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- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
This is the only piece of advise I am going to give you: "If it feels like and urge, like it HAS to be done NOW, then it is a compulsion and it is just feeding your OCD. It does not matter that it is something civil or kind - If your brain is like : Do it or suffer then it is better to leave it alone. Believe me, I suffer a lot when I don't give money to beggars. But I have learned to have boundaries. You are entitled to make mistakes.
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- 6y
I can relate. I get very irritated with people sometimes then let my anger stew inside me until I finally let it burst in a way I wasn’t expecting. I replay the words both parties shared until I can’t take it anymore and I feel like I must apologize. I wish I could give you all the answers to help you lessen the amount of times you feel you need to do this, but I can’t. I’m still trying to figure it out myself. The only piece of advice my psychologist gave me was to avoid letting the irritation stew inside you and instead try saying something in the moment so that you’re less likely to let it get out control later on. I think for me, I have to remember that I cannot change people and trust me, I’ve tried. If they react poorly to my words, then that’s on them. Good luck!
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- 6y
It may seem like long term suffering, but really it is not. Really, in the very long term, you will be more free of OCD if you resist this urge right now. I agree with FernandoV. You can do it! Just stay strong. I know it’s hard. But you can resist. We all can.
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- 6y
Thank you for your replies. I just feel like it’s easier to give in and do this on thing and move on with my life but at the same time the other Logical voice in my head says that I am just doing this out of compulsion and I should fight it . This struggle is the hardest part of OCD and I am trying to accept it. Long term suffering or short term relief by doing my compulsion
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- 6y
Thank you for the encouragement LyricalWolf. I know it will be tough because most times I have always taken easy way out and give into the compulsion. But I think I’m the past few months it slowly built up from smaller compulsions to this one now.
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- Date posted
- 22w
I had to cancel my therapy because it was no longer available with my insurance. And I just kind of feel hopeless with OCD. Even when I was doing therapy, I think my OCD started getting too complicated for my therapist and she didn’t even know what to do. My fears are so complex it’s crazy. So my big fear is my OCD being bad and being super depressed again like I was a few months ago in high school. I attended a public highschool for a semester and started the worst flare up I’ve ever had. I was harshly bullied for no reason whatsoever, and not accepted by anyone. I am an athletic kid who usually keeps to himself so I didn’t understand why people targeted me, especially when I wanted nothing to do with them. From August to now ( March) I CANNOT grasp hold of my OCD. I am very hard on myself about it. Going into dangers anytime I see one so I can expose myself. But constantly obsessing about if I’m doing enough for my OCD. And comparing myself to how I use to be, before the flare ups. From the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep I’m obsessing about my OCD and if it’s bad and comparing. Another HUGE fear of mine is being treated differently because I have OCD. So being bullied for so long I always assumed it was because I was shy and didn’t want to stand up for myself - due to my OCD- so I blamed myself for everything that continued to happen, . from people bullying me in the past . The people at that highschool were downright crazy. Even the teachers and coaches had major issues and I’m so glad to be out of there, but I still obsess the same everyday and hold so much resentment for that school and when I try to let it go, I just feel more passive pain and obsess even more about it weather my ocd is okay or not. I feel mentally sick. Please someone give me some advice for my fears, because I feel like I’m doing everything in my power to expose myself to everything but nothings working.
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- 22w
I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.
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- 20w
I am 16 and struggling with OCD. It is causing me to do irrational things that I wouldn't normally do and cause issues with my parents. I feel like a terrible person and want to take back things that have happen and don't know how to make it better. The OCD causes things to get stuck in my brain and my questions have to be answered and talked about. I don't know how to let thoughts go and ways that would be healthy for myself and my parent when this happens. Any advice?
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