Advice on Anxiety and Groinal Response

In much need of some advice. What’s the best thing to do when your feeling anxiety from a groinal response that you already made peace with. I already know I’m not into those things surrounding the groinal response because there is no desire or attraction to those things. When the response occurred it never escalated to anything sexual and it was just all bad timing. Even though I know these facts and know the truth that there was no sexual desire feelings or attraction to those things. Parts of my mind still feels bothered by it. In this case do I just live with the anxiety until it disappears. I already addressed this whole thing and laid it out for my mind to understand the truth but yet that part of my mind does not want to let it go. Do I just carry on with my life knowing the truth and just deal with anxiety. Any advice would be helpful Thanks in advance

sabrinaaskii

Date posted: 2y

this feeling is truly the worst. it’s so hard to let go of the anxiety even when you know it’s just the ocd. what’s helped me the most is understanding that if you actually enjoyed that, you wouldn’t be so anxious. even if you were indifferent to it, that doesn’t mean you enjoyed it. if you truly enjoyed it you would be leaning into those feelings and acting off of them. another thing that’s helped is thinking about any part of your body, let’s say your finger. if you focus on that, you start to feel sensation right? that being said, don’t place so much importance on body responses. i truly hope you begin to feel better about this. this is just the ocd 🫶🏼. lmk if you need to talk

flyinggorilla

Date posted: 2y

@sabrinaaskii Everything you said is true, and I’ve applied those facts. At this point I’ve already addressed the whole situation and feel there’s no need to go any further. I guess I just have to deal with the anxiety and hope the facts sink in now rather than later. I would definitely like to chat with anyone that has a history or currently going through these things. Not sure how we can communicate and give our private info to each other if you know how I’ll let you be the guide or if we have to communicate openly then I’m ok with that as well. Thanks for the advice have a good one

JazzCrab

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

Acknowledge the feeling as a biological thing that your body does, and try to not assign meaning to it. Bodies are weird, thoughts are weird, and bodies do weird things when weird thoughts come up.

flyinggorilla

Date posted: 2y

@JazzCrab Your right and I accepted that. It’s just trying not to feel any anxiety from it and not feel bothered by it. Will see how it goes

JazzCrab

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

@flyinggorilla Totally understand. I used to really struggle with this. It’ll get better.

flyinggorilla

Date posted: 2y

@JazzCrab Do you just deal with the anxiety until it passes? How did you overcome it

JazzCrab

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

@flyinggorilla Well. Mine was really bad when I was with an abusive partner, and I told him about the groinal response (which I didn’t know how to describe it, so I called it like an arousal feeling) and he told me “that’s disgusting”. Which didn’t help. I eventually broke up with him, and then that problem kinda went away. Now, it still happens on occasion, but I know it’s a biological response so I just don’t assign meaning to it other than what I explained above. I think it just takes time and practice and trying to not let it work you up. So yeah, just kinda sit with the anxiety until it subsides, and turn your attention to something else. Notice the thoughts and feelings, say “hm okay” and then move on.

flyinggorilla

Date posted: 2y

@JazzCrab Glad you got out of the relationship. Considering how abusive he was. Hope your healed from that. Thanks for the advice, it’s something I will implement. And will be a huge help so god bless you for that 🙏🏼😊. Having to deal with the anxiety until it’s subdued does suck but knowing it’s temporary and the issue has been addressed will help me knowing that I have facts to back me up. Thanks once again.

Anonymous

Date posted: 25w

Will groinals go away with acceptance

I keep getting these groinal responses when I think about kids or see one and it's really distressing, I only just learned that OCD can make you feel that and it's not actually attraction but it's so hard to remember that and I've seen people talking about accepting uncertainty but I'm so scared to think "maybe it's attraction maybe it's not" instead of "no it's not attraction that's disgusting" and idk what to do

ntr

Date posted: 25w

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Hello, im a 21ye old male. All of my life i was always atrscted to girls, even if it was only a hug by a girl i liked i got a boner. I always fantasised about doing fun stuff (not onyl sex) with my gf. Had a gf for almost two years. Two months ago i fell into severe anxiety about my sexuality changing. It happened to me 2 years ago bit then i had my gf and i did not need to worry if i will find a girl i love or will i be able to because i already had her. The toughts were realy intense but they faded and for 2 years i did not experience any doubts or fears about it. Then it happened again in december. For 2-3 weeks i was realy down...constant toughts about doing things with men i never wanted to do, fear that i liked someone, fear of denial...but them bc of getting back with my girlfriend it was okay for three weeks almosf. Then we broke up again and after a few days i had the worst days of my life. I felt like i actually changed, i did not know what to do. Then after a week I went out with a girl and when she laid on me when we wafched a show I got aroused like i always did with my ex. I felt such relief and i could handle my fears and anxiety for almost a month. Then a week ago the fear returned and i am again in a very bad spot, i dont know what else to do, i have no girl that i love, i am afraid i will never be able to experience those same feelings and moment that i had with my ex and then again the toughts of being in denial came back. I dont know what to do. My psychiatrist said i dont have ocd but onyl simptoms and that my anxiety is the proboem. Any one experienced something similar? Thanks

Sexual Orientation OCD

What is happ...

Date posted: 17w

Questions… I don’t want reassurance just advice

I’ve tried accepting the uncertainty, I’ve accepted I may be gay, bi or still straight. I’ve tried doing ERP myself to the best I can. When I accept that I’m gay or bi why doesn’t my head agree and move on? Why does it still question it? I know I don’t want to be at all. I love my family. But I just want this to move on. I want to enjoy life. Why can’t I find women attractive again? (Brief moments I do). I seriously don’t understand the false attraction? I’ve tried agreeing with it but it won’t let this drop. Why am I attracted to the same sex? Why am I attracted to people I would never thought of looking at? Why does it give me such grief about this? I know I shouldn’t look at adult content but why can I only feel good watching either lesbian or females? I tried to agree with the gay but it makes me sick and horrendous I even considered this? I just want my life back.

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