I need help (social anxiety and low self esteem)

I am feeling so shitty right now… I am literally dealing with so many mental issues it’s making me hate the way I am and it’s messing with my head. I need to know I am not alone, I need to hear that someone feels similar. I am such a sensitive/nervous person I hate it SO MUCH. I dealt with Harm OCD for so long, and I’ve always been a loner, but now that I am finally getting to meet more people, my low self esteem, social anxiety and even emetophobia are getting on the way. Whenever I hang out with new people I haven’t met for that long, I get extremely nervous, shaky, sweaty, red, my voice cracks, my lips tremble, and I even struggle to eat. This is messing so bad with my self esteem, (that was low on its own), that I feel embarrased and uncomfortable around people all of the time. I hate this. I just wanna be happy and I haven’t been able to in such a long time. I am always dealing with so much I can’t take it.

Username: FJustRightOCDFJustRightOCD

Date posted: 1y ago

This is relatable. I have bad OCD and social anxiety (among other issues), and my OCD hyper focuses now on me having social anxiety, which may also be happening to you. (My OCD hyper focuses on it somatically). Also, see if part of your observations about how your social interactions go are also being magnified by Just Right OCD. Or even if Just Right OCD is part of what exacerbates it. I’m always hyperfocused on not socializing well with enough, and it feeds the cycle of my anxiety about social interactions. A few things: Working on these things take time, but working on these things: work! With ERP therapy, working on self compassion, AND cognitive distortions (look them up if you haven’t already), etc. All these things can have a relationship with confidence vs. insecurity. Are you in therapy with NOCD? If so, attend the therapy groups. That’s good practice for socializing. Make gratitude lists, work on finding things you feel good about about yourself. And … I straight up tell people I’m feeling anxious. It helps make space for some Grace. And most people can empathize. My friends who genuinely value me as a human don’t judge me, know I’m working on things, and they themselves (like most anyone) have their own insecurities and things to work on. Hang in there! Cut yourself some slack! Sometimes focusing less on our perceived flaws of character helps us save energy to spend on working on those “flaws” we want to improve

Username: dealingwithocddealingwithocd

Date posted: 1y ago

@MeowMix I appreciate you sharing this with me! could you please give me an example on how does your OCD hyper focuses on you having social anxiety? I am so glad you have friends who support you and everything, so much love xx

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

The truth is that you’re not alone but that’s not what’s going to make you feel better. I think you’re classifying yourself with forms of OCD and mental health issues that may not even exist. Being nervous and shaky in social situations is normal. You need to know why you have a hard time in social situations. What is it that you’re afraid of? Their perception of you? The way you speak? The way you smell? Being good in social situations is learned through practice. You’re not bad in these situations because of any mental health issue, it’s because you haven’t had the experience to perfect it. Do you still get shaky in front of your best friend? Because once upon a time they were a stranger too. You will be fine. Let your guard down and let people see who you really are and Fuck em if they don’t like it.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Also, I don’t want you to think I’m downplaying any mental health issues you may be dealing with. I have a TON myself and that’s why I’m here. I just know you can blast past this through practice and knowing that you’re not controlled by your OCD and Anxieties

Username: dealingwithocddealingwithocd

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous @Anonymous Hey sorry for the late reply, I wanna thank you for taking your time to comment. But I don’t get it, you said “you’re not bad in these situations because of any mental health issue”? and then u said you are not displaying any mental issues I might have hahah. But only to clarify, I do have OCD, I was diagnosed two years ago, and I am now dealing with a phobia and social anxiety.

Username: soap_soapsoap_soap

Date posted: 1y ago

Your not a loser and many of us who struggle with anxiety and ocd go through the same thing but I would really recommend therapy and if you can’t do that watch videos on why this is happening to you and how you can get over this because it seems and feels like you have no choice and your stuck and you feel alone and guilty and such low self worth and your scared of yourself but every single person no matter how bad there life or mental health is has the choice and it’s proven that this is something you can overcome and get through this might sound corny but the only way to get down from something is to get up and keep going it’s gonna hurt and feel super hard but your a lot stronger then you think and your a way better person then what your anxiety and ocd makes it seem. Also being alone isn’t always bad it can be peaceful and you can learn so much good things about yourself and learn so much. sorry this is a long paragraph but I hope this helps you a little bit

Username: dealingwithocddealingwithocd

Date posted: 1y ago

@soap_soap Aw thank you so much for your words, I really appreciate it, I will get therapy for this, tysm.

