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Hello! I'm Non-binary and have never been diagnosed with OCD, but through ive began to really understand what im going through. please be kind and patient with me. thank you all so very much! (Disclaimer: i full respect people in the military, and those who choose to do it after high-school. i have family in the military, and ive heard stories from their service, and respect them a lot! if you are reading this and are active/ retired/ etc. thank you for your dedication to the military and putting your lives on the line so people like me have the privilege to be a little bit safer. i appreciate you all so very much, and know i mean none of what i saw with malice or disrespect) Ok, so im 18, but im not in college, or going to college because my parental figures told me id never make it/ they were putting me in the military (i had said as a 14 year old i wanted to join the military to prove my parent wrong for saying i wasn't good enough. now that i look back on it, i allowed spite to dictate my future. i didnt know anything about it, but now i do and im not interested in it anymore). My older relative has been trying to help me move out so i dont have to go to the military, but im a bit stressed. i graduated highschool with pretty averge grades (i had A's a majority of my Junior/ Senior year), and took online dual credit classes. unfortunately, i never got to take the SATs or ACTs. my question is, will community college take me if i sign up next year? im just really tired and want to lead my own life. i want to build my own structure and achieve things on my own. i want to go to college and bust my booty cheeks every day at a job. i want to be able to plant my feet and grow on my own, even if that means i have to grind really hard with community college. so, please, if you know, will community college take me? and if i do well in community college, can i transfer to a bigger school?

Madam Stardust

Date posted: 2y

It depends on your college. You have to ask them, not us. Always direct your questions at the people most likely to know the answer. As for working hard, yes!! I am non-binary and 28. I do have a 4-year degree, but I don’t use it and I am very successful. Whether or not colleges accept you, your eagerness to put in the effort to improve your life is the key to your success. You will be fine!

Lovely.Venus<3

Date posted: 2y

i apperciate you saying this. honestly, i feel a little lost because i have friends that got into community colleges and are sitting in the same boat as me, but i think my parents words hold me back too much. Yippee for Non-binary 🥳🥳 thank you so much for your advice!

Madam Stardust

Date posted: 2y

@Lovely.Venus<3 Yay non binary pals 🥰 Yeah, parents are just people. They aren’t perfect and eventually you see that what they told you is WAY more about who they are than who you are.

Coop16

Date posted: 2y

From my understanding from google, it says that you can enroll in a community college without taking the SATs, ACTs or subject tests. However, I would just check with the community colleges you are interested in and double check. It also says many 4 year colleges also do not require standardized tests. But, again, I would research and call the offices of the ones you are interested in just to make sure. It honestly sounds like you have the right determination and motivation to do anything you put your mind to! ♥️ Good luck!

Lovely.Venus<3

Date posted: 2y

ive looked into that, too, but i never trusted it bc i didnt want to get my hopes up. thank you so much for this advice! i appreciate you so very much

moomoo22

Date posted: 24w

pls reply if you have help

i am a freshman in college and i have always struggled with depression, anxiety, and OCD. i have never received help for my OCD despite being medicated for my other two issues. i have noticed that what most of my panic stems from is my OCD and more specifically my OCD around school. i haven’t been able to get myself up for class for multiple days and im starting to panic about everything im missing and think about every little thing i have to fix. i am so behind that it makes me want to panic and i feel like i cant fix this. i just want my mind to feel normal but it feels like my whole world is falling apart all because i am feeling stuck in school. please help me i just want to feel okay but i dont know how to. i have tried doing all the assignments i can do to catch up but it isn’t enough i still feel so panicked

shirleyCstar

Date posted: 22w

Advice and Unbiased Opinions Please!!!

This isn’t OCD related so I’m sorry, but I don’t know another platform like this where I can talk to other people and actually get responses. OCD has been a huge fucking setback for me in life. I had to drop classes, wasn’t able to do things, and just felt so shitty all the time because of it. I feel like I blame OCD for everything I’m not. I constantly feel like I’m not good enough. Just today I saw someone I once knew and felt all of those feelings I used to have that made me miserable. Anyways, I tried taking my driver’s test a couple days ago but I wasn’t able to. The DMV only accepted cash. I felt upset but it was whatever. I’m almost 19, and I don’t have a driver’s license. So passing it would mean a lot to me. I compare myself to others my age; they have cars, hobbies, friends, go to college, etc… I don’t have any of that. Maybe comparing myself and all of that is my fault. My family says it’s my fault I’m sad because I just wallow in it. Hearing them say that makes me frustrated and hurt, but maybe they’re right. My mom texted a couple of my siblings in a group chat I wasn’t a part of, “He wants to wallow and be depressed. And woe is me, wah wah wah.” That made me really angry because my siblings were agreeing with her. Maybe they are right. Maybe I am selfish and think the world revolves around me. My sister tells me I need to advocate for myself more, I just don’t want to be a burden. I’ve only been a burden my whole life. My OCD created this whole issue in my family and I hate that. I don’t know what to do anymore. I just want an answer. Am I really a loser? Do I really wallow in it? Am I not trying like my family says? I just want to talk to someone.

Adi7

Date posted: 18w

Advice please ❤️

Hi ❤️ I’m really struggling right now I’m in my sophomore year of Highschool and I’ve finally started planning or thinking abt my future (for context I was extremely depressed and suicidal from 6-9th grade) After conquering my depression this is a huge leap for me and I’m proud of myself ❤️ But there’s something still holding me down :( and I’m not sure what to do anymore that thing is OCD. Since 6th grade I have had strong and invasive intrusive thoughts all the time they scare me so bad and make me feel as though I’m not even real anymore :( I’m sick of taking the time to do ridiculous compulsions to rid or ease these thoughts it’s a waste of time and energy and it hurts me so bad I feel like I will never get to just live my life without this :( How can I plan my future when I can’t even find myself in this mess of anxiety 💔 I’m so tired of fighting my mental health it’s been years from anxiety attacks to sh to survived suicide attempts (I got help dw❤️‍🩹) and recovery there. Just to be thrown into a storm of awful scary sickening thoughts day and night-when can I just be a normal teenager and possibly a happy adult? How do I conquer this so I can love myself to the fullest and live my life free and happy? :( ❤️❤️‍🩹 I’m so scared to talk to my parents about it I’m ashamed of my thoughts and every time I bring it up they just say I shouldn’t be diagnosing myself or it’s just ADHD. It really really hurts me they have no idea how awful this feels and it makes me feel so alone sometimes 💔

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