- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I understand your struggle. I’ve been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now and I am constantly evaluating our relationship. Is she right for me? Is there someone better? Should we break up? I found that most of that thinking happens when I’m not with her. I enjoy my time with her and so a lot of the time, I’m not thinking about it then. Best way I get through it is to remind myself of that when my rocd is acting up and try and distinguish that from my reality.
I know deep in my heart if I broke up it would destroy me and her were best friends as well as lovers .... I challenged myself to do it when it came to it I couldn't I know once the anxiety settles the intrusive thoughts dont spike as much just been bad with it for last 8 weeks now and its tiring me out fighting it daily but I keep telling myself I'm fighting it for a reason that's the reality
Do you have an OCD specialist nearby you can work with? Without learning to cope with ocd in general, our minds tend to theme hop a lot. We can get over one but another will immediately pop up. I would recommend not breaking up with your gf! It sounds like you love her a lot and your ROCD is simply attacking what matters most. Remember that the flip side of every theme is a value: you value your relationship, so your ocd is using that care against you.
Mines alot worse when not with her been put today just me and my daughter felt spiked all day got home to my woman and couldn't do anything but kiss and hug her and felt safe again if that makes sense
It does make sense. I’ve had those days too. I know it feels like the hardest thing in the world, but try and trust yourself. Wish I had more advice for you.
Does anyone with ROCD, POCD and Sexual Orientation OCD (HOCD) ever fear they will never be in a stable marriage or a relationship in general due to their fears or because their OCD may ruin it? My biggest fear is that I will never be in a stable, committed or a normal relationship due to this horrible disorder.
HOCD, ROCD and TOCD . . . So my OCD recently all began with ROCD, I felt guilty all the time with my boyfriend, I wanted to stay with him so bad and I love him so much but my anxiety kept telling me to leave and that something wasn't right, that I'm going to be alone forever. Then my HOCD came up, "something doesn't seem right, what if you're actually gay?" and I struggled with this for about 2-3 months. After accepting that even if I am gay, I'm staying with my boyfriend.. The theme of being a transgender came up. That was the absolute worst of them all. It was at a time my anxiety was at its Peak so I was feeling disassociated and my mind just tried to explain that feeling as "you're in the wrong body". I was thoroughly convinced I was a man in a girls body for a solid 3 weeks, I woke up and that was the first thing on my mind "your a man and now youre going to lose your boyfriend, your life and everything that makes you, you." I didn't want to be a man, but my mind was saying "too bad, you are". I eventually went to therapy for this feeling, (they didn't diagnose me with OCD so they weren't treating me as an OCD patient) the thoughts eventually went away but now I'm back on my HOCD. Ive now thorougly convinced myself that I'm gay and will be with a woman for the rest of my life. I don't want to be and this thought scares me. I want to be with my boyfriend, not a woman. But my mind is saying "too bad, just accept that your a lesbian, you're in denial, just come out" but I don't want to be a lesbian ? can anyone relate to the feeling of convincing yourself to the point where you believe it?
Hi guys! I believe I have an OCD since I was around 12. I remember then I had a lot of intrusive thoughts about religious things and I had a counting compulsion (I thought that If I don't count to 8 in specific moments, someone gets hurt) During later years it was really changing - I stopped being religious, so the OCD theme also stopped. Then I had I reckon SOCD, harm OCD and many others. But for know my main topic is ROCD. But because of the fact that this is my main intrusive thoughts topic I start to have this awful thoughts that this is not OCD, I'm just with the wrong person and I need to accept this fact. This is really struggling for me, because i really love my bf and Im in the healthy realtionship but Im so tired of having this kind of thoughts, sometimes I cannot sleep because of them. Also the fact that I've never been diagnosed (I cannot go on theraphy right now unfortunately) is another trigger because I have thoughts that I dont really have OCD, I just making this up, because I cannot accept the truth. Is there someone with similar experiance? Or maybe someone who can have advice for me?
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