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I personally don't think there is a should or shouldn't involved in whether friends are tell or not. It depend on the relationship between you and your friend. Do you trust them? Have you had emotionally vulnerable conversations with them before? Have they been supportive in situations before? I would bring up the general topic of mental health and ocd and see how they relate to it. If they seemed negative about people with ocd, I wouldn't feel safe opening up. I struggle with hocd and porn addiction. I haven't opened up to friends about it. But I do open up to people in group therapy and 12 step fellowship
One of my closest friends (more like family ) knows, she supports me and is someone to talk to when I need it. If that is what u need go for it... just my opinion
Thanks guys, although I mean HOW should you say it? Not so much do
Share as much as you feel comfortable sharing. It doesn't have to be all in one go. I don't have a picture of your specific challenges, but generally I would make sure you have enough privacy and are in an environment where you feel comfortable and safe. I would open the conversation by saying something like 'there's something I really need your help with'. As they care about you and will see it is something important to you, they will hopefully be primed for what comes next. People love to help, we respect honesty even when its difficult to hear. Some people might even be honoured or flattered that you've entrusted them by opening up.
All just my opinion and how I would approach it. I don't think there's a right or wrong way to do. Although I would try to let go of desire for a particular outcome. We dont know how people will respond or react and we can't control how they do
How I told my bf was- if I seem down and out of it it’s because of blah blah blah
And I might need your help to keep going but if that’s not a weight you want to carry I get it I just thought that I could talk to you because I trust you and you are a big part of my kife
Does anyone else find it hard to open up to your loved ones about how you feel? Is it necessary to tell your family what you think about, or is it okay for them to just be aware of what's going on?
Has anyone else had trouble telling people about their OCD? I would like to help break the stigma about mental health and be a part of the change. But it is such an exhausting thing to even think about. Not only would it be difficult to tell people (even people I trust), but it would be even more difficult to have to explain to people what OCD really is (not just the stereotypes they have seen on TV). On top of that I keep thinking how do I even begin to explain the subtypes that I have experienced? I suppose I don't have to, but it helps to give some real depth for them to sink their teeth into; to really understand the difference between OCPD and OCD. I keep thinking if I can get through ERP (which I have recently done), then I can certainly share my disorder with others (well I cant be 100% certain...see what I did there?). I know I don't have to tell others about my OCD and I respect people who want to keep it private. I have for years. I just think that I would like to be confident, own it, and help others who are still figuring out about their own mental health struggles. I know many of my family and friends will be surprised to hear that I have OCD. So if you have any suggestions or anecdotes you would be willing to share that would be great. Thanks!
How do you decide with whom/when/how much you share about your OCD? I haven't shared with one of my friends, as she has had less-than-supportive responses when I've shared other medical/mental health things with her. She recently made some comments about OCD (you know the ones - "I love to plan and organize. I'm so OCD."). When reading her texts I was seething, as those sorts of comments are so diminishing and hurtful. I know that she doesn't mean harm by these things, so part of me wants to tell her how I've been battling OCD (the real kind, not the kind that likes to color coordinate socks) for the past year. I want to explain why "I'm so OCD" makes me so freaking angry. But if I do this, I take the risk of her not supporting me in the way I would expect. I take the risk of her thinking "What's the big deal. We're all a little OCD." Is it worth it, or do I just go on and try to ignore those comments? What experiences (positive and negative) have you all had when sharing about your OCD with others?
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