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- Shabax
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 5y ago
If you’re unaroused by men and don’t like thinking about them sexually, you’re likely not gay. However, many people who suffer from SOOCD actually do experience what’s called a “groinal response” in which their bodies do simulate arousal. I don’t want others out here dealing with that to be triggered by your post and think that their OCD isn’t real because they have in fact do feel urges and sensations similar to arousal. OCD is tricky all around. People suffer in a variety of ways.
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- analyze2wellanalyze2well
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yeah your therapist is very wrong for ocd. A lot of people get groinal responses and feel like they "like" the thoughts so I would not go to that therapist. You need a therapist who specializes in ERP
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- pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Your original post was advising people to listen to their bodies, which doesn’t really work with OCD. In fact, body checking is a major compulsion that people really struggle to resist. And our bodies give us false feedback all the time, particularly under scrutiny. I just wanted to clarify in the comments in case anyone with SOOCD read it and thought that their physical responses were therefore meaningful, which they aren’t. Hope your relapse ends soon. Good luck ?
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- dspdsp
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Iv been 5 years it has its ups and down . My wife to be helps me threw it and she knows I'm strait because she claims we have the best sex ever. And even my anxiety tells me I'm looseing my erection and she said absolutely not . You are right the brain is tricky its powerful and if you have a thought and it bothers you it's because its usally not you. Alot of people have these thought and it dont bother them because they dont have OCD. Actully 75 % of the population have these thoughts. Keep your head up and be strong
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- ShabaxShabax
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Thats why i say when you like it if you got aroused, groinal responses are very normal if you are sexually obsessed people, just started medication again Since i relapsed very severly, one day it will be better again
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- ShabaxShabax
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yeah guys im in treatment by behavorial therapy and sexuologist, i have also a bad developed sexuality apparantly, every person is different, and there is no general set of rules to overcome this type of SOOCD, everyone has to deal with it on his/her own way, i wish everyone the best of luck, and apologies for the potential confusion, one day I will be fine again
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- anotherocd123
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Okay so I have been struggling with HOCD for so fucking long. I never felt like I had crushes on boys growing up but I wasn’t attracted to girls either (this was through 5th grade). Until 6th grade hit. I remember it like it was yesterday. I had the thought walking up the stairs and it was “You’re lesbian.” And ever since that thought was there and I fought it I have been dealing with all types of OCD ever since (been going on for 7 years). And only this year I found it was OCD. But it’s hard because I don’t know if I’m actually gay or I convinced myself I’m gay because I gave up and gave in. Now whenever I see I pretty girl I feel tingling. And I wanted to prove to myself that I wasn’t a lesbian so I look up pretty pictures of girls with their boobs out and I loved it. And I wanna make out with a girl so intensely. But then at the same I don’t wanna be in a relationship with a girl and I wanna marry a guy and I just desperately wanted to be like by a guy. But I get so horny whenever girls are in bikinis and stuff. But I have OCD and I’m so confused.
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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hi All, I (22F) have been suffering from HOCD for the past three months. I am engaged to the man I want to be with. However, I can't kick OCD. I was recently aroused when looking at a model in lingerie. The lingerie was objectively sexy and I briefly thought about how she was posing for a man with her breasts out. Likewise, I thought about how sexy it would be if I wore that. But, now I'm terrified. If I can get these responses from the female body-not the male body-that must surely mean something. Likewise, I have trouble orgasming during sex and I don't always love making out. But, I really don't think I'm a lesbian? Long story short, I need help getting over this. I'm in college and I can barely study. All I do is worry. I can't even enjoy my engagement at this rate because I'm convinced I'm in denial. This sexual arousal gives me incredible amounts of anxiety, especially considering I have been turned on by stuff like this in the past. If anyone has any helpful words, please let me know. I am not seeking reassurance, but I felt this backstory was necessary to explain why this fear has been so potent. There may be some real attraction here, which terrifies me. I don't know what to do. I want to enjoy life and improve sex with my fiance but I'm feeling hopeless. If anyone has any words of advice, it would be deeply appreciated.
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- Aileen Gemmell
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I don’t know what to do anymore.
Hi just for reference, I’m a girl, I’m almost 17 and I’ve been boy crazy for pretty much all my life. I- I don’t even know what to think anymore, I identify as straight and enjoy thinking about men sexually and emotionally, but I can also masterbate to women weirdly enough? I’ve been diagnosed with pure ocd and I have no desire to have any sexual or emotional relationships with women in real life, and I’ve had hocd for over a year now, but I can masterbate to weird things sometimes and I know I’m not supposed to but I compulsively search things up very often and from what I’ve found most people would say that it would mean that I’m bi. The idea of being bi or gay has made me hyperventilate and cry god knows how many times, at this point I wouldn’t even be angry if I was bi or gay but I know that I’m not. My head keeps telling me that since I can masterbate to gay thoughts or lesbian thoughts sometimes that it means that I’m not straight even though I have no desire to do anything even remotely close to that in real life. This is one of my worst themes of ocd so far as compared to other people who have hocd they don’t get turned on or finish thinking about these things and I do but I don’t identify as bi or gay. I just, I don’t know what to do anymore? I was hoping someone on here goes through the same thing? And I’d really rather not hear that it’s just me denying it, I have a few people I talk to and occasionally when I bring it up they just say I’m in denial so I really don’t know what to do anymore.
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