Has anyone had to care for a elderly person at home either long term or short term that has significant mental and physical health issues. I am dealing with this right now , it definitely is challenging and stressful. It seems to make my own mental and physical issues worse. Any suggestions on how to remain as positive as possible for myself and those around me?
Unfortunately no . We have to provide all the care her and at 100% ourselves. She then returns to where she lives with other relatives. The people that care for her regularly needed a 2 month break from it all , it is very difficult for someone in this condition. Continual monitoring for meals , not falling, and most other safety precautions. She does make sense on the most part , with her long term memory when she talks . My mom years ago passed away , I don’t know if she had lived if I would have the long term patience for this . I guess we will never know . I know this two month visit could be last time seeing her , she might be close to the end . Who knows only God knows on that .
@777Q Whilst you are doing all this take time for self care. Try to meditate and eat well, exercise etc. Good luck.
I care for my elderly mom. I remind myself daily that my mom's issues are not mi e and I look for ways to support her and help her feel useful. For example, she loves to cook. On days that I have a busy schedule, I ask if she could cook up something simple. She loves to cook for me. Makes her feel needed. It's hard watching her health decline as she gets older.
@Cmeadowlark Thanks for responding.
My mom (may she RIP) had Alzheimer. It was difficult to see the person she once was diminishing. However, I made it a point to keep her engaged in whatever tasks came up. I put on music & we’d dance. She was a heck of cha cha dancer and she taught me. To this day I still practice the steps. And man can she cook! A few weeks ago I had to take care of my MIL who is having similar difficulties. I did the same thing in keeping her engaged. It brightens her day and puts a smile on our faces. For me it’s giving me the opportunity to practice my ERP and reaffirm that I can handle the stress & symptoms. I took the steps & gave myself accolades for each step taken. In doing so I like to think I’m paying it forward. It may not be easy but the rewards are priceless.
I'm so sorry you're having a difficult time. Caregivers go through this struggle even if they don't have their own health issues, so it's that much more difficult for people who do, like you. I don't have any specific advice for you, sadly. I encourage you to be kind and caring to yourself, as you do with your loved one you care for. Sending lots of love & support to you 🩷
@ReadyForImprovement I appreciate the support.
I didn’t exactly care for my parents apart from basic being a son stuff but yes they can be challenging. Be there for them and you will have no regrets when they pass or fewer anyway.
@NotSoNewb82 Very true . This is my wife’s mother , she is staying with us for 2 months. It is more challenging than I thought it would be . Fortunately my wife is dealing with most of it . But I think more is expected of me to help give my spouse support and a bit of a break the best I can .
@777Q Do your best. Can you both get someone in? There are professional carers after all. They helped with my mom very much.
Here is a update , mother in law insists on television at level 10 , very LOUD . Tried to remedy situation with life c and she threatened to want to go home . Remedy I am now wearing headphones like you would at auto racing to dampen the sound, LOL !
That is remedy with logic.
Thanks for sharing. You are a compassionate person.
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