’m scared that my boyfriend’s fear is right. He’s very understanding of OCD and how it manifests in me and everything, I think I just kinda messed up a sacred moment and I feel so much guilt and confusion and just horrendous. I’m not even fully anxious. I don’t know what to do. I apologized a lot but I feel like I don’t deserve him and so selfish
My last post I talked about what I had done and how I ruined my relationship the best thing that has ever happened to me and me and my boyfriend have been working on it and fixing things this passed month and he just told me we are single yet committed to each other we are giving each other space so he can make sure he wants this I’ve ruined it in the passed month from everything happening u have been pushing acting as if everything is normal and not growing it’s my fault it’s all my fault I broke this I can’t do this right I love him with everything in me and I just wanted to make things right I’m sorry
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