So hate society sometimes

Like everything out there is so vicious it has yo be sexual, controversial, insane and every media out there wants to push that into our minds by force. I can't watch a movie or a show without to having sexual stuff in it, lgbtq, murder, etc which are things that trigger me so much and make me confused of what it makes me feel. I think that it can somehow change people's minds by repeateadly watching it they start wiring neural pathways to react to those things in certain ways or in the long run becoming desensitized by it thus scaling to more shocking stuff to be able to feel joy or pleasure out of what they're watching. Sometimes I don't even know what is the thing that arouses me in some sexual stuff that I stumble upon by mistake on media it sucks so much.

Nutellalover

Date posted: 2y

Finally! Someone said it! I thought it was just me…

NMRTHGHTS

Date posted: 2y

I thought I was the only one too, I never talk about it much around my friends because they give me the weirdo staring they see all that as natural even though I keep secrets they've told me and I know from first hand that they struggle with some stuff that could have its root cause in what they abuse or consume daily. Watching tiktok is like bombarding your mind with varied stuff of all kinds and most of them trash imagine its effects on people and more on young ones that use it the most

ReadyForImpr...

Date posted: 2y

So, you're kind of describing ERP. For the triggers you have, you'll ultimately expose yourself to them (starting small, of course) and slowly working your way up to more distressing triggers. You become less distressed because your brain basically habituates/gets bored of it and accepts it for what it is without judgement. (Note that the other purpose of ERP is to learn that we can tolerate discomfort and anxiety that will decrease without us doing anything or fixing it) I agree that some movies and shows have gratuitous content that not everyone wants to see, that's ok. But aside from the extreme, what you're describing is part of life... the human experience. With ERP, we learn that we don't have to consume all content, but we don't have to avoid things with *totally normal* things (sexual content, LGBTQ+ content) because there's nothing wrong with it.

NMRTHGHTS

Date posted: 2y

@ReadyForImprovement yeah I get that but the point in my post is not because it is normalized by society it should be considered correct.

ReadyForImpr...

Date posted: 2y

@Grm2 That's an opinion. But sex and sexuality and gender are natural and accepted, so you can't avoid it. The violence is a different story.

NMRTHGHTS

Date posted: 2y

@ReadyForImprovement Of course, anything we could share here is an opinion. Each one will decide what's "normal" and accurate for their life, even if it's majorly accepted by society doesn't make it normal because if we fall in that area we could say that even violence is normal and accepted. In which case it doesn't make your statements correct neither mine.

lonelytype

Date posted: 25w

Criminal shows/Horror movies

does anyone else get really triggered when watching stuff to do with serial killers, p3dos, r@pists etc. I literally start to compare myself and check to see if i share any qualities with them. Ita really scary cause i really like this show Criminal minds, and i absolutely adore the characters, but its hard watching something i like cause of all the g0re and stuff. Not to mention all the thoughts that are convincing me i like the horrible stuff. Someone tell me if tou relate..

Harm OCD

basillemontea

Date posted: 23w

Obsessions concerning s*x

TW: themes of sexual abuse, exploitation, etc Hello I am feeling a bit distressed today. I realized I have pretty “sex negative” views which I feel like many stem from OCD and trauma. Some of my feelings are good and I would argue most stem from a healthy place but I feel like they impact my life and emotional state on an unhealthy level. For example feel VERY strongly about CSA, rape, sexual exploitation of any kind, unethical sex etc. I have a strong pattern recognization ability and see how so many things people deem as “sex positive” (porn, onlyfans, casual sex etc) have a net negative effect on society (abuse, cheating, stds, etc) I think a good amount of the population agrees with these values so I don’t feel alone in that but I feel like I spend so much time being sad over these things. I used to listen to a lot of sexual music growing up (mainly mainstream pop like Ke$ha and Rihanna) and then in my teens I listened to a lot of rap. I noticed how this made me sexualize myself growing up which makes me very uncomfortable and sad. Another thing which makes me sad is how so much of the population was exposed to pornography at a young age. I recently was at a estate sale and there were old playboy magazines and this man was showing his son who looked to be about 9 the magazines and it made me so uncomfortable because that’s grooming and abuse. I didn’t know what to do so I just said “ew” but I still feel guilty I did not do anything more. I just don’t know how to cope with these feelings. I am also Catholic and the abuse crisis has deeply impacted my ability to practice my faith. Two priests whom were close to my family got exposed for sexually abusing children. This is a big reason I have not been able to go to confession (which leads me to being unable to receive the Eucharist, which is a big deal). I constantly obsess over the fact I won’t be able to tell who is a sexual predator and it brings me great distress. Also, sexual music, sex scenes in movies, sexual jokes etc all make me deeply uncomfortable. Hearing about my friend’s sexual lives also makes me very uncomfortable and sad for them, in a way, if I deem their experiences unethical. I feel very upset when people sexualize themselves. I also hate when I experience sexual feelings myself and often find myself wishing I was asexual even though I wish to get married and be a mother. I feel judged by society for being a “prude” “puritanical” etc which feels incredibly invalidating as a lot of my trauma involves exploitation under the guise of “liberation” I don’t really know where I’m going here I think I just want to know if anyone feels similarly. I don’t find many people with views and feelings similar to myself. A lot of people online who I feel like my views overlap with (other Catholics, radical feminists, etc) have views which stem from a lot of judgement and hate whereas I feel like I just want everyone to be safe and happy. I think a lot of my feelings stem from my trauma but obsessions from OCD? For my other forms of OCD (contamination, harm, etc) I feel like exposure therapy helps but I don’t know how I’d go about exposure therapy with this then without further causing more distress. I feel very nervous opening up with anyone about this theme. If you read to the end thank you so much❤️‍🩹 I am sorry if this post was triggering at all to anyone else I just didn’t know where to go to open up about this :(

Young adults with OCD

Anonymousssssss

Date posted: 21w

Can someone please offer words of advice :(

Why are things so real the first time they’re in my mind and then when I think about it later it’s easier for me to be like wtf?? I was watching a movie earlier and the young girl had developed more in the chest area than the last movie and I felt the desire to check her out so I did. Then later I let myself imagine her having sex and I liked it. But now looking back I’m like ew. The boys in the movie have also developed as the movie went on and I couldn’t help but think that in their real life they’ve probably woken up to boners and s*men and stuff. And looking back it’s just ugh. Idk if it’s sexual relevance but I genuinely let myself indulge in these thoughts and groinal responses and I remember thinking to myself I don’t want to be attracted to little kids and how do I stop myself (everyone has attractive qualities so in younger boys I see man like qualities). Idk I need help. I wouldn’t type this out if I truly believe I was messed up but I’m still scared

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