I believe my 12 girl has OCD, first steps

My daughter has shown sings of OCD (as described on this site, which is great) for a while. We started her with a very good therapist a couple years ago that seemed to be helping. Then Covid, then we moved, then, then, then... . 99% of the time she's fine, but if asked to do her choirs or something she'd rather not do she will some times just break down. When I can get her calm enough to talk again & she describes what the brought her to that place, she will tell me something along the lines of being overwhelmed with the task, how the task seems/ed way to big to complete, etc. I would love to get her the help she needs, but not sure where to start. We have more resources where we used to live and finding a proper doctor was fairly easy, but now we live where there are less resources and I brought her to the person I see (well most of my family, but we have mostly worked though understanding and dealing, now (again for the most part) are just in need of a person to prescribe the Rx's we need and occasionally someone to talk to). I believe my daughter needs more of the first part, understanding and dealing/coping. Thanks for read'n and any helpful advice, Cheers & stay safe, Rico

Jesser84

Date posted: 2y

It sounds like she's struggling but it's great that you're helping her along the way and it sounds like she has a great support system. When it comes to chores, I find it helpful to break down the task. I'm sure she has her own needs in that regard. The best thing to do is to communicate with her and see if she's open to trying different things. Maybe she needs to complete the task a certain way and that's why it feels like a big task to complete. For example, if dishes need to be done, my mother has asked me to help her unload the dishwasher. This is something I can do that doesn't interfere with my own ocd and germaphobia. I feel my hands are clean and the dishes in the dishwasher are clean and I communicated this to her. That way I feel like I can contribute with that specific chore and the task is broken down. It can be hard to do the simplest of things depending on the person. A task can look overwhelming because I personally need to take extra steps to get it done. This process can take much more energy and is very exhausting. The main thing is being patient and working with her which sounds like you're doing a great job with. I think the best place to start is finding a therapist that specializes in OCD.I find that just speaking with a therapist that's got a lot under their belt doesn't help me at all and actually makes things harder on me. If your insurance covers it, it looks like NOCD provides therapy for OCD and its online so you don't have to worry about finding someone in your area. Although it's still worth looking at many options. Hope this helps

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

It’s really important to have an erp instead of a regular therapist. Nocd is an option if they talk you insurance. If her case is beyond what they treat Rogers Behavioral has some really good programs for kids/teens.

WorryBrain

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 22w

What are you waiting for….

My struggles with OCD began in childhood, but it wasn’t until after giving birth to my first child at 30 that I finally received a diagnosis. For years, I suffered in silence with intense anxiety, insomnia, and intrusive thoughts, but because my compulsions were mostly mental—constant rumination, reassurance-seeking, and avoidance—I didn’t realize I had OCD. I experienced Pure O, where my mind would latch onto terrifying thoughts, convincing me something was deeply wrong with me. After my son was born, I was consumed by intrusive fears of harming him, even though I loved him more than anything. Seven weeks into postpartum, I hit a breaking point and ended up in the emergency room, where I was finally diagnosed. For the first time, everything made sense. I didn’t discover exposure and response prevention (ERP) until years later when my son developed Germ OCD during COVID. I went through the program myself first, and it completely changed my life. ERP helped me sit with my intrusive thoughts instead of reacting to them, breaking the cycle that had controlled me for so long. Life isn’t perfect, but it’s so much better than before. I can finally be present instead of trapped in my head. Now, I’m working on trusting myself more and handling challenges without fear of “losing control.” As I prepare to help my daughter start therapy, I feel empowered knowing I’m giving my children the support I never had. If you know you have OCD but haven’t started therapy yet, what’s holding you back?

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Lemon22

Date posted: 21w

Need help starting!!!!!

This my first post and frankly I am so scared. I was diagnosed with OCD as my first diagnosis, at only 10 years old. Ever since, my OCD has COMPLETELY overtaken my mind and actions. Im scared that if I ever get my OCD figured out and under control, I may loose a part of myself, because its so familiar to me and all Ive ever known. As someone who is ready to tackle their extreme OCD thinking, where should I start? I am open to any/all suggestions. PLEASE leave any advice that you recommend and that has benefited you in your own journey!!!! Thanks!

Anonymous

Date posted: 21w

Getting started

Hi all, As of Monday, I received the diagnosis for Pure OCD during an ADHD evaluation. It came as a bit of a shock, despite knowing my grandpa had OCD (according to my parents and extended family, he passed away before I was born). I'm just a little lost on where to go from here. I'm trying to find a therapist who does both OCD and ADHD, but it's surprisingly hard. Do people typically have different therapists for their different needs? I've mentioned it to close friends and family, and when I've tried to discuss what I'm feeling, they said they do it too to a certain extent which is a little invalidating. Anyway, sorry for the ramble. Would anyone be able to give some advice/supportive words for a newly diagnosed college student? Thanks :)

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