Username: Survivor ❤️

Date posted: 4y ago

I definitely feel like I have a rare form of OCD. I am so uncomfortable talking about it , but I feel like I should get it out , I need to get it out . My compulsions are avoiding looking at people , eating food . Not wanting to cook, not wanting to go out, not wanting to be alone with people. But I obviously still do these things. But best believe I don’t want to ... I don’t know what to think anymore , like it feels like when I look myself in the eyes I don’t recognize myself ... I don’t find ANYTHING interesting anymore. Because literally everything that I do I still have thoughts ... i feel like I have a serious case , and when I think about death for me , it makes me feel like I’ll be set free from this mental distress. But I don’t want to die , I want to enjoy my life. But I don’t and feel like I can’t enjoy my life feeling like I’m going to attack someone all the time . Feeling like I’ll lose my mind all the time . I hate this for my bf and my family and my kids , they don’t deserve this . Feeling like I don’t love ANYONE, not even myself , not even my baby in my stomach. I can’t think see my future anymore ... like I used to be able to , I wanted my job , and I wanted to be this healthy amazing mother and wife one day but now I just don’t see it anymore , and then in my head it tells me is it because I want to kill people and or animals? And eat them? Please no judging , so yes I said eat them.. it feels sick to me. I had not been wanting to eat , and my head was telling me it’s because I want to eat people . Wow it sounds so weird typing that . There is soooo much more to my weird thoughts , like I was feeling like I had been doing okay not to long ago , and then it came back to me felt wayyyy stronger.. I know this sounds so ignorant but my sister had told me that she had ate her poop before , and tasted her pee, and now I am thinking I will try poop ... i hate seeing poop because I think I will just pick it up and eat it. I wish I could write this alllll out but it’s to much . I do wanna say one thing that has been bothering me a lot. When people are having problems it’s like I don’t care and I just think kill them , I don’t like when people talk about other people because I had this thought that if you don’t like someone and they are causing you problems then you wanna hurt them . I’m scared of my thoughts and I’m scared I’ll blurt out my thoughts ... please no one feel sorry for me . I hate that , I hate feeling sorry for myself . I want to talk to someone about ALL my problems . I need a Therapy but absolutely terrified:(

Username: Thatguy72626

Date posted: 1y ago

I need help!!!

Hey everyone, I’m really struggling right now. Here’s a little backstory. I’ve had extreme OCD since I was 10. I’m 18 now and for the last year I’ve had crippling health anxiety. The first 6-months of my health anxiety was all physical health related like heart attack’s, cancer, tumors, ect. I probably went to the emergencies 10 times and I had 14 EKGS done, 3 Ct scans and a mri. I would go to the er because I was convinced I was having a heart attack at 18. Eventually I got over my physical health anxiety and haven’t been to the emergencies in 6 months. Sadly things have been much, much worse. Now my worries are purely mental health related. I switch between schizophrenia, bipolar and borderline personality disorder, and Dissociative Identity Disorder. Ive been sure that I have every one of these at one point or another. Some nights I’ll be sure I have schizophrenia or someone nights I’ll be worried about bi polar. I was prescribed lexapro a year ago but can never get myself to take it for more that a week. I’m suffering so bad, whenever I try to take medicine I get convinced I’m in mania and end up stopping the medicine. I want to take the medicine, but I get so scared that I’ll go into mania and loose my job and my girlfriend.But I need medicine, I spend hours at night researching mental health conditions. But I’m also a health freak and am into dieting and exercising and I try to tell myself that supplements and a large dose of cbd oil will do the trick that lexapro does. I’ve laid down on my floor convinced that I’m going to go into phycosis. l started experiencing dissociation, which made me start worrying I have DID. Im in a constant cycle of pain. I just want to feel better again. I can’t even go to to public highschool anymore. My senior year was ruined by my ocd. Every day I wake up fully convinced I will go insane. Deep down I know I won’t but I just can’t stop thinking it. Im begging for anyone to give me advice, or atleast for someone to talk to about it. My insta is Triston_keifer if anyone can give me some advice.

"Pure" OCD

Username: silversmith

Date posted: 37w ago

OCD and social anxiety

does anyone here suffer from both ocd and social anxiety? my ocd has been getting worse and i’ve recently realized that i also have social anxiety in new groups of people. my anxiety is so intense it drives me crazy. i wasn’t always like this. when i was a kid i used to be very confident and had a lot of friends. i always subconsciously shame myself for feeling this way and even though my ocd just let go of the last theme it had, my social anxiety has been making me even more miserable. social anxiety just seems to be such a loser disorder like «ooh i’m insecure and anxious and i’m afraid people will judge me» it makes me hate myself and i haven’t felt this way in a long time

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