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- 2y
need advice please :(
this is not OCD related but I am deeply struggling with this situation right now and could really use some insight š£ My parents, especially my mom, detest my bf of 4 years that I am living with. They have met him no more than maybe 3 or 4 times in our 4 years. My bf grew up poor. He is puerto rican and not jewish (my family is) and he really struggles with this feeling of being rejected due to his background. He hurts. They isolate him from family events putting me in a really uncomfortable position all the time. My mom speaks negatively about him to me, despite the countless boundaries I have set with her. Of course, their behavior breaks my heart for my bf and it angers me that they put me through this, but I do want to see my family. I love them and miss them (we live about a 5 hour drive away) and I donāt want to regret not spending time with them when itās too late. Another piece is that I am moving at the end of the month, my mom texted me at basically 3am this morning āplease donāt move and come live back home with kylie (my best friend) I feel like Iām never gonna see you again if you move.ā The guilt from either side is overwhelming and I feel like Iām squishing between two walls. has anybody else gone through something similar/ have any advice? Thanks š