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- 5y ago
- Date posted
- 5y ago
If you’re unaroused by men and don’t like thinking about them sexually, you’re likely not gay. However, many people who suffer from SOOCD actually do experience what’s called a “groinal response” in which their bodies do simulate arousal. I don’t want others out here dealing with that to be triggered by your post and think that their OCD isn’t real because they have in fact do feel urges and sensations similar to arousal. OCD is tricky all around. People suffer in a variety of ways.
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- 5y ago
Yeah your therapist is very wrong for ocd. A lot of people get groinal responses and feel like they "like" the thoughts so I would not go to that therapist. You need a therapist who specializes in ERP
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- 5y ago
Your original post was advising people to listen to their bodies, which doesn’t really work with OCD. In fact, body checking is a major compulsion that people really struggle to resist. And our bodies give us false feedback all the time, particularly under scrutiny. I just wanted to clarify in the comments in case anyone with SOOCD read it and thought that their physical responses were therefore meaningful, which they aren’t. Hope your relapse ends soon. Good luck ?
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- 5y ago
Iv been 5 years it has its ups and down . My wife to be helps me threw it and she knows I'm strait because she claims we have the best sex ever. And even my anxiety tells me I'm looseing my erection and she said absolutely not . You are right the brain is tricky its powerful and if you have a thought and it bothers you it's because its usally not you. Alot of people have these thought and it dont bother them because they dont have OCD. Actully 75 % of the population have these thoughts. Keep your head up and be strong
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- 5y ago
Thats why i say when you like it if you got aroused, groinal responses are very normal if you are sexually obsessed people, just started medication again Since i relapsed very severly, one day it will be better again
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- 5y ago
Yeah guys im in treatment by behavorial therapy and sexuologist, i have also a bad developed sexuality apparantly, every person is different, and there is no general set of rules to overcome this type of SOOCD, everyone has to deal with it on his/her own way, i wish everyone the best of luck, and apologies for the potential confusion, one day I will be fine again
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- 14w ago
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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- 10w ago
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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- 9w ago
I keep getting these groinal responses when I think about kids or see one and it's really distressing, I only just learned that OCD can make you feel that and it's not actually attraction but it's so hard to remember that and I've seen people talking about accepting uncertainty but I'm so scared to think "maybe it's attraction maybe it's not" instead of "no it's not attraction that's disgusting" and idk what to do
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