I’m so sad that he’s leaving for a trip for a month. He really helps regulate me when I’m anxious and he’s my safe space. He leaves today and I’ve already had a panic attack. Words of encouragement, advice super welcome 😢
I was about to write a post about exactly the same thing. My partner left for a trip a few months ago which caused a massive ocd flare, one I've been scared of every since and haven't gotten over. Her parents just dropped a bombshell on me the other day and they're flying her back overseas for a birthday and my OCD has just done an absolute backflip. I didn't even get over the last time she was away and now I have to do it again... I know how you feel, unfortunately I can't offer much apart from letting you know that you're not alone. Apparently people with OCD are more prone to separation anxiety, I suspect I've got some of that.
@Nate_093 Totally get where you are coming from, today is day one and I haven’t even been able to eat. I’m happy we have such supportive partners but sad we struggle with OCD:( thanks for your support. We got this
@winterdream Thank you, I'm here if you need to talk
Just spent 5 weeks away from my partner he definitely helped regulate me and is a safe space and an anchor for me. You’ll be surprised how quickly you get used to a new routine without seeing them. Lean on other friends or family or even this app for support. Remember you can still hopefully message and call him even though it may not feel the same. The time will hopefully fly by
@milliehewitt2 I am gonna remember this! Today is day one and it’s rough and sad but I’ll try to hold on and do good things for myself. Thank you for your advice ❤️
My advice would be to see the positive in this. It is hard but maybe you will have more time to do the things you like & work on yourself. I am very codependant and I would get really scared when my partner would leave. But now being single (which is super scary in itself for me, I’m used to always being in a relationship) I’m starting to see the good in this, I have time to join support groups, read about ocd/counseling, spend time with friends, watch my shows, clean/organize, go to the gym. So just focus on the good and maybe you have more time to do the thing a that not only you like but things you’ve been putting off to better yourself:)
@Anonymous I definitely think that’s a good way to look at this, maybe I should take more time to plan out things I really want to do. Thanks for sharing your story and advice, it is deeply appreciated :)
No problem at all!!:) I hope everything works out for you, if you ever want to chat, my email is brittany102392@gmail.com. I’m looking for more friends with ocd to relate too as my diagnosis is very very new
Update- I’m doing okay but the intrusive thoughts are so much louder! I’m trying to regulate but it’s hard
Does anybody have any advice for how to help your partner cope with your anxiety? It causes a lot of tension and fight or flight feelings in my partner and it’s clearly very distressing for him. I don’t want him to feel anxious because I am.
I’m really frustrated with myself. I got diagnosed with ROCD about 2 and a half weeks ago and now it’s taken over my life. I was just with my boyfriend who is absolutely amazing and I was obsessed with 2 and a half weeks ago and then a switch flipped and I started questioning everything and have gone numb. I noticed immediately something was wrong and booked an appt with my therapist who sent me to an OCD therapist who I meet with on Wednesday for the first time. I’m frustrated because when I’m with him I know what I should be feeling and can acknowledge how great he is and how good looking he is but I feel this block in my chest keeping me from feeling things. Anyone have any advice or has ever felt this way? I know I’m new to this and haven’t started therapy yet but my god it is so draining and the guilt I feel is insane. Let me know please🙏
Right now, i’m waiting for a response from my partner. Yesterday, we got into a serious conversation about the repeated cycle of reassurance seeking and extreme anxiety. he’s been so incredibly patient but I think he’s hit a crosswords in that if I don’t make serious, healthier changes, he does not see the relationship continuing in a healthy or meaningful way anymore. This morning, I told him I wanted to give him space and to respond once he felt comfortable. I attended a support group today but I am consumed with spiraling, obsessive thoughts due to his lack of response now that it’s 5pm and I sent that text at 8am. I dont want to overwhelm him but i just dont know how to sit with the uncertainty. I feel like his lack of response and communication today means he wants to break up. I feel sick and cannot eat. I dont know what to do- any suggestions or thoughts?
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