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- 6y
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If you’re unaroused by men and don’t like thinking about them sexually, you’re likely not gay. However, many people who suffer from SOOCD actually do experience what’s called a “groinal response” in which their bodies do simulate arousal. I don’t want others out here dealing with that to be triggered by your post and think that their OCD isn’t real because they have in fact do feel urges and sensations similar to arousal. OCD is tricky all around. People suffer in a variety of ways.
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- 6y
Yeah your therapist is very wrong for ocd. A lot of people get groinal responses and feel like they "like" the thoughts so I would not go to that therapist. You need a therapist who specializes in ERP
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- 6y
Your original post was advising people to listen to their bodies, which doesn’t really work with OCD. In fact, body checking is a major compulsion that people really struggle to resist. And our bodies give us false feedback all the time, particularly under scrutiny. I just wanted to clarify in the comments in case anyone with SOOCD read it and thought that their physical responses were therefore meaningful, which they aren’t. Hope your relapse ends soon. Good luck ?
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- 6y
Iv been 5 years it has its ups and down . My wife to be helps me threw it and she knows I'm strait because she claims we have the best sex ever. And even my anxiety tells me I'm looseing my erection and she said absolutely not . You are right the brain is tricky its powerful and if you have a thought and it bothers you it's because its usally not you. Alot of people have these thought and it dont bother them because they dont have OCD. Actully 75 % of the population have these thoughts. Keep your head up and be strong
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- 6y
Thats why i say when you like it if you got aroused, groinal responses are very normal if you are sexually obsessed people, just started medication again Since i relapsed very severly, one day it will be better again
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- 6y
Yeah guys im in treatment by behavorial therapy and sexuologist, i have also a bad developed sexuality apparantly, every person is different, and there is no general set of rules to overcome this type of SOOCD, everyone has to deal with it on his/her own way, i wish everyone the best of luck, and apologies for the potential confusion, one day I will be fine again
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- 24w
Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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- 16w
I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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- 15w
This shit has to be one of the most confusing subtypes of ocd because no matter what you will never find clarity. When it started it wasn’t as bad and confusing because it was mostly anxiety. But when it started getting physical that’s when it got extremely confusing because I feel tension and fear when thinking of gay stuff but while testing I get arousal sensations so the big question is “if I am afraid of it how can my body respond as if I’m into it and if I’m into it how does my body respond with fear as if I’m not” and it’s endless. I wish I never started testing my arousal so I never started getting groinals to gay stuff in the first place. But there’s no going back now.
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