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My boyfriend
Broke up with me today. I’m so sad… I just keep obsessing about what I did wrong, why he broke up with me. It’s horrible.. does anyone have any tips how to deal with this?
Broke up with me today. I’m so sad… I just keep obsessing about what I did wrong, why he broke up with me. It’s horrible.. does anyone have any tips how to deal with this?
I lost my boyfriend because of ocd, I obsessed and obsessed over what I could’ve done to fix it, your just hurting yourself by doing that you’re going to get through this and I won’t lie it’s going to be difficult at first but your strong and you can make it through this stay strong and remember you have a wonderful community of people here for you! If you need someone to talk to I’ll Listen!
Go no contact first. It doesnt have to be forever, but its a must so that you can heal properly. When you do no contact and let yourself feel emotions, you slowly come to terms with what you both could have done differently and learn from the relationship. Its okay to take time just to cry and feel your feelings, but also take breaks and yes, distract yourself with something fun to get your mind off it sometimes. I made a music playlist also all about self love, that helped a lot. sending hugs 💜
o also exercise. Any anger or hurt I had sometimes was all taken out on a treadmill lol
Sorry to hear that you both have gone through with this. :( Try not to ruminate on this because it could make things worse. I'm really sorry that happened
I broke up with a guy about three years ago and it was really hard, the heartbreak, the ocd all of it - It took about four months of me coping in unhealthy ways to realize that I wasn’t doing myself any favors - I decided to do something every day physically so that I could look back on the day and know I did something good for myself. I went on a walk. It made me get up and get outside and eventually I started wanting and doing other things for myself again like cooking and cleaning….. I kept people in my life that helped me and supported my journey and any guy I was talking to that I couldn’t see anything real with I let go - Something that really could have helped me quicker was finding a healthy way to cope and allowing myself to feel my emotions because I thought that if I had emotions towards him then I still wanted him or would do something awful….. Remember to feel and you’ll have days you won’t want to do anything at all for yourself but make sure you do something at least write down five things your body can do for you to give yourself some love and attention during this hard time…..
It hasn’t even been a week since my boyfriend broke up with me because of my OCD and depression cocktail. He said that the breakup wasn’t out of him not loving me anymore, but because he and his family had already dealt with very strong mental health issues in the past and that a) he couldn’t bear seeing me hurting all of the time and b) he wasn’t sure that he wanted to be “my nurse”. Then he said that I shouldn’t blame myself because depression and OCD are never anyone’s fault. I’ve tried to be very understanding: I do believe one has a right to decide what one wants in their partner. He doesn’t want a partner with mental health issues, I can understand that. I can also understand that these five months since my OCD made itself known have been very hard on him. But, I also feel so betrayed. He used to nitpick the word “love” so much and reflect on what it actually meant to love. He said loving someone was choosing to stay with them during the good times and the bad. This is absolutely the worst bad time in my entire life. And he said, and also said it to my mother, that he would stick with me through it all. Now five months later, he’s changed his mind. I don’t get how he can say he still loves me and abandon me when I most need love and support. If it’s not my fault like he says, why leave me? He said he still wants to be in my life—at a safe distance, where he can’t see all the ugly parts of what OCD and depression can do to a person. All of this makes me feel as if I wasn’t worth the effort of dealing with everything. Then that’s not love is it? I also feel very lonely as the only people that know about my OCD were him and my parents. He made himself into one of my biggest pillars of support, and shaped our lives so that he could always be with me. So we’re in the same classes, and although we share friends I’ve always felt that they entertained me because I was his girlfriend. As for my closer friends, I’ve felt that I was drifting apart from them and although I’ve furtively mentioned my problems with OCD to them, they either don’t care to ask or aren’t really sure how to talk to me. I feel so alone. And now my “number one supporter” has left, and it angers me very much. Especially because I’ve been the one to calm him down and give him hugs and explained what topics we saw in the class he missed the day after we broke up. I’m the one that convinced him to eat three cookies for dinner because he didn’t want to eat. And I’m the one that had to tell him that friends don’t wish each other a great night every night, like we used to do. It seemed like he wanted things to stay the same but without the relationship part of kissing and dealing with my panic attacks. It feels it’s kind of unfair because he’s not without issues and I didn’t judge him once and always tried to be there for him, and the single biggest issue I have ever had was too much for him. The vengeful part of me wants him to hurt as much as he hurt me. I hope he understands his decision has consequences and that he can’t be with me in the same way he was— especially now that I know that he leaves at my most critical, vulnerable moments. I’m writing this while mad. But I know later I’ll feel sad and more understanding and want to be friends with him again. And then I’ll get mad again. And so on. I know this is just a really tough situation however you look at it. But I’m still overwhelmed by the thought that if OCD had never struck, we might still be together. I also deserve some love and support 😔 Thank you if you read all the way till here. I’m sorry if it was a long read, but I’m very thankful. Nowadays it feels like NOCD is one of my remaining sources of support. I’m very grateful for everyone on here, I hope all of you have a great day and that it’s a victory against this accursed mental disorder
My bf and I just broke up and I haven’t felt this sort of heartbreak in a very long time. I’m crying all the time and can barely get out of bed. Idek what to do with myself and I’m terrified I’m going to relapse because of all the added stress. I think us breaking up was the right decision but it hurts so fucking bad idek what i should do anymore. I’m not normally the emotional type when it comes to situations like this either. Any advice?
My ocd is going crazy - I feel horrible and didn’t see this coming. I can’t stop crying please help
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