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Your brain is hung up on wanting certainty/familiarity about how bodies look or feel, but it’s the focus on it that is creating/amplifying the uncertainty in the first place. If you weren’t thinking about it so much, the thought would simply be a passing one. Humans do look weird! And theoretically bodies could have evolved in any other number of ways in nature but they evolved the way they did. And now we have them at this stage. It’s okay that life seems random and unexplainable and absurd sometimes. Because it is! But the more you try to figure out why, the more absurd it’s going to seem. The spiral will just go and go and go. Accept that bodies are weird and that you can’t quite explain why that is. Rather than going down deeper into the spiral (hands are weird, and feet are weird, and that person looks weird, etc) stop and sit with that anxiety. Say to yourself “yeah, it is weird. Oh well.” And then refocus on something else. Let the anxiety naturally dissipate.
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Hey I also have been through this. Both responding with fear to my own body, e.g “what the hell are my hands doing here?!”, and to other people “since when have I been a human being?!”. I have found that combining ERP at home but also in public spaces to be very effective. At home I might stare in a mirror or look at my hands. Also flicking through photo albums or Facebook profiles also gets the triggers going. So I just keep doing that till my brain gets bored. Likewise, sitting at a cafe or some other public space and just watching people discretely has been really useful. The occasional small talk with the cafe owner or whatever also doesn’t hurt to increase the triggers a little more.
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And there’s probably nothing you can do or think to make yourself feel 100% certain that won’t happen. But you can stop trying to figure out a solution that doesn’t exist and choose to live your life taking that risk instead.
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Thank you so much
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I needed this
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@oggyshooy thank you so much . I feel like I’m losing my mind a little . But this really helped to know that this might just be ocd and I really appreciate it
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Not “might”... “is”! 100% no doubt about it. I understand first hand how difficult it is to believe that sometimes. The most paradoxical thing is that if you don’t want to be bothered by these thoughts, you must allow yourself to just believe it is true and accept it... practice that over and over again in dedicated ERP sessions and try to gradually implement those skills also in your day to day life (eg in cafes and so on) Good luck and do not lose hope!! It is 100% in your power to get through it and you know the therapies that will get you there... just go and practice!
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It’s just a scary makes me feel like oneday I’ll be afraid of humans all together or like start hurting people
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Thank you ?
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I feel so ridiculous saying this. Has anyone struggled with looking down a people’s private areas since having ocd. I hate it, but feel I have to look or find myself just looking. I feel so guilty after and especially when it’s a women I kinda shudder after like why did I just do that. Ugh I hate this. I never used to have this issue but now I’m focusing on it my anxiety is going crazy with it . If people have experienced, how did you get over this??? My sexual orientation is thriving off this . I hate it
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Hi everyone, I have been struggling with something for a while and I am starting to wonder if it is related to OCD. For as long as I can remember, I have had this habit of looking at people, whether friends, family, or strangers and even kids, through a lens that feels like it is from the perspective of someone who might find them attractive or sexualize them. I don’t want to feel attracted; it just feels like my brain automatically puts them in that perspective. I’ve done this for as long as I can remember, and I honestly thought it was just part of me being curious or creative. I have always thought this was just a quirk of my brain, but now I am starting to wonder if it is an OCD thing, especially since it feels automatic and I get anxious afterward. Has anyone else experienced this? I did not think this was part of OCD, but now I am not so sure.
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Hey everyone, I just wanted to share something I’ve been struggling with, especially around making decisions. It’s really hard for me to feel confident in the choices I make, even when I know what the right thing is. I constantly find myself needing validation from others—whether it’s about something small or something really important. For example, at my job, I might know exactly what I’m doing and have done it right a bunch of times, but I still feel the need to double-check with someone or ask if it’s okay. It’s like this fear kicks in, and I start imagining worst-case scenarios—like what if I mess up and someone gets hurt, and then I get blamed or even end up in jail or prison. I know that sounds extreme, but these thoughts just come automatically, and they feel so real in the moment. This has been going on for maybe a year or two now. Even outside of work, the same thing happens. Like recently, I’ve been trying to figure out a gym schedule—my girlfriend wants to go with me, and I’m trying to plan the times and make it all work. But instead of just choosing what works best for me, I overthink it. I go back and forth in my head, and I ask other people what they think, even though deep down I know this is something I should be deciding for myself. It’s my life, but I still need that reassurance from others, and I don’t really know why. It’s exhausting to always doubt myself and to feel like one wrong choice could lead to something terrible. I’m trying to work through it, but I just wanted to put it out there and see if anyone else deals with this or has advice. Thanks for reading.
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