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If you’re unaroused by men and don’t like thinking about them sexually, you’re likely not gay. However, many people who suffer from SOOCD actually do experience what’s called a “groinal response” in which their bodies do simulate arousal. I don’t want others out here dealing with that to be triggered by your post and think that their OCD isn’t real because they have in fact do feel urges and sensations similar to arousal. OCD is tricky all around. People suffer in a variety of ways.
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Yeah your therapist is very wrong for ocd. A lot of people get groinal responses and feel like they "like" the thoughts so I would not go to that therapist. You need a therapist who specializes in ERP
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Your original post was advising people to listen to their bodies, which doesn’t really work with OCD. In fact, body checking is a major compulsion that people really struggle to resist. And our bodies give us false feedback all the time, particularly under scrutiny. I just wanted to clarify in the comments in case anyone with SOOCD read it and thought that their physical responses were therefore meaningful, which they aren’t. Hope your relapse ends soon. Good luck ?
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Iv been 5 years it has its ups and down . My wife to be helps me threw it and she knows I'm strait because she claims we have the best sex ever. And even my anxiety tells me I'm looseing my erection and she said absolutely not . You are right the brain is tricky its powerful and if you have a thought and it bothers you it's because its usally not you. Alot of people have these thought and it dont bother them because they dont have OCD. Actully 75 % of the population have these thoughts. Keep your head up and be strong
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Thats why i say when you like it if you got aroused, groinal responses are very normal if you are sexually obsessed people, just started medication again Since i relapsed very severly, one day it will be better again
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Yeah guys im in treatment by behavorial therapy and sexuologist, i have also a bad developed sexuality apparantly, every person is different, and there is no general set of rules to overcome this type of SOOCD, everyone has to deal with it on his/her own way, i wish everyone the best of luck, and apologies for the potential confusion, one day I will be fine again
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So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.
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- 19w
Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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