colepasc
- Date posted
- 6y
pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 6y
You should ask him to clean up after, including the stove. Wait until he hasn’t cleaned it, just in case he does on his own. But it’s perfectly reasonable to ask him to pick up after himself and leave the kitchen as clean as he found it. If cleaning is a strong compulsion for you though, resisting picking up after him, even for just the night or a few hours would be some good exposure practice for you.
djsognaldjsognal
- Date posted
- 6y
When he doesn't clean, talk to him about it. I'm sure you have before, but the only way to ever get it dealt with is to talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel.
djsognaldjsognal
- Date posted
- 6y
Also where did you get that dope avatar lol
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
I shared your same feelings when I lived with my parents. No matter how many times I cleaned that damn kitchen, it would get destroyed and I’d have to do it again. I’d ask, some politely, sometimes not because if frustration, stress, and anxiety, for my family to clean up. They never did. What I learned from all that, besides that I do better when I live alone, is that you cannot change people. You can only ask them to make adjustments and explain your side. I hope it gets better, especially the stress and anxiety.
jotomenzjotomenz
- Date posted
- 6y
Exposure practice! (After a rational conversation with him.) Unless you sense its irrational..
djsognaldjsognal
- Date posted
- 6y
Good point from pureolife. If he doesn't clean and you do it for him, he's never going to do it on hid own.
colepasccolepasc
- Date posted
- 6y
I understand letting it go but it would drive me crazy knowing that kitchen is a mess, I stress thinking someone might come over and see a mess and a nessy anything is a reflection of me.
djsognaldjsognal
- Date posted
- 6y
That's a compulsion though! ♥
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