Need help

Thank you, so I struggle with hocd, and now whenever I try to daydream or fantasize about a girl now, it feels like I don't like it and it's hard to do it, is this normal and should take a long break from daydreaming?

@Anonymous It can be normal, but are you daydreaming because you want to daydream, or because you are forcing yourself to see if you still like girls? If you're forcing yourself to see how you feel, then that's a compulsion and should be stopped

@izzzaey It might be I'm not 100 percent sure, I think both

@Anonymous if daydreaming brings you stress, i would try to avoid it until you're ready to start exposure therapy (maybe w a therapist involved), I know how you feel but just know that thoughts are just thoughts and they don't really mean anything

The fear of being gay

@Anonymous Are you in a relationship?

@Anxietyandjoy I have never had a girlfriend but I've always fatnisize about dating and I enjoyed, there was no compulsions, there was no effort to it. But now it's hard to do it

@Anonymous I fantisized about girls

@Anonymous Sorry I should've put that part in

@Anonymous You are not defined by your feelings but your choices! You are not gay. Are you getting erp?

@Anxietyandjoy I'm trying my first two therpaist have not been good, so I am now searching for my third therapist

@Anonymous You will find the right one. Ultimately I believe that God made you, and he made you what you are and to be attr to the opposite sex. It’s not popular in our day because now there are 10000 orientations, but ultimately you were made in Gods image. God made Adam and Eve. To be real, you’re not always going to “feel it.” If you judge your relationship, or anything in life, on feelings alone, your life will be very confusing. You’re not always going to feel like going to work, but if you don’t you’ll probably be homeless. You’re not always going to feel 100% attracted to your person, but you’re not going to get divorce after divorce to make yourself 100% happy. Happy isn’t a permanent state. Your brain, emotions and heart will go thru different things in life. I went thru severe rocd before I got married, but I loved my husband and chose him! He is amazing. It’s the choice that will sustain my relationship, not feelings. Feelings come and go and the more you focus on “feeling it” the less you will but as you can lean into uncertainty you can overcome. I had to face the thoughts “what if I’m not in love” or “I feel fear I could be happier” but ultimately these thoughts don’t define me and I don’t allow them to rule my life. With Gods help you can do anything. You too will get thru this my friend! Find a counselor who will help you with erp and a friend who can understand and remind you of who you really are not what ocd says or fear says! :)

@Anxietyandjoy Aweosme thank you for your time man I appreciate it

@Anonymous I am a girl but no prob lol 🙏🏻 also Jesus loves you!