Is anyone else sick of people invalidating mental illness? My husband and my parents keep telling me to be positive. My friends say to take walks. As if it were that easy. I feel like I am trying everything I can and I’m not getting better. I can’t just decide not to feel this way anymore, and comments like that don’t feel supportive. They only make me feel worse.
To be honest but the average person doesn’t understand to much beyond themselves and what their issues are . So in the end maybe just give them all the benefit of the doubt. Just do your best to be the best version of yourself.
@777Q I get that. It can just feel so isolating!
I started going to a celebrate recovery group at my church . It’s how I found out about this app . It’s been helping
It isn’t easy, but doing that stuff is helpful at the end of the day vs. not doing anything but give into your OCD constantly. Will one or two things completely change OCD? No, but you need to do MANY things constantly to get better and stay better.
@Nica This is so much work :/
@Anonymous Work on it and get better or not live a full and happy life? Those are the options. I absolutely will work on myself and fight for myself rather than the other option of defeat.
Figure this we can all help you on here to pull you up by the boot straps sorta speak . Hang in there 😊.
I completely understand. For people without OCD, they can’t actually conceptualize it so the most they can do is offer sympathy. It’s no one’s fault really, but I understand that it feels like they’re not taking it seriously enough on your end. If it helps, let them know some ways you’d like them to show you support. Also, give yourself some grace and self-compassion; recovering isn’t easy and you will encounter many challenges along the way, but as long as you’re trying your best and doing the right things consistently, then you will get through it with time ❤️
@blazed Thanks that really helps. Something that I run into is that I really do feel like I’m trying everything I’m supposed to do to the best of my ability. What’s hard for the people around me is to hold space for the helplessness I feel when I’m stuck in a spiral anyway. And I feel like my family doesn’t listen to my experiences because they label me as being mentally ill (which I am, but I can still describe what I’m feeling). I’m gonna keep trying anyway, of course.
@AnyaB Yes, we are mentally ill but we’re still people. If they’re dismissing your experiences like that then it’s best that you don’t actively rely on them for support. Seeing a therapist and going to support groups are the best ways to receive help and support with your OCD from people who understand what you’re going through. And you have this community behind you ofc, so you’re not alone in your journey.
@blazed Thanks 💜 you’re right it’s hard to understand if you don’t experience it
In this world everyone comes in alone and goes out alone by grasping this it provides strength to come from within yourself internally to help yourself. For example if someone else had a serious issue of whatever kind it would not really be fair for them to put that on you , they would be responsible for their own situation ultimately. People supporting each other is good to a point ,but shouldn’t be used as a crutch. This is just my personal opinion.
One fun thing about what I’ve experienced is that even if I go to people for reassurance, more often than not it doesn’t help and makes things worse. I see how from an outside perspective it looks like denial and the moment I open my mouth to talk about it the instant thought is “you’re faking it, you know it’s true and you’re faking it”. And it’s great when people say maybe you are this or that like it’s no big deal, …but it is? And then again it’s like maybe they see something I don’t?
Does anyone know of any rehabilitation centers for mental health? My ocd has gotten bad today to the point where I feel like leaving :( and desperately get help . Ever since I began medication months ago I been feeling fine but all sudden I feel like my episodes are rapidly coming back. I’m more responsive to them. I find myself ruminating more and engaging in compulsions. I feel embarrassed that my family would have to know if I considered making that choice of leaving . It’s never gotten to this breaking point , or at least I don’t think. I’ve been through this a billion times and each time it feels like it’s the worst and it’s gonna be the one that will permanently take over me and my full control. I’m from Elkhart, Indiana. Or if there’s anyone here that can talk to me I’d appreciate it I feel so alone right now and I’m more vulnerable because I’m home alone and I don’t have many friends. I’m scared that I’m gonna lose touch with myself. I don’t wanna lost my values or stop feeling my normal self. It feels real and scary. I want it to stop.
Tonight is one of the hardest nights I’ve ever had with harm ocd. It’s really one of those nights I’m doubting it’s ocd. I’m having panic attack after panic attack and it’s been the past couple of days where it’s been its highest. I’m doing everything I can to cope, like a hot shower (in the middle of a panic attack, hardest thing ever) skin care, turning my diffuser on and skincare. I took a klonopin but it hasn’t kicked in yet. My brain is beating me up with thoughts like “who thinks like this, you’re a serial killer! A murderer! You should be locked up!” Watching my family around me have peace and be normal is so hard because I’m here struggling to just lay down and relax. Part of me feels like I’m gonna lose my mind and end up in the hospital tonight. I just need positive reinforcement and people who can relate. Are you guys there?
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