Any words of wisdom after you are ghosted by ur bf

Need to vent. So my boyfriend who I was dating for a few months decided to ghost me out of nowhere instead of just break up with me. Haven’t heard from him in over a week and he’s been posting IG stories so I unfriended him and assume that’s just his immature way of saying he lost interest. I’m 29 I’m too old for this shit and even though he was a little younger he seemed mature/like a different person when we first got together. I know that means it’s for the best this happened sooner than later but it still hurts :( any positive insight or advice would be appreciated🥺

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. As hard as it can be to wrap your head around, please remember that this has to do with him so much more than it has to do with you. You do not want to continue a relationship with someone who lacks basic communication skills. If he had respect for you, he would talk to you about any concerns or whatever is going on. You deserve so much more respect. I know its especially hard thinking about how much you trusted this person at one point and how much they showed to be mature or a different person at some point. He has now shown you who he is and you don't deserve it. Now its time for you to move on. Your feelings and reactions to this are all valid. block him, delete anything from your phone that may remind you of him, pics, messages, etc. and allow yourself time to grieve. then allow yourself to move on. he is fucked up and you deserve better.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

if you feel like you need closure, that can be ok and if u can get it cool. but what I've learned, especially as someone whos always felt like they need "closure", is that ultimately we have to be able to give ourselves closure. Offer yourself the validation you deserve. All the love, affection, and validation that you seek from others and from relationships live within you, you just have to seek the comfort and love within yourself to give yourself all of that. wish you the best<3

ReadyForImpr...

Date posted: 1y ago

I'm sorry that happened... I went through that in October (at 40, so I hear you when you say we are too old to have to deal with that) and it was awful. Letting yourself feel however you're feeling when you are reminded of it is really helpful. Allowinf feelings to be there and move through helps you move on. At the same time, watch for rumination and interrupt it if you catch yourself doing that. I agree with the other Anonymous - it was disrespectful to you. It doesn't mean anything about you. I hope you'll find someone who will care about you and respect your time.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

@ReadyForImprovement Thank you I’ve been doing a lot better😊

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Thank you 🥺💕

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Meditation and yoga has helped so much

aza holmes

Date posted: 23w ago

Love

I’m confused. I think I’ve gotten progressively more boy crazy and more of a hopeless romantic, but I’ve completely manipulated myself into thinking that boys just don’t like me and I think it’s a fact. In the past, I was confused and lost on what my sexuality was so I would be in a lot of “flirty” friendships thinking that I genuinely liked my female friends I had these friendships with but that was far from the truth. I can’t imagine myself being with a woman but for some reason it’s just easier for me to talk and flirt with them. I have trauma involving why I brainwashed myself into thinking that I’m a magnet that repels boys from me and I still think that and it’s ruining my brain. (I have a crush on this guy and texted him for the first time, he never replied!!!) which honestly proves my point even more. Am I right or is just all in my head? Some advice please!!

maysha17

Date posted: 21w ago

Real event stopping me from having a relationship

I’m at a loss.. me and my ex girlfriend of 5 years (subject of the real event) broke up a couple months ago. The problem is, we met at work when I was 19 and she was 17. We started flirting while I was 19 and she was 17 and then I turned 20 as we were going on dates while she was still 17. We started our relationship while she was 17.5 and I had just turned 20. There was a whole 6 month period while there was this age gap and now I feel as though if any new partner I have in the future finds out, they will be disgusted and leave/reject me. I don’t know what to do. I feel as though my future is ruined and that I will never find true love again due to this age gap thing. I’m 25 now and would not date anyone younger than 22 so I know im into the appropriate age range for my age, yet I’m so shameful and guilt ridden..

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 10w ago

I could really use some support

I’ve been trying my best with ERP and just everything that’s going on. I have severe OCD, GAD, PMDD, panic disorder, recently diagnosed ADHD, and currently experiencing a major depressive episode. Apparently. I was taking a break from this app but I really need support right now. My family is honestly really mean and not understanding of what I’m going through. Right now it’s gotten bad to the point I had to withdrawal from my last semester of university. My only support is my boyfriend and he’s now planning to join the military. I won’t be able to talk to him for 3 months and I feel really scared of being alone with all of this. I know I shouldn’t depend on him to begin with but right now I’m at an extremely low point and I feel like I won’t make it alone. There hasn’t been a single day we haven’t texted and talked in 4 years. I feel really scared, but I don’t want to hold him back. You guys, I feel so sad and terrified right now. I don’t want him to go, he’s all I have.

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