I need help (social anxiety and low self esteem)

This is relatable. I have bad OCD and social anxiety (among other issues), and my OCD hyper focuses now on me having social anxiety, which may also be happening to you. (My OCD hyper focuses on it somatically). Also, see if part of your observations about how your social interactions go are also being magnified by Just Right OCD. Or even if Just Right OCD is part of what exacerbates it. I’m always hyperfocused on not socializing well with enough, and it feeds the cycle of my anxiety about social interactions. A few things: Working on these things take time, but working on these things: work! With ERP therapy, working on self compassion, AND cognitive distortions (look them up if you haven’t already), etc. All these things can have a relationship with confidence vs. insecurity. Are you in therapy with NOCD? If so, attend the therapy groups. That’s good practice for socializing. Make gratitude lists, work on finding things you feel good about about yourself. And … I straight up tell people I’m feeling anxious. It helps make space for some Grace. And most people can empathize. My friends who genuinely value me as a human don’t judge me, know I’m working on things, and they themselves (like most anyone) have their own insecurities and things to work on. Hang in there! Cut yourself some slack! Sometimes focusing less on our perceived flaws of character helps us save energy to spend on working on those “flaws” we want to improve

The truth is that you’re not alone but that’s not what’s going to make you feel better. I think you’re classifying yourself with forms of OCD and mental health issues that may not even exist. Being nervous and shaky in social situations is normal. You need to know why you have a hard time in social situations. What is it that you’re afraid of? Their perception of you? The way you speak? The way you smell? Being good in social situations is learned through practice. You’re not bad in these situations because of any mental health issue, it’s because you haven’t had the experience to perfect it. Do you still get shaky in front of your best friend? Because once upon a time they were a stranger too. You will be fine. Let your guard down and let people see who you really are and Fuck em if they don’t like it.

Your not a loser and many of us who struggle with anxiety and ocd go through the same thing but I would really recommend therapy and if you can’t do that watch videos on why this is happening to you and how you can get over this because it seems and feels like you have no choice and your stuck and you feel alone and guilty and such low self worth and your scared of yourself but every single person no matter how bad there life or mental health is has the choice and it’s proven that this is something you can overcome and get through this might sound corny but the only way to get down from something is to get up and keep going it’s gonna hurt and feel super hard but your a lot stronger then you think and your a way better person then what your anxiety and ocd makes it seem. Also being alone isn’t always bad it can be peaceful and you can learn so much good things about yourself and learn so much. sorry this is a long paragraph but I hope this helps you a little bit