Can anyone relate.... I get so worried sometimes (currently happening to me right now) that my boyfriend isn’t into me anymore. That he doesn’t enjoy our sex. That he doesn’t think I’m funny. That he doesn’t think I’m attractive. That he can’t see a future with me. That we’ve just outgrown each other. And I worry about it so freaking much that it’s like I go out of my way to LOOK for reasons that might signify that he’s not into me anymore.

That is OCD combined with anxiety and probably low self esteem. Try not to analyze and ruminate. I know how you feel since I literally panic if he sends me a text without a smiley face. It's just that we (people with OCD and anxiety) tend to overanalyze, overthink and catastrophize. We always think the worst will happen. It takes practice to stop that kind od mindset, it's not easy, but with time you learn to calm yourself down. If he acts weird I try to tell myself that maybe ha had a bad day, maybe he's tired, maybe his boss pissed him off, I try to create other types of scenarios in my head, not only focus on the worst one. And maybe he does act weird or different, but in most cases people like us tend to overreact and create a problem when there is none.

Thank you ?♥️ I’ve been struggling for a whole week now with insane anxiety and OCD and I don’t even really feel like myself right now. This whole past week we’ve had some random little tiffs, so my anxiety is making everything 100000 times worse. And then my OCD has me continually wanted to check with him to see if everything is okay. And I know it’s so annoying to be asked that over and over again. So I try to hold it back and not think about it. But I literally feel so insane and insecure.

You're welcome :) ❤ Yes, that checking is also typical for anxiety, I do that too. A lot less than before but I also was calling him like 5-6 times a day without any reason just to check if everything is okay. Then when he answered the phone I literally analyzed the tone of his voice and if his tone was a bit "colder" I would immidiately think he doesn't love me anymore and that he will leave me. That fear was so bad that at one point I couldn't go a day without seeing him just that I could see if he's acting normal. Now I see it's all about self esteem. Cause every catastrophic scenario my mind created was false. If you love yourself you wouldn't continously be afraid people will leave you. When you have low self esteem you can't accept someone loves you and you just wait when they will leave and you can't feel relaxed and safe. Try to reduce catastrophic thinking and work on self love. That way you will see that he has million of reasons to love you and to stay with you and you will feel a lot safer. People who are confident think like that, and I think of the normal ones, not narcissists and arogant people. Confident people think "Of course my partner wants to be with me, I'm a good person. I'm not perfect, but of course I'm worthy of his love." Self esteem, self acceptance and self love is EVERYTHING :)

You don’t know how much I needed to hear that. Thank you

I'm more than glad that it helped you ?