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Every single time i say something or do something with friends I think I fucked up or i said something awkward or weird, literally every time. How do i get past this feeling?

JC1156

Date posted: 2y

I have this mate I feel I’ve done something bad and they’re off with me now. I think the answer to everything as annoying as it is maybe maybe not

harleybxxxx

Date posted: 2y

Please update if you find out :)

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

This may be due to mind reading cognitive distortion / negative thinking styles -cbt can help if that’s what it is -cbt helped me with thinking certain people dislike me

NODA💕

Date posted: 2y

Erin, I am in a mess. Could I tell you what happened yesterday and could you tell me how you see the situation. I need to react, but I don't trust myself to make the right, objective decision. If you are overwhelmed by your ocd, please, just tell me and I will give you space and peace. I appreciate your opinions and you already know my so far situation with my psychiatrist and psychologist and I really don't want to write it all again for others to understand. Just the yesterday's thing keeps me ruminating. I haven't slept wink. Again. Already for 2 days in a row. I have been up over 60hours. Sincd this surely affects one's thinking, reactions,... I am scared to take any action before someone not involved tells me what action actually makes sence. What they would do. I will totally understand if you don't wish to do this. You just tell me. If you are willing, maybe I should start a new post, so that we don't take over bouncydog's territory. I hope you are doing well. I keep you in my thoughts and prayers. 😇🫂

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

@NODA Stop seeing your therapist. Use blogs, books, YouTube, and other resources for your ocd. Read Shala Nicely’s blogs in self compassion, breathe, try mindfulness. Post a blog here on your specific fears that are keeping you up today so you can get a variety of advice.

NODA💕

Date posted: 2y

@Erin P 🙏♥️

Erin P

Date posted: 2y

@NODA 🫶🫂

NODA💕

Date posted: 2y

You can't read other people's minds (wow, that would be great and frightening at the same time), but by observing their facial expressions, the look in their eyes, their posture, their behavior one can get quite accurate information. I've been dealing with this for over 30 years. The sad part is, that my intuition was right in 98 % of the times. I am so lucky,hmmm. I am a magnet for superficial, egotistical, judgemental, bossy, materialistical, narcissistic people. I guess they find me too weak, too boring, too unimportant. I always see the look on their eyes telling me they think of me that I am weird. As if there was something wrong with me. If I keep in touch with these kind of people, I end up crushed to pieces. They walk all over me. Every single time. And my therapist thinks, that because I am a bit mistrustful towards people, I am weird and hidden agressive and psychotic. If I keep seeing her, I will end up locked up in a solitary room in some middle ages like mental institution. Everything I say, she makes it into drama, into all or nothing. At the moment I am scared of her. No help at all, pretending to be a friend, judgmental as hell. I never get the feeling of someone disliking me with kids and teenagers and elderly people. Just those in between. Those that are closer to my age and affect me most. For you it might be different. You are with your friends. They wouldn't be with you if your thoughts were right. You have friends. Nice. Try Erin's advice. I will too. But I can only use it if it is possible to do it by yourself, because I am left with no help at all. I hope you have a therapist who will look into it and help you get your self esteem back. Best wishes.

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