To those who have been on this path for a long time, what do you tell your friends and family how to support or help you through your difficult moments. I have supportive people who want to be there but I have no idea what they can do to help, my mind always goes blank when people ask "how can I help?"
My husband has been with me through my ocd healing journey. Similar to the earlier comment, he does not reassure me. Sometimes my themes are too intense or embarrassing for me to say out loud, but he can always tell when I’m having a spike and I will just say “I’m having a hard time right now. Just hug me or understand I may be a little emotionally distant.” Just saying out loud you’re struggling and having someone to sit there with you is huge.
It depends, my husband has been on this journey with me, he truly understands ocd, so he and I have made a deal no reassurance. It’s difficult for people who don’t understand ocd to keep from giving reassurance. I didn’t tell a lot of people due to the fact that I didn’t want to talk about ocd, it would be too tempting to ask for reassurance. It’s nice that people want to support you. Maybe explain that the best support is acknowledging you may be struggling but understanding that reassurance is off the table. I just sometimes want someone to acknowledge how difficult allowing uncertainty can be❤️. Certainly this community get it.
Yeah I've definitely learned that reassurance just gives short term relief so I avoid it as much as I can
They can pray for me.
I tell people be honesty with me and have patients. if I can trust I get less intrusive thoughts and feelings
I just tell people I have mental disorder and if they ask they can help me I say there’s really nothing you can do
Hi! Does anyone struggle with loneliness? Especially when it comes to talking to your loved ones about what you go through. I’ve been struggling with this because it either leads to a fight or I’m not understood. My husband and I have been having some issues and I have a bad habit of bringing up the past. I don’t know why I keep doing it it’s just I get a thought and it goes into auto mode recently. We are going to marriage counseling soon but I try to tell him and family how I’m feeling and it just turns into a fight or it turns into me being dismissed. I just honestly want someone I can trust to hear me but it feels like I can’t really talk to anyone. I think it’s a relapse and I keep doing ERP but honestly I just need someone to listen. Does anyone relate or am I just it? I feel like I’m losing the love of my life and I’m breaking at the mere thought of it.
Do you ever have a situation in front of you and you genuinely don’t know the best way to get through it? Like a difficult situation but the question is do you grind it out or use self compassion and give yourself breaks? There are so many different philosophies to follow, even if they’re not formal philosophies. For example, I have watched a lot of David Goggins and Jocko Willink on YouTube. Both of them have very extreme philosophies of discipline and how to handle hardship. Both of their philosophies have helped me during times of hardships in my life. But other philosophies have also helped me at other times of hardships in my life, philosophies that have more to do with self kindness and self compassion. So sometimes it seems like there’s so many approaches to how to live life that it’s paralyzing. Were any of y’all able to overcome the seemingly endless amount of choices towards mindsets to approach life with? How were y’all able to overcome this?
hello all! i am relatively new to nocd and kinda interested in finding a support person on this app. i am 22 years old, struggling with many forms of ocd, anxiety and depression. i have friends, but at the end of the day they truly don’t understand what’s going on in my brain. with this post, i am hoping to find someone similar to my age range and what not so we can have eachother to lean on for support. thanks for reading!
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