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My boyfriend and I are on a vacation with his friendgroup. Girls and boys. Those girls know each other very well and I didn’t when I first got to know them. I’ve seen them like 6 times now and are on vacation with his group. But I find it difficult to get in the group of girls. They’re very close. My boyfriend saw that and asked if I’m okay. Then we went to our private room and I started to cry because it was just overwhelming and I find it difficult and didn’t felt comfortable. He was really sweet and helped me and said he understand. But now I just feel stupid that I cried and I’m scared he thinks I didn’t like it. Which I do but I just find It hard and in the beginning it feels uneasy. I’m scared I will lose him because of this. And because of that crying and being insecure about this.

addyadz

Date posted: 1y ago

hi, i feel so similarly to this in so many different occasions. im glad your boyfriend was able to reassure you, and if you can try to hold tight onto that. he cares for you, taking you to your private room to hear you out and give you that little bit of time to decompress. if you can, try and express to him the feelings you’re having right now, that you can’t help feel this is the end all be all, but also take care to reassure him he helped and you just can’t help feel the way you do right now. i know whenever im in a similar spot, reassurance and quality time is everything. take some time with him, just to do things you like that make you feel loved, try and replace that icky feeling with good if you can. (easier said than done, i know.) my motto when it comes to my ocd is always little steps, little steps go a loong way with this stuff. i hope you’re able to enjoy the vacation, im sorry you’re struggling to feel on top of the other girls on the trip. social stuff is scary, but you got this. little steps :)

Anonymously2

Date posted: 1y ago

@addyadz Thankyou so much, so sweet 😊 it’s going a lot better. I just had to know the place and get the feeling of it

addyadz

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymously2 I understand that a lot, new places are terrifying when it comes to my own ocd brain im glad its going better!!

Anonymously2

Date posted: 1y ago

@addyadz Yes true

Tito

Date posted: 1y ago

does he know about your ocd?? if he does and truly loves and cares about you, he’ll understand. it’s ok to feel like this, remember that and there are many people that do. you’re not alone :)

Anonymously2

Date posted: 1y ago

@Tito Yes he knows I’m really anxious and think a lot

Anonymously2

Date posted: 1y ago

@Tito Thankyou!!

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Aww that kind of things happens a lot especially when starting to know others friends groups. Your boyfriend sounds like he cares he noticed & checked in with how you were feeling. Some people realize interaction is not easy. Especially if people aren’t really friendly. Friends of friends many times because of the past have all sorts of hook ins. So he may have a clue about those girls. Yr being too hard on yrself - shows u care about yr relationship with him I say keep a stiff upper lip & say from time to time I get emotional- move on - where are we going for dinner- God Bless! 😊

Anonymously2

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Thankyou so much!

weregonnabeokay

Date posted: 24w ago

school

Its been like 3 weeks of school and its just been really difficult and stressful 😭 ive had two tests and i havent gotten them back yet but i have a feeling i didnt do as well as i wanted to on either of them and that scares me because i usually score perfectly and well. And my classmates are so good at everything 😭 and ik this is kinda bad but i hate seeing people do better in things im supposed to be good at… like math is one of my strongest subjects but i messed up on a few questions so bad and i feel so stupid and now im scared that im gonna be like this for the rest of the semester 😞 it scares me. Plus all my classmates talk to me sometimes and all and i be as nice as possible but i still feel invisible- even with friends i just feel like im bothering them and i feel like im just alone and have no one to talk to bc either no one cares or i feel like burden and annoying and unlovable 💀

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 10w ago

I could really use some support

I’ve been trying my best with ERP and just everything that’s going on. I have severe OCD, GAD, PMDD, panic disorder, recently diagnosed ADHD, and currently experiencing a major depressive episode. Apparently. I was taking a break from this app but I really need support right now. My family is honestly really mean and not understanding of what I’m going through. Right now it’s gotten bad to the point I had to withdrawal from my last semester of university. My only support is my boyfriend and he’s now planning to join the military. I won’t be able to talk to him for 3 months and I feel really scared of being alone with all of this. I know I shouldn’t depend on him to begin with but right now I’m at an extremely low point and I feel like I won’t make it alone. There hasn’t been a single day we haven’t texted and talked in 4 years. I feel really scared, but I don’t want to hold him back. You guys, I feel so sad and terrified right now. I don’t want him to go, he’s all I have.

Mariabae

Date posted: 8w ago

i feel bad for posting (includes 18+) pls read

my bf knows abt my googling and talking with chat bgt but does not know about this app, he is at my house and now im alone bc he is at the bathroom and he told me to not google and things but im confused idk what i feel i want to feel good and happy, i was good amd happy today, but now i have a lot of thoughts, my libido is low and i found it hard to kiss and do sexual things. Im scared i will br like this forever amd that i will never want to have sex (i am a virgin) , i will be 18 soon and i hate that i am like this. Im so scared i will never want to do this. i want to, but i always feel strange and my thoughts attack me making me feel so bad. i hate myself for posting here bc it is a compulsion and i feel like a liar, he loves me so much :(

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