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- 5y ago
- Date posted
- 5y ago
If you’re unaroused by men and don’t like thinking about them sexually, you’re likely not gay. However, many people who suffer from SOOCD actually do experience what’s called a “groinal response” in which their bodies do simulate arousal. I don’t want others out here dealing with that to be triggered by your post and think that their OCD isn’t real because they have in fact do feel urges and sensations similar to arousal. OCD is tricky all around. People suffer in a variety of ways.
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- 5y ago
Yeah your therapist is very wrong for ocd. A lot of people get groinal responses and feel like they "like" the thoughts so I would not go to that therapist. You need a therapist who specializes in ERP
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- 5y ago
Your original post was advising people to listen to their bodies, which doesn’t really work with OCD. In fact, body checking is a major compulsion that people really struggle to resist. And our bodies give us false feedback all the time, particularly under scrutiny. I just wanted to clarify in the comments in case anyone with SOOCD read it and thought that their physical responses were therefore meaningful, which they aren’t. Hope your relapse ends soon. Good luck ?
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- 5y ago
Iv been 5 years it has its ups and down . My wife to be helps me threw it and she knows I'm strait because she claims we have the best sex ever. And even my anxiety tells me I'm looseing my erection and she said absolutely not . You are right the brain is tricky its powerful and if you have a thought and it bothers you it's because its usally not you. Alot of people have these thought and it dont bother them because they dont have OCD. Actully 75 % of the population have these thoughts. Keep your head up and be strong
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- 5y ago
Thats why i say when you like it if you got aroused, groinal responses are very normal if you are sexually obsessed people, just started medication again Since i relapsed very severly, one day it will be better again
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- 5y ago
Yeah guys im in treatment by behavorial therapy and sexuologist, i have also a bad developed sexuality apparantly, every person is different, and there is no general set of rules to overcome this type of SOOCD, everyone has to deal with it on his/her own way, i wish everyone the best of luck, and apologies for the potential confusion, one day I will be fine again
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- 18w ago
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- 11w ago
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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- 7w ago
So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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