- Username
- AhFuckethThroaway
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Colorism ocd
I've developed a new obsession with skin tone and whether it affects my dating prospects. I'm a South Asian 19 year old girl in canada. I was on reddit on tinder insights and this 24 year old woman who I'd say was an average looking white woman! without any provocative pictures had a 50% message rate and a 60% match rate. I'm not sure what my match rate was but I know my message rate was around 30% from my 80 matches in three days. Hers was over a span of a much longer time than three days. Though I've remade and deleted my tinder profile and it hovers around 30%. Unless she was texting them first. Her pictures weren't sexually provocative and neither were mine. I've spent a lot of time obsessing over colorism. Stats show it doesn't seem to impact indian women very much so maybe I'm overthinking it? It's a really tiring obsession. It's a random chick on the internet. Though there was a black girls tinder insight where she had a lower match rate (consistent with statistics for black women since they face worse racism) but she also had a 50% text rate. Not sure why my text rate was so low. Maybe there's a stereotype of blondes being more promiscuous? Or does it have to do with my skin? Ugh I'm ruminating over colorism and whether this is the reason