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When I’m on a guilt trip about something minor someone will always walk past saying something about doing the right thing. Not always that exact thing but always something that makes me feel extra guilty. What I did was minor at worst and considering I have other false memories I don’t know that it actually happened. I gave £500 to charity to absolve my guilt which was far too much. I think I’m the one who has done the right thing and that preachers of perfectionism should be more considerate of OCD.

Mowgli

Date posted: 2y

How bout this. You could say to urself “I have ocd” “this is common in ocd” “this is what ocd does” for the rest of the day I will let myself enjoy it, not worry, but I’ll save an hour tomorrow when I can worry as much as I want, say between 2pm and 3pm, in the meantime fuck off ocd , I’m not listening, even if you carry on, I know what you’re doing…..

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 2y

@Mowgli I’m at that stage I think. I don’t fall for OCD’s tricks. The thoughts annoy me as much as anything.

Mowgli

Date posted: 2y

@Newb82 That’s great man, I answer back to ocd like a stroppy teenager (I call him frank) “whatever frank, I don’t care, and I don’t believe you”

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 2y

@Mowgli I offered this guy my inheritance. I had no diagnosis and no meds and I was in a psychiatric unit. If I had the money at the time I’d have given it to him. All the nurses told me “do not give that guy money” as did my best friend. I was in a state and I knew it so I did what I was told but gave some to charity so I couldn’t say I’d done nothing. I’ve made other smaller contributions since so I’m trying not to let it become a compulsion.

Mowgli

Date posted: 2y

@Newb82 Is this what you’re feeling bad about today?

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 2y

@Mowgli It will pass I suppose. In between days are fine and my meds work well but on the odd day I have a tizzy.

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

@Newb82 Sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like you are aware that feeling guilty about small things is your ocd talking. It’s unclear whether you fully have this insight for donating money. Sorry if I’ve already given you this before: https://www.shalanicely.com/aha-moments/erp-scripting-for-ocd/ for whether you did something bad, then for whether your will stay guilty if you don’t give money to make up for it

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 2y

@Erin P I have ADHD that is a lot of reading for me.

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

@Newb82 Sorry - basic concept is to think “maybe I did something wrong but maybe not” and accept the uncertainty of this instead of reassuring or doing a compulsion.

seagull2

Date posted: 2y

Social media can be very toxic for OCD sufferers. I'd know. I suffer from real event and scrupulosity OCD and posts about this sort of thing do not help. You have to be okay with not knowing. Exposure therapy is basically a must for any OCD theme, because you'll discover it's not even really the theme that matters but the mechanism underneath.

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 2y

@seagull2 I don’t even believe I did anything wrong anymore but I still have to watch the thoughts going round my head and put up with OCD telling me how my life will be bad if I don’t do the right thing.

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 2y

@seagull2 I feel as though I have to give someone money to make it right but if I do that we both know it will never end. I’m literally just sitting with it like I’m supposed to. Tbh it is getting more infrequent the more I sit with it and I feel less like a monster. I just have the occasional bad spell like rn.

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 2y

@seagull2 It has been 5 years since it happened.

seagull2

Date posted: 2y

@Newb82 Trust the process despite how OCD screams at you. It will feel so tempting but to give into compulsions but stay resilient, and the feeling will then eventually diminish.

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