Username: Anonymous444444

Date posted: 1y ago

What if our Real Event really is bad?

I know this is such a typical OCD thought, but I really feel mine is. Without going into too much detail feel like I basically SA'd my ex without meaning to and got away with it. I feel like I need to confess to everyone, including ny current gf, but I'm worried people will never look at me the same again. I'm trying so hard with ERP but I feel like I'm just using it to avoid confronting what I've done. I feel like I'm going to get cancelled or thrown in jail and my life is going to fall apart. I feel so guilty and sorry. I want to be a good person.

Real Events OCD

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

From what I know, the fact that you are so concerned with being a good person already means that you are. Bad people don’t worry about being a good person or not.

Username: Anonymous444444Anonymous444444

Date posted: 1y ago

Yeah I at least take comfort in knowing I've learned and grown and would never do anything like that again, but I just feel like I haven't faced the consequences. My gf was SA'd and I feel like she'd be devastated

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I also know that OCD is a liar.

Username: Vee14Vee14

Date posted: 1y ago

I always get scared that I’m gonna say the wrong thing so if I do, please forgive me. But the fact that you acknowledge what you did was wrong is a very big step. I know you’re worried and this is so much easier said than done, but maybe you do need to face your consequences. Start off with your girlfriend tell her the truth because that’s the closest person to you and maybe who knows she can guide you in the right direction. This hits personally because my ex used to SA me all the time and I never got an apology. And maybe your ex girlfriend is going through a lot of things, and who knows that might be the first step to help her get over her own trauma. if you simply do nothing about it all it’s gonna do is consume your life and continue to take control. I have a hard time of sitting on things for a long time and then it consumes me and I’m tired of living that way and I’m pretty sure you are too. Maybe you don’t need to talk to your ex girlfriend directly maybe you could write her a letter that could help. But I think the world needs to start healing each other, and may be an apology wouldn’t be so bad. I hope you get through this.

Username: Anonymous444444Anonymous444444

Date posted: 1y ago

Could I maybe explain the situation to you to see if what I did warrants this?

Username: Anonymous444444Anonymous444444

Date posted: 1y ago

I'm scared my gf may never look at me the same way again too, and maybe even leave me, which I suppose is selfish of me :(

Username: anxiousmessanxiousmess

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

real event ocd can be so hard and scary so i am sorry. i agree with the comments above that since you are that concerned with being a good person that means you are. confessing is a compulsion. try to sit with this discomfort. my ocd made me obsess over cheating on my now ex literally 5 years ago and there were things he never knew and i wanted to confess so bad but i sat with the discomfort. it will pass just sit with it.

Username: anxiousmessanxiousmess

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous literally haven’t spoken to my ex in 3 years but was obsessing over this when my ocd started and wanted to confess to him. i would confess to my friends for reassurance and it would only me temporarily. if you confess you are feeding the ocd. try to sit it out!

Username: anxiousmessanxiousmess

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous help me temporarily*

Username: Anonymous444444Anonymous444444

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous I actually tried to tell my gf today now but she like, wouldn't let me, said the fact that I'd already discussed it with others means she'd just be giving me reassurance. I just feel like she doesn't realize how bad it is

Username: anxiousmessanxiousmess

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Igraine she even knows confessing won’t help. it makes everything worse

Username: Anonymous444444Anonymous444444

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous I know it's cheesy but she really is my rock. I just worry she would think differently if she knew what I want to confess

Username: anxiousmessanxiousmess

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Igraine so sweet. ocd will attack your values/what you love

Username: BigGyro09BigGyro09

Date posted: 1y ago

I also have an event focusing on SA. Can't get over it and I don't know how ERP is gonna help me through it.

Username: anxiousmessanxiousmess

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@BigGip09 ocd is a doubt disorder and is making you doubt that the ERP will work

Username: BigGyro09BigGyro09

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous I hope that it's all the ocd

Username: anxiousmessanxiousmess

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@BigGip09 no need to hope! it is OCD

Username: Ocdislame

Date posted: 2y ago

Can real event ocd, or ocd in general make you feel bad for something you did that was actually wrong? I keep thinking about things I’ve done in the past that are defiantly wrong and shitty things. But I’ve never really thought of them before. I knew they were terrible things, and I’ve not gone back since. Maybe 10+ years ago (when I was 19-21). I thought real event ocd was your brain taking things that are trivial and twisting them to make you seem bad. In these cases I’ve grown as a person l, I’m really not proud of myself and hope to never go back to that place. Is this ocd, or am I suddenly just feeling remorse for being a terrible person? I just feel the need to confess to my wife again, even though she knows most of it.

Username: River 2367

Date posted: 2y ago

Real Event OCD or not?

How can you tell if you're experiencing real event ocd or you are feeling justified guilt for doing something bad. What I did is something that everyone would consider very bad. Is it still OCD? This is making me miserable.

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 39w ago

Real event ocd

I’m sorry to ask, but I need support from someone with this particular subtype or who has dealt with real even around past mistakes. I’ve done a lot of things wrong and advice from my therapist is to not confess. Confessing is my compulsion, but some are really big mistakes from my younger years. How do you handle the feelings of guilt and shame without confessing? Have you ever confessed and were met with harsh judgement? I’m scared I’ll lose my will or desire to live just sitting with this guilt.

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