How we should disregard?

When i get an ocd thought, not usually a "what if im..." its more like statements, or "if i go there or do that i will not enjoy it cause of ocd", or any scary or disturbing thought, so its not like what if, and for me the conpulsion is to get rid of the thought, so for that i use disregarding. And before i disregard, i notice the ocd thought and get anxious, almost like a panic state and i say "i need to stop thinking about this cause its bad" then i choose to disregard but because i do with fear, the thought and feeling just grows and i use disregard as an escape. People say when you ignore ocd it starts to grow but i dont think like this, this feels the same when i worry. I know that i use disregarding as avoidance and idk how to use it correctly, i cant just ignore it and dont care about it... if it would be that easy i wouldve been recovered now... also as i said i dont think i do disregarding right...

Cactus11

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

When you respond to your OCD with “I need to stop thinking about this cause it’s bad” it’s showing ocd that you are afraid of it. When you start showing ocd you do not care what it throughs at you, you will see a change. It takes time and practice…unfortunately ocd isn’t a quick fix. I would try to start responding with “maybe, maybe not” or I say “it is possible that if I go to that place I will not enjoy it because of my ocd” and then feel the anxiety don’t try to fix it. Notice the thought/feelings and then continue doing what you were doing or go do something different whatever it is! This can get better! Fighting! 💪🏼

PRIV8

Date posted: 2y

Just ignoring doesnt work for me, if i could, i wouldnt suffer today...

Steven55!

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

@PRIV8 - Please listen to what Cactus11 wrote. You have to accept the fact that if you want to recover you're going to have to sit in discomfort a lot until the episode passes. But, it will pass.

Cactus11

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

@PRIV8 Nooo DONT ignore it! Allow the thoughts to come in and accept that they are there notice the thoughts!! :) once you notice them then you say “yeah maybe I will have a bad time bc ocd will get in the way”. Sit in the discomfort! ignoring it makes it worse!

PRIV8

Date posted: 2y

@Cactus11 I had to come home from a festival we have here cause i couldnt enjoy it at some point it got bad and i decided to go home... i constantly got thoughts and emotions, it was like im depressed and i cant enjoy anything, i lost who i am, i questioned everything, it just was enough... i hear everyone say let the thoughts and emotions be, but you cant just cry in front of everyone, i fighted to not cry through a concert until I gave up and came home... Right now i just accept I cant recover.... yeah i know... accept everything... But you cant enjoy a festival if you accept being depressed cause the amount of thoughts you have and people wont just ignore you crying in front of them... I used acceptance before, the emotions went away when i was letting myself be fully depressed but i was home doing nothing, i knew better things will come, and i had to work on changing some thoughts, but when you out somewhere you waited so much for months,you cant just accept that you cant enjoy now...

PRIV8

Date posted: 2y

@Cactus11 Sorry that im rude with you, im just really disapointed at this point, i want to give up(not in a suicidal way, just accepting i will be like this and i will be alone)

Steven55!

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

PRIV8, do you have a trained OCD therapist, one who uses ERP therapy? It will do you a world of good

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