Ariesgirl94
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- 2y
Unfair
It’s unfair that people say stuff like “ just don’t think about it” , “don’t worry “ , “ don’t be anxious”
erika.alexxerika.alexx
- Date posted
- 2y
they really don't understand at all
Ariesgirl94Ariesgirl94
- Date posted
- 2y
@Erika-Alexx They really don’t. It’s frustrating bc I feel like no one understands me or friends think I’m being annoying
erika.alexxerika.alexx
- Date posted
- 2y
@Monii0294 my friends have a hard time with me as well and they make fun of me. I just try to remember that they don't understand. It definitely hurts sometimes though
Emma34Emma34
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- 2y
My cousin actually laughed when I told him I had OCD. They don’t see it as anything really.
777Q777Q
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- 2y
The average person doesn’t care to understand about too much beyond their immediate own personal issues and dramas . No one is responsible to know anything about OCD or any other issues if they don’t care to know that is their prerogative nothing unfair about it . When they give a generic unhelpful response that really is the best you can hope for in many situations.
erika.alexxerika.alexx
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- 2y
@777Q A lot of people like to give unsolicited advice like that, without me even asking as well.
777Q777Q
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- 2y
I understand and very true . For me personally when I try to be sensitive and at least make a reasonable effort to say something that is maybe minimally helpful or say nothing. I find many people on here are like that also in a positive manner being sensitive and helpful to others . But the general population at large unfortunately that is a different story ☹️
777Q777Q
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- 2y
A excellent free mental health resource on You Tube is Mark Freeman , he has many helpful videos and a free long video on Brain Tech Live on You Tube , that one comes on about every two weeks and runs 1 to 2 hours each time 😊.
astronomitzastronomitz
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- 2y
Agree. It hurts the heart to hear those things.. sometimes the anxiety they mean is different from the anxiety we experience
Ariesgirl94Ariesgirl94
- Date posted
- 2y
@astronomitz Yeah. Totally agree. ALSOO like “ my ocd is kicking in “ first off it it’s always there.. it’s a whole different experience
Anonymous!33Anonymous!33
- Date posted
- 2y
My fiancé doesn’t understand and I know he loves me but lately he tells me to focus on the good things in my life. I get so frustrated with him because I know I have wonderful things in my life but it’s not that easy. He has no idea how much I wish I could focus on the good things right now. But here I am laying in bed at 3:30am drenched in sweat with crippling anxiety. People don’t get it unless they have lived through this. And I wouldn’t wish this on anyone because it’s literally like you punish yourself every single day.
erika.alexxerika.alexx
- Date posted
- 2y
@Anonymous!33 I'm sorry, I understand I live through it too. My friends always try to tell me about the law of attraction and they don't understand that I can't control my thoughts so that just makes it worse
Anonymous!33Anonymous!33
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- 2y
@Erika-Alexx - I’m so sorry. I get so upset when people say that because then I automatically assume my thoughts are going to bring bad things into my life. I feel so alone majority of the time so this group is honestly such a relief to me. My anxiety is so bad and nothing can calm me down. My fiancé doesn’t get it and I can tell I’m starting to stress him out and freak him out. I can’t help it.
erika.alexxerika.alexx
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- 2y
@Anonymous!33 Yeah, it's really hard for others to understand when they don't live inside our heads. I love interacting with people on here and attending groups because I feel so understood and it gets me out of feeling alone. It is really hard but we are all going through this together and we will get better ❤️🩹
Anonymous!33Anonymous!33
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- 2y
@Erika-Alexx - I sure hope so. I have two sons and one of them is only 15 months old. I feel so much guilt because I feel like they deserve a better mom. These thoughts and anxiety I experience make me feel so helpless and angry. I was doing well with my OCD and I could talk myself down and learn to cope and be okay but now all of a sudden I’m experiencing panic and stress all over again. I know it’s time to see another therapist but I don’t have good medical insurance.
erika.alexxerika.alexx
- Date posted
- 2y
@Anonymous!33 I didn't think NOCD would be covered by my insurance at all but it actually covers a lot. Just look around and go on iocdf.com and you can find ocd specialists
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