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My boyfriend
Broke up with me today. I’m so sad… I just keep obsessing about what I did wrong, why he broke up with me. It’s horrible.. does anyone have any tips how to deal with this?
Broke up with me today. I’m so sad… I just keep obsessing about what I did wrong, why he broke up with me. It’s horrible.. does anyone have any tips how to deal with this?
I lost my boyfriend because of ocd, I obsessed and obsessed over what I could’ve done to fix it, your just hurting yourself by doing that you’re going to get through this and I won’t lie it’s going to be difficult at first but your strong and you can make it through this stay strong and remember you have a wonderful community of people here for you! If you need someone to talk to I’ll Listen!
Go no contact first. It doesnt have to be forever, but its a must so that you can heal properly. When you do no contact and let yourself feel emotions, you slowly come to terms with what you both could have done differently and learn from the relationship. Its okay to take time just to cry and feel your feelings, but also take breaks and yes, distract yourself with something fun to get your mind off it sometimes. I made a music playlist also all about self love, that helped a lot. sending hugs 💜
o also exercise. Any anger or hurt I had sometimes was all taken out on a treadmill lol
Sorry to hear that you both have gone through with this. :( Try not to ruminate on this because it could make things worse. I'm really sorry that happened
I broke up with a guy about three years ago and it was really hard, the heartbreak, the ocd all of it - It took about four months of me coping in unhealthy ways to realize that I wasn’t doing myself any favors - I decided to do something every day physically so that I could look back on the day and know I did something good for myself. I went on a walk. It made me get up and get outside and eventually I started wanting and doing other things for myself again like cooking and cleaning….. I kept people in my life that helped me and supported my journey and any guy I was talking to that I couldn’t see anything real with I let go - Something that really could have helped me quicker was finding a healthy way to cope and allowing myself to feel my emotions because I thought that if I had emotions towards him then I still wanted him or would do something awful….. Remember to feel and you’ll have days you won’t want to do anything at all for yourself but make sure you do something at least write down five things your body can do for you to give yourself some love and attention during this hard time…..
:( so I have multiple posts abt this. I hate being alone bc the thoughts get worse and I spiral. I can’t believe he did this I love him a ton. My previous posts have more details, but yea. This feels impossible to get over. Pls can someone talk to me and help me? I have a therapist and friends and family and they’re amazing. But I’m annoying with how much I talk about the same situation over and over again. I’m not supposed to be seeking reassurance and sitting with the thoughts and work with them using erp. I’m trying SO SO hard. I’m just shocked I hate the nighttime when it’s radio silent. :( I feel like a loser
Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
Finally my partner decided to break up with me, and I feel totally empty. He wants an open relationship, which I can’t handle. Just feel broken inside 💔
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