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I understand your struggle. I’ve been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now and I am constantly evaluating our relationship. Is she right for me? Is there someone better? Should we break up? I found that most of that thinking happens when I’m not with her. I enjoy my time with her and so a lot of the time, I’m not thinking about it then. Best way I get through it is to remind myself of that when my rocd is acting up and try and distinguish that from my reality.
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- 5y ago
I know deep in my heart if I broke up it would destroy me and her were best friends as well as lovers .... I challenged myself to do it when it came to it I couldn't I know once the anxiety settles the intrusive thoughts dont spike as much just been bad with it for last 8 weeks now and its tiring me out fighting it daily but I keep telling myself I'm fighting it for a reason that's the reality
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- 5y ago
Do you have an OCD specialist nearby you can work with? Without learning to cope with ocd in general, our minds tend to theme hop a lot. We can get over one but another will immediately pop up. I would recommend not breaking up with your gf! It sounds like you love her a lot and your ROCD is simply attacking what matters most. Remember that the flip side of every theme is a value: you value your relationship, so your ocd is using that care against you.
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Mines alot worse when not with her been put today just me and my daughter felt spiked all day got home to my woman and couldn't do anything but kiss and hug her and felt safe again if that makes sense
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- 5y ago
It does make sense. I’ve had those days too. I know it feels like the hardest thing in the world, but try and trust yourself. Wish I had more advice for you.
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