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I understand your struggle. I’ve been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now and I am constantly evaluating our relationship. Is she right for me? Is there someone better? Should we break up? I found that most of that thinking happens when I’m not with her. I enjoy my time with her and so a lot of the time, I’m not thinking about it then. Best way I get through it is to remind myself of that when my rocd is acting up and try and distinguish that from my reality.
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- 6y
I know deep in my heart if I broke up it would destroy me and her were best friends as well as lovers .... I challenged myself to do it when it came to it I couldn't I know once the anxiety settles the intrusive thoughts dont spike as much just been bad with it for last 8 weeks now and its tiring me out fighting it daily but I keep telling myself I'm fighting it for a reason that's the reality
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Do you have an OCD specialist nearby you can work with? Without learning to cope with ocd in general, our minds tend to theme hop a lot. We can get over one but another will immediately pop up. I would recommend not breaking up with your gf! It sounds like you love her a lot and your ROCD is simply attacking what matters most. Remember that the flip side of every theme is a value: you value your relationship, so your ocd is using that care against you.
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Mines alot worse when not with her been put today just me and my daughter felt spiked all day got home to my woman and couldn't do anything but kiss and hug her and felt safe again if that makes sense
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It does make sense. I’ve had those days too. I know it feels like the hardest thing in the world, but try and trust yourself. Wish I had more advice for you.
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- 21w
I’ve been really struggling with Relationship OCD since I got married, and 3 years later, I’m afraid I’ve lost the love of my life. Between the Relationship OCD, the Religious OCD, and the Sexuality OCD, she couldn’t handle it anymore. Now that she left, the fog of doubt has faded, and I’m realizing how much I truly loved her all along. I just don’t understand how our minds can play such sabotaging tricks on us. And why? I don’t know what to do. I hope and pray we eventually get back together, but I know I need help. I want to do whatever I can to return to a place where she can feel loved by me, the way she did before ROCD took over. Is anyone here going through something similar? Has anyone overcome ROCD? Were you able to repair your relationship? I’d really appreciate any insight or advice. Thank you.
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Themes constantly switching. I’ve been suffering with real event ocd the last year and am currently in therapy treating it. it’s nowhere near as bad as it was last year and it’s felt like a nice break. there’s days where it gets bad but i can’t compare it to the stress of last year. However i’ve noticed every time i overcome a theme a new one hits me out of nowhere. i’ve suffered with ocd since i was 9, and ive had multiple themes. i’m in a 2 year relationship with my partner and it’s amazing. she’s probably my second proper relationship due to the fact my first relationship gave me so much fear to get into another one as i was cheated on, and needed a few years to get over that. i kind of guessed that ROCD would creep in at some point as it just felt inevitable. anyways, i know my partner is not cheating on me, she’s beyond loyal, we are so so in love but i think due to that first relationship i had, being cheated on really messed with my head. it’s like my brain is telling me my partner has someone else even though i know in my heart nothings going on, and i trust her with my life. i also think because im in the happiest relationship of my life, anything that would indicate loosing her makes me feel sick and riddled with anxiety. and i know that’s completely normal for everyone. i think the most frustrating thing is, is knowing that my OCD has finally crept into my relationship which is something i never wanted it to do. this is a brand new theme and i have no idea how to treat this. i will speak to my therapist but if anyone has been through this theme and any advice in the meantime i would really appreciate it :).
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I just got out of a 4 year relationship that ended around the beginning of February. In the beginning of the 4 year relationship I had intrusive thoughts about the way I was behaving around my partner, this went on for a few months not knowing what it was or that it was ROCD. I remember it was bad and did not want to deal with what I was feeling. I defeated it and was ok for the first 3 years after that. But it just made me feel like I wasn’t being my true, authentic , funny self I wanted to be for my partner. It was horrible. Now I’m in a new relationship that has been awesome as far as the beginning goes but now I’m back to that intrusive thought and ROCD. Irs to the point where I feel like I can’t be myself and I’m not happy or excited about anything anymore I’m constantly stressed out thinking about it.
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