Blumenkohl1
- Date posted
- 2y
Intrusive feelings
How intense/real can intrusive feelings get? Because I feel like false attraction feels way more intense than my normal attractions have ever felt and that worries me a lot..
schocalischocali
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
You have also conditioned your body to feel false attraction by checking for it at the sight of a trigger, this makes the feeling grow in intensity as well.
Blumenkohl1Blumenkohl1
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- 2y
@Yourmindislyingtoyou Can even the sight of the trigger cause instant false attraction? Without a thought? Or with a subconscious thought?
schocalischocali
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
@Blumenkohl1 Yes absolutely! I have POCD and struggle with this as well. The longer that compulsion happens, the more automatic and without thought it becomes and then starts to feels “real” instead of “compulsive” which is not fair, but it is always compulsion whether you did it automatically or Thought about it first!
Blumenkohl1Blumenkohl1
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- 2y
@Yourmindislyingtoyou Thank you! It’s so scary because it feels so real and right now its so hard to distinguish ocd from reality🙃
schocalischocali
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@Blumenkohl1 OCD is OCD You are you
Blumenkohl1Blumenkohl1
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- 2y
@Yourmindislyingtoyou I will try to remember that! Thank you:)
kasibulkasibul
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- Date posted
- 2y
It can feel very intense. It’s because the false attraction causes anxiety and that is a real and intense feeling (even tho the actual trigger is not dangerous)
Blumenkohl1Blumenkohl1
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- 2y
@kasibul Thank you for replying! Can the fear also feel like mental attraction? Or like an impulsive image with a sort of urge/attraction to it?
kasibulkasibul
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
@Blumenkohl1 I think you’re asking for reassurance, but generally speaking, everyone can feel anything at any time, it doesn’t have to mean anything. It’s grey sky outside here but kind of warm. Some people wear a jumper, some wear a jumper and a jacket, some just a t-shirt. None of them is right or wrong.
Blumenkohl1Blumenkohl1
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- 2y
@kasibul Okay, thats true you’re right🥲
schocalischocali
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
Intrusive thoughts and feelings are not fact, they are not good or bad - they just happen. It doesn’t mean anything that they happen. And most importantly they don’t say anything about your character. That’s OCD and OCD is OCD. You are your morals and values. The fact that you care mean you are a good person. Hold strong, ride the wave of bad feelings. Look up grounding skills, TIPP skills (for distress - kinda like break the glass in case of emergency skills), and mindfulness skills to deal with the bad feelings. Guided meditation and breathing exercise are really really helpful. You got this!
Blumenkohl1Blumenkohl1
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- 2y
@Yourmindislyingtoyou Thank you so much! I will try my best. I will also hopefully start ERP soon
schocalischocali
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
@Blumenkohl1 I’m also pre-ERP, I hope you start soon!🤞🤞🤞
Blumenkohl1Blumenkohl1
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- 2y
@Yourmindislyingtoyou Thanks! I hope you do too!:)
ocd_junkieocd_junkie
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- 2y
the more the fear is validated, the more reaction will happen. this is what OCD strives for. it wants you afraid and ready to run every moment of every day. i experience the same things as you! there’s hope for us. have you started ERP?
Blumenkohl1Blumenkohl1
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- 2y
@ocd_junkie Thank you! The scary part for me is, that even when I’m in a somewhat calm state, I still experience these feelings and sometimes it feels so automatic and fast that I can barley react to it.. no I haven’t started yet unfortunately, I’m still deciding wether I should try to find a therapist in my city or if I should do it over nocd but my insurance won’t cover that🙃 what about you?
ocd_junkieocd_junkie
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- 2y
@Blumenkohl1 i recommend searching for specialists on IOCDF’s website here: https://iocdf.org/find-help/ you can find providers near you, and you can check their page to see if they take your insurance. personally, i haven’t started ERP because, when i tried to kill myself last month, the doctors said i wasn’t stable enough for exposure therapy. i have to see a trauma specialist too before i start ERP. it’s gonna be a loooooooong process
Blumenkohl1Blumenkohl1
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- 2y
@ocd_junkie Thank you so much for the recommendation! Im so sorry :( I hope you are doing better! And remember that this is gonna bring healing for you and you are gonna get better! I’m so sure of that. Im gonna keep you in my prayers💚
ocd_junkieocd_junkie
- Date posted
- 2y
@Blumenkohl1 i really appreciate that, thank you so much. i hope for the best in your recovery, hang in there!
Noodles123Noodles123
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- 2y
@Blumenkohl1 Hi I have felt the exact same so many times!! You are not alone!
Blumenkohl1Blumenkohl1
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- 2y
@Noodles123 Thank you so much for responding! How do you deal with it? I’m so anxious that the feelings and thoughts are real
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