Do you have any advice on how to not be too hard with myself? I mean how could I even like myself with having those thoughts and feelings. They come from my brain and cause me so much uncomfort and anxiety, how could I not hate myself for it?! I hate myself for my thoughts, for my feelings, for how I look.. But I'm reading everywhere you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. So any advice how to practice this? Thank you.
Just remember you didn't choose to have these thoughts, it's not your fault: if you had a physical disease, would you feel guilty for having it? Try to be more gentle and kind to yourself, like you would be with a friend of yours if he was strugglingš©· I understand it's difficult, I am always too critical towards myself too, especially when I'm out with my friends, I have the impression of always doing the wrong thing or acting weird because of my thoughts. Learning to deal with ocd is a hard challenge: we should recognize that and be grateful to ourselves for trying every day :)
I love what gre-gre said! Remind yourself that you deserve love, happiness, and to be in recovery no matter what your brain & OCD come up with. Self-compassion work has been helpful for me. It's not something we are taught as children, necessarily, so almost everyone is hard on themselves, but it doesn't do us any favours when it comes to mental illness recovery to best ourselves up. Kimberley Quinlan has great content on her site, Instagram, and her podcast. Her workbook for self-compassion has helped me too (https://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/self-compassion-workbook-for-ocd/) Dr. Kristin Neff also has self-compassion content for free on her website (self-compassion.org).
I echo what others have said on self-compassion. I would also say, make sure ruminating on these thoughts about yourself doesn't become a compulsion. I have had some horrible thoughts about myself thanks to OCD like being so disgusted with myself but I realised with the help of my therapist that for me these were OCD intrusive thoughts/emotions themselves, so I used response prevention to not engage with them. Just something to think about in case it's relevant.
I also did a nice meditation for self compassion recently, that was nice for general self care!
Hey everyone ā¤ļø I need some tips: When Iām feeling guilty and hate myself for my thoughts and things Iāve done in the past, what can I do to have compassion for myself, or like, self care tips for that? Thank you dears ā¤ļø
Yesterday i noticed the bad habbit in my family what made me suffer throughout my life. Im struggling with being kind and relating with love to myself, i dont say i hate myself, but i dont know what is actually loving yourself feels, or being kind. I always interpret it as a feeling, cause love is a feeling, but when im down i cant feel the love cause either im sad or im angry, and its impossible to feel love when you feel anger. So its been weeks now that something has slowly building up in me, and the last drop to it was when i was talking with my brother and he said i dont do nothing, i never do this i never do that, and this shit makes me angry cause no matter how many times you do something, one time you say no, you never did anything, you never helped them, that one time i didnt do something erases the other times i did it, and this happens alot of times in my family. Its always that i dont do nothing, i just lay in bed, yet i have i job, i have my own money and its been years that my parents doesnt have to give me any money, yet i dont do anything and i dont deserve any praise. Whats funny is that last week we bought a car and I paid almost half of the price of the car and i didnt even heard a "thank you" from my dad. But i heard today "you dont do anything" again. And when i tell them what i do, its always "this is normal this doesnt deserve praise". Yesterday was the time i realized that im not actually loved. Im only good if i do something really big, me having a job and having my own money is normal, i dont deserve love for that... it was so traumatizing, when i hit me that im not actually loved, and this made me so sad and since than it feels like im overreacted cause im keep spinning about it and i dont have alot of energy, it really stressed me out.i even thought about moving but im hesitant with it cause i dont have anyone to move with, i would live alone which is a bad idea. Loneliness would make things worse. But i think this is just an overreaction, not the sadness, but the thinking about moving and all that. And that i feel really bad for a long time now, its just makes me powerless, i know that this means i dont process these feelings in the right way. Im really grumpy and i dont want to talk with anyone, expecially with my family. Can you give me advicea what should help me go through this and not overreact it, just move through it soberly? Also i want to learn how to love myself, what it means and how to be kind with myself without cringing or feeling like im avoiding the problem, im just being nice with myself...
Hi all! I am trying to practice self compassion with myself as i suffer from ocd, ptsd and bpd and due to years of sa abuse and so on I have a very very negative self image of myself. Anyways, I realized I was avoiding talking to my nicely (compulsively if you will) and being actively proud of myself as it triggers a mean ocd thought about myself. E.g.: āi did really well today on xyzā ā> immediately my ocd says āsure but you are dirty and should feel guilty because you had sexual thoughts and enjoyed them about xyzā. I think you get the pointā¦ Do some of you experience the same ? How do you deal with it ? The same way as with other intrusive thoughts ? Let it pass and restrict compulsiions ? Thank you!!!
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