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I personally don't think there is a should or shouldn't involved in whether friends are tell or not. It depend on the relationship between you and your friend. Do you trust them? Have you had emotionally vulnerable conversations with them before? Have they been supportive in situations before? I would bring up the general topic of mental health and ocd and see how they relate to it. If they seemed negative about people with ocd, I wouldn't feel safe opening up. I struggle with hocd and porn addiction. I haven't opened up to friends about it. But I do open up to people in group therapy and 12 step fellowship
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One of my closest friends (more like family ) knows, she supports me and is someone to talk to when I need it. If that is what u need go for it... just my opinion
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Thanks guys, although I mean HOW should you say it? Not so much do
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Share as much as you feel comfortable sharing. It doesn't have to be all in one go. I don't have a picture of your specific challenges, but generally I would make sure you have enough privacy and are in an environment where you feel comfortable and safe. I would open the conversation by saying something like 'there's something I really need your help with'. As they care about you and will see it is something important to you, they will hopefully be primed for what comes next. People love to help, we respect honesty even when its difficult to hear. Some people might even be honoured or flattered that you've entrusted them by opening up.
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All just my opinion and how I would approach it. I don't think there's a right or wrong way to do. Although I would try to let go of desire for a particular outcome. We dont know how people will respond or react and we can't control how they do
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How I told my bf was- if I seem down and out of it it’s because of blah blah blah
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And I might need your help to keep going but if that’s not a weight you want to carry I get it I just thought that I could talk to you because I trust you and you are a big part of my kife
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I have this strong yearning to tell my mother all my thoughts and what I go through on a daily basis but then I get scared of what she'll think of me or that she'll worry even more and feel like it's her fault. I just want someone to understand what im going through but whenever I even begin to explain my thoughts to my therapist, she doesn't really get it and today it feels like no one ever will. like I try to make my therapist understand and bless her heart, she's super compassionate and understands how much pain it causes me but beyond that, it still feels like im not able to fully convey it. I'm sure this is something many people can relate to, but still. I feel alone.
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Genuinely why is it okay to not tell everything about your past to others? Even if it’s past mistakes to family and so?
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This might be a bit disturbing but it’s been weighing on my mind. From all the posts I’ve made, I’ve talked about how I was influenced at a young age and saw things I shouldn’t have seen. A lot of it. I can’t remember much because it’s blurry and all muddy and in different timelines. Sometimes I genuinely don’t understand why I would do such a thing or how I could and I would constantly overanalyse things from the past. These things lead me to do things to myself out of trying to understand and curiosity and mimicking actions like kissing others in preschool. I made stupid mistakes I can’t take back and it weighs on me a lot. I don’t and can’t remember so much honestly but when I was at the age of 8, I inappropriately touched someone and it wasn’t out of harm but to understand why. What I did was wrong and the whole context of the situation is messed up but I knew to a certain degree it was wrong ( I spoke to this to my therapist who was very understanding and told me these things happen a lot when kids are young ) I remember at the time I felt guilt and realised I wanted to be a good person. I thought I was dammed for what I did and there was no coming back for me but I remember apologising to them and never doing it again. I had to keep this with me for so many years and it broke me a lot. I matured and realised my actions, spent time crying, thinking that maybe I shouldn’t be here, and was filled with a lot of shame and guilt with nobody to be there or know about this. I didn’t tell anyone because I was scared. I was scared to also be badly punished but eventually as time passed, the person passed away and nobody knew about the story. This year I began opening up and for the first time I opened up to people about this because I wasn’t doing good mentally and spent days—months ruminating, panicking, and thinking I was a monster for everything. I never thought I would but it was with people I trust who loved and accepted me. I told them the situation and how I felt. I told my therapist briefly and she told me we could continue this convo the next time and that I didn’t have to tell her everything but… It didn’t make sense to me. I felt like I needed to confess everything or else I was a fraud. I do definitely care about their justice ( justice overall ) for what happened to them regardless of them not being here and I’m beyond sorry that something like this happened to them because of my stupidity when I was younger. I try my best to be understanding and compassionate to myself but sometimes it’s all filled with hatred and shame and guilt but I’m trying. People say confessing makes things worst. I feel like this is something that needs to be confessed but Ive already admitted my actions, regrets and told others about this but yet it’s still there . I’m not an angel but I do know, these stupid past mistakes have made me more empathetic to people and not wanting things like this to happen to anyone. As I’ve grown I’ve realised how these things can distort your view of reality at a young age because now as I’m older, I understand so much more than my younger self would. Sometimes I don’t know what to say. I don’t know why I did certain things and people at my age were probably more matured and smarter than me. A lot of things happen in different timelines but I’ve matured so much and I understand my mistakes and the impact. I feel safe to talk about this to my therapist or here but to my family and others.. I don’t know what to say. I’ve made so many stupid mistakes and feel like I need to confess everything. I didn’t want to ever talk about this to anyone because I didn’t want to make things worst for people. This happened so many years back and I just didn’t want to bring the past into the present. I know that I have no right to really suggest this because that person was a victim. I don’t know what I should do. Confess? Or let it be in the past? I mean my therapist and close friends know about this.
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