Brooklyn_99
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- Date posted
- 2y
THIS
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Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
Hi love , I need some advice
Brooklyn_99Brooklyn_99
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- Date posted
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@1234ocdisabitch How can I help?
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
@Brooklyn_99 It’s realtionship wise , so my boyfriend was trying to get my dog off the bed and he pulled him by the tail(not so harsh) and got him off right . But I got defensive and screamed at him and he’s like “I don’t care , shut up” and fell asleep .
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
But now I see him as such an evil perosn
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
Person*
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
Like yes he shouldn’t have pulled my dog from the tail , BUT I let him know not to do it again.
Brooklyn_99Brooklyn_99
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- Date posted
- 2y
@1234ocdisabitch He was probably just frustrated and annoyed. He knows how you feel so he won’t do that again. He was just a little too rough with the doggo. But that doesn’t make him a bad person or an abusive pet owner. Just breathe in and out. Don’t let the scenario stay on repeat in your mind. It was a simple mistake. Move forward in grace and forgiveness.
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
But it feels like now I should obsess over it and stay stuck . This is how I feel after an argument also .
Brooklyn_99Brooklyn_99
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
@1234ocdisabitch Nope. You don’t need to obsess over the past. Take deep breaths and refocus. Even if you constantly have to catch yourself ruminating. Keep changing your focus. It’s okay to let go. It is safe to let go.
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
I’m trying but , I remember that he’s smacked my dog a couple times before not like harsh just a smack u know on the side of his thigh ? When he’s annoyed . Which u don’t think is good , he hasn’t smacked him since 2 weeks go because I had a talk with him ! Which is great but today made me feel bad ..
Brooklyn_99Brooklyn_99
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
@1234ocdisabitch People smack their pets all the time. I don’t see it as a problem cause they’re not beating the pet up. Just corrective action. Maybe speak with him again tomorrow and remind him how it makes you feel and going forward if the dog needs to be disciplined, that you will be the one to do it.
Leo1000Leo1000
- Date posted
- 2y
@Brooklyn_99 Sounds good !! Thank you so much for your time 🤍🤍
NODANODA
- Date posted
- 2y
No1. Hitting an animal, a house pet especially, is NEVER acceptable!!!!!!!! It doesn't matter how hard it is. Nor is pulling any of their body parts!!!! No2. You are the dog's "ovner", you decide. Whatever he is doing is upsetting you, it means he is doing sth not acceptable and not good for the dog. No3. Your ocd might make you more prone to ruminating and having trouble to let go of pleasant and upsetting situations, but in this case it, it is basic human empathy and not ocd that is alarming you. Listen to it! Even if it were ocd, ocd would be right in this case. No4. Talk to him. With respect, but firmly. Teach him how to treat the dog when the dog annoys him. Show him how you do it, show him videos on YouTube,... do whatever it takes for him to understand that this was the very LAST time he hit or mistreat your DOG. Make sure he understands that you mean it and understands that. I am animal rights activist. I have saved many animals. (cats, dogs, birds, farm animals...) I am also a long time ethical vegan. Believe me, it doesn't matter if a lot of people occasionally hit the dog, kick the dog, pull its tail,... and it doesn't matter how hard or not hard..... IT IS NOT OK! 5. Will he hit your kids one day as well just because the child will behave as a child and annoy him? How about you? Will that be OK? I might be exaggerating a bit here about hitting your children or you, but..... do not let him hit anybody, a human, animal,..... He probably is a good person who doesn't know better. Teach him!!!! If he doesn't learn, there are millions of kind, sensitive, sensible, loving guys out there. You need to set limits. I am sorry if this feels too strong. I am not attacking you or your boyfriend. I just feel angry that people do things like that. No matter how hard. Love to all of you.
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