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I have been on tiktok and have seen multiple videos of girls finding out their boyfriend has cheated on them. Cheating OCD is one that i struggle with the most and i have now got this mindset that all men cheat. My boyfriend says he would never cheat on me, but when he goes clubbing i get anxious as my ocd is telling me he is cheating on me. There is then this thought that this is my gut feeling and that he is actually cheating on me. The only time i feel okay is when i ask him if he has cheated on me (which i know is bad and is a common compulsion) but as I am so convinced he is going to cheat on me i don’t know what else to do. Does anyone know how to help this

moonjoy

Date posted: 2y

omg you sound just like me lol. that’s my theme as well. tiktoks trigger me a lot even “joking” tiktoks saying things like ( trigger warning ) “when ur girl catches u starring at another girl” . that makes me extremely triggered and ill get in my head & think “does my bf do that?” etc. my best advice is to press not interested and do NOT like any videos that have to do with those topics, even if theyre jokes about “all men just cheat and lie🙄” because it WILL become ur fyp. start searching up “healthy relationships” ( deadass ) & like a bunch of videos ( at least 30+ ) & then think of positive things u like ( for ex: cooking, dogs, art, style etc ) then ur fyp will start to become more positive yk ? but i understand. it’s extremely hard. i wish i had more advice but i struggle how ur struggling too. ur not alone or crazy because ik it feels that way. i do have 1 tip that i do sometimes. here’s a little “task” to do✨ get a jar or cup whatever u have & cut up pieces of paper. write down things ur bf does that shows you he is loyal to you, shows you he cares / loves you etc . for example: “he called me pretty when i wore my blue dress” “he hugged me when i was overthinking” “he said he loved me even when i thought he was mad at me” ^ then put them all into a jar and anytime u are overthinking read a few. it sometimes gives you a friendly reminder that your boyfriend only wants you & loves you for YOU.

moonjoy

Date posted: 2y

@moonjoy but i understand. i keep overthinking the same thing . i already got reassurance on something from my bf but it keeps nagging at me . it’s hard not asking

anonymous1345

Date posted: 2y

@moonjoy omg yes i am exactly the same! They are such good ideas and I will definitely be trying all of those things, so thank you so much! Although OCD is so hard i’m glad you are trying your best to overcome it. Thank you for helping me and making me feel less alone

Crazylady

Date posted: 2y

I recently deleted Tik Tok for good. It has ruined many days for me with triggering videos. part of OCD I feel is we want to control everything around us. Tell yourself…. Don’t seek reassurance by calling him or asking a lot of questions. Think positive thoughts… tell yourself he loves me and I will give him this time to have fun and be himself because I love him.

anonymous1345

Date posted: 2y

@Crazylady Thank you so much

Jacquelinda

Date posted: 2y

Stay off Tik Tok for a while

Anonymous

Date posted: 24w

Relationship OCD- fear of cheating

I have this deep fear I’ll accidentally cheat on my long term partner. This fear was initially triggered a couple years ago after being at a bar with my friends where I enjoyed the attention of being flirted with by a stranger. Because of my enjoyment of receiving verbal attention, I began spiraling about what if I accidentally cheat. Since then I have made multiple confessions to my partner to seek reassurance, replayed events over and over in my head, spent hours googling/looking at reddit threads, and now I dread “bar like” situations where I know my partner won’t be around. Today I was triggered and have wasted about 4-5 hours of my day ruminating. Does anyone else with relationship ocd struggle with this fear and have any tips?

🧡🍁🎃

Date posted: 21w

Always wondering

Hey everyone I know I’ve mentioned this before but, I wanted to share again just in case if anyone new sees this. I deal with cheating ocd really bad, like I always have thoughts about the past and such and get worried about things. I know my morals and values and I know id never ever cheat, but my mind always loves to play the “What if” game. It really sucks. My boyfriend is the sweetest and a god sent to me and he is always there for me but ugh this ocd dealing with cheating and false memory/real events kills me, anyone else relate? I dont know how to put up with it anymore, Just today I remembered I had an old twitter account which is now X, but I remembered I deleted my account a long long time ago but ugh I used to be on twitter so much awhile ago and my ocd acted up and was like “You better go check to make sure you didn’t do anything.” And I remembered I sat with myself and said “I know my morals I would never do that to him.” And then my ocd was like “Are you sure? What if you did?” Etc and my anxiety is now so bad about it now :(

jazylia

Date posted: 14w

ROCD? flare up

OK, so I never had a boyfriend before because I’ve always avoided relationships because I’ve always had a fear of intimacy/ fear of someone getting too close (i have an avoidant attachment style) and just a hard time getting close to anyone in general. Well i am 22 years old now and i finally got a boyfriend for the first time and he is my heart in human form. Like i love him more than anything and i just want to love and support him as much as possible because i truly believe he deserves the world and more. OKAY SORRY ENOUGH ABT MY UNDYING LOVE FOR MY BOYFRIEND- i came on here to say i have been having these intrusive thoughts and they’re so disgusting. The thoughts are of me cheating and never I my life have i ever thought i?? I would do that so when I had this thought, it sent me into a panic. I was having anxiety for weeks and it was hell because it’s like my reality gets distorted. It just sucks because this is my first ever relationship and the only thing i want to do is just give my love to this man and make him the happiest person on earth. That’s is it i swear but my thoughts are so so so cruel. BTW i forgot to mention that cheating is his biggest fear in a relationship SO I know my ocd took that and RAN. Well anyways I can’t help but feel like I’m the worst human being on this earth but can some of yall send some ERP exercises and ways yall get over your ocd flares ups/ocd attacks please ? help a girl out 😔

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