i just shared one of my intrusive thoughts with my mom for the first time. she looks at me, crying, and goes “that’s not normal, that’s not right, you need to get help” and now my anxiety is through the roof and i’m so stressed out. how donyou deal with this?
She just doesn’t understand, it’s not your fault. If someone doesn’t hasn’t experienced something they can’t relate. It’s hard for people like us to explain ourselves and how our brains are working.
Show her a video on OCD intrusive thoughts, it’s easier for ppl to hear from professionals/doctors when describing the very thoughts she feels aren’t normal and she may realize it happens to a lot more ppl than she realizes.
I agree. That's what I am going to do with my husband. Although he understands more than your mom. Dear, the thoughts and feelings are unusual, but definitely occur to a lot of people who are completely normal, except for having the disorder. There is something not "normal" with every single person alive including your mom and my.... (you choose), but most of them aren't aware of it. Ocd sufferers don't have a choice not to be aware of it, because Ocd is very vocal, it yells it is narcissistic and wants to be the cente of one's world. I hope your mom will understand. Mine didn't. Well she didn't even give a damn to look into it. That goes for all my family. They abused me. Not sexually. They ignored me, insulted, backstabbed,... you name it. So it's been way over 20 years since our last contact. I didn't even know what was going on with me. Now it's better. Maybe you could ask your mom to join NOCD and read the community posts. She will see you are not alone. There are millions of us. And we are totally normal except for the anxiety and debilitating fear. Good luck from the bottom of my heart. I am sending you as much support I have wished over the years for myself but didn't get. Anytime, I am here for you and your mom. 🤗🍀🍀🍀
It’s difficult at first.. I’ve had ever ocd mental compulsion. For instance I have seen a bird and thought a snake will bite it, or looked at my car and said I will crash it, or that I’ve seen someone I love and said they will cheat on me,, just what? Like the last thing I wanted to think! That’s what I would think and then boom boom boom on repeat endlessly. So at first oh my god I cringed I was ashamed I was freaked out I was scared out of my mind . I couldn’t tell anyone I was afraid to look at people I mean it was just horrible. The first reprieve came when I realized, that the opposite or worst thought was obsessively or compulsively coming to mind and the more I brought it into focus the more it happened.. but DONT FEEL ASHAMED. It’s a thought not an action I won’t drive off the road I won’t get angry at someone, etc etc etc Second reprieve came when I was able to accept the thoughts were a bit of a malfunction and that being ashamed of it was only making it greater.. I began to feel calmer and let the idea appear and disappear. This took months and still doesn’t always happen right away. It can take time or times but is a slight mercy that adds up over time. I began to stop focusing on it as I realized it was less to be ashamed of the power of it died and I was able to say no I’m not participating A bit redundant but unique Then I was able to (even though I might flinch) look at people and talk to them that I had previously been afraid of, and I found nice things happening as a result. Again it still happened.. slowly my exposures made me very patient and calm and stronger to endure hard moments like hotness. And I began to find myself not being affected and or even saying and being able to choose “I don’t need this right now” or “I am not getting into this right now” Also see the above message where I explained how I write and it helps
@love01 The other topic I wrote about managing the problem is called “ocd is killing me”. I hope these responses help I can’t stress enough diet exercise sleep and meditation. But in the previous post I also wrote about medication
my mom is so upset with me because i don't want to share my intrusive thoughts. I had talked a little to her but she deduced that the thoughts were about wanting to kill someone or kill me. but it is far beyond that. and she is very sad that i don't want to share, HOW am i going to share if my intrusive thoughts involve rape? and she asked if it was about sexual orientation (she's homophobic) i laughed because it wasn't. in a few minutes this will get worse for me. I don't want to talk to her, I want to talk to some therapist.
Hi everyone, I decided to join this app because I believe I need more support when it comes to being open about intrusive thoughts and how scary it can be to share them. Yesterday I had a therapy appointment and I decided to open up with her about a recent panic attack I had that followed with intrusive thoughts. I rarely experience them now or can mitigate the anxiety that comes from them because I am on medication, but I thought I wouldn’t be judged and felt comfortable opening up about them to my therapist. Following after that, she began to ask mandated reporter questions and I became scared because she seemed to think I would act on the thoughts I’ve had. So despite me opening up with her about them I feel like I can no longer share because people who have never experienced them think i would act on the intrusive thoughts, when in reality I know I would never and have avoided people, places, and things because of them. Intrusive thoughts are debilitating and cause people to question who they are and go into complete panic! And I guess I’m just frustrated because though there are people who understand it’s still very weird for others and it just saddens me.
i did a compulsion by googling something because of a conversation i was having with a bunch of friends. i really need help, Because of this googling i did it triggered me by remembering my real event (what i googled recommend me other searches and it was something that reminded me of it) im still trying to get over and move on because im told its not a big deal by ny parents and my counselor but god its a big deal to me- Can i talk to someone about this? Should i? I talked to my mom about the first half of what im feeling but not the second-I know this post is vague af but im just scared atm. im having really ugly thoughts about harming myself and just ending things-
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