I couldn’t sleep last night thinking about my ex. I find comfort and feel better when she looks at my instagram stories. But when she doesn’t, I get anxious and sad. I can’t get out of this funk.
When I went through this I experienced that seeing they viewed my stuff was a small boost of serotonin or dopamine compared to what I use to get from them. I used it to convince myself that they still cared in some way. It would make me feel high and mighty but in the end it only hurt me more. I highly recommend taking a break from social media. It can help with creating new perspective and focus. 20 years ago we didn’t even have social media.
@davem2 Absolutely. I feel good in the moment she looks at my stories but it is temporary. And I’m always yearning for more. I think that taking a break from social media will bring my focus back to what matters. Thank you.
i know this feeling all too well, if them engaging/or not engaging with your social media causes you to overthink and obsess it’s honestly better that you stop checking who has viewed your story? maybe even just taking a break from social media. doing this made it easier for me personally to heal and move on and to rediscover life without them. wishing you all the best <3
@s🧝🏼♀️ I was thinking of taking a break all together. Thank you so much ❤️
@Anonymous that’s great to hear, just remember to take care of yourself!
I did it a few months ago, got off Snapchat, facebook, and instagram by just deleting the apps from my phone. The accounts are still there I’m just not on them. The only thing I had left was YouTube. It helped me a lot and I felt a lot more confident in what I was doing without it. Depending how much time you tend to spend on them the hardest thing will most likely be figuring out what to do with the time you use to spent on them. I replaced that time with outdoor walks and mindfulness practices.
@davem2 That sounds perfect. Right now I spend too much time on social media, instagram particularly. I know it will be good for my mental health in general. I can use the extra time going back to doing things I miss like reading. Taking walks is also something I enjoy so perhaps I’ll do that, too.
I felt this. Going through a breakup rn and when he looks at my story, I also find comfort. I’m hurting right now and it sucks sm.
@🕸 I’m starting to believe that at the end of a relationship as much as it hurts and as much as we are hurled into the uncertainty of some aspects of life again that we try to hold onto what we felt certain in and in part we are mourning the loss of that person in our life but also we are mourning the loss of a part of ourselves due to the inevitable changes brought by the exit of that person from our life. I’ve experienced years of holding onto someone in the form of resenting them and what had transpired. It was so much negative energy in my life and I’ve found that through loving myself I can still love them and that often they are going to continue down whatever path they are on and if you did genuinely care about them they lost something great in life and you can’t forget to recognize that greatness in you despite their inability to perceive it anymore themselves. I hope this helps.
@davem2 Thank you. Yes. It really does. I keep thinking of the good things we had but I also have to think about the not so good things and remember that that’s why things ended. I know myself and what I’m capable of and that I have a big heart and even though she didn’t want to continue, I still want what’s best for her.
Hello everyone! I’m new to this app and I am just looking for some help or any advice. I am 20 years old and female. I constantly think about the past and what has happened to me and my boyfriend. (Mostly about him and his ex and if he liked her more). No matter how hard I try these thoughts just flood my mind and nothing that I do helps me avoid them. I have always had issues with constant thoughts about the past and things that are stressing me out, and they just don’t go away. I thought that the thoughts about my boyfriend’s ex would fade but i’ve been with him for 2 years now and they are still constant everyday. I feel like I have to know what she’s up to and check her social media daily, if not multiple times in a day. I also check my ex’s social media daily. I don’t want to do this but I feel like I have to, and If I try not to it just makes me feel anxious. My ex was verbally and physically abusive, I was 15-17 and we were together for those two years. I have gone to PTSD therapy and I still have thoughts over and over about what happened and I wonder if it was even real. Or if I’m even remembering what happened correctly. I have constant thoughts about him and what happened between us. I also have issues such as kind of twitching when i’m really stressed out or something isn’t “right” to me. I constantly have to clean and put things in their place. I have a routine that I do everyday, such as showering in a certain order, doing my skincare in a certain order, and doing things at work in a certain order. Is this normal? And how do I help these thoughts go away… Because they have gotten so bad that it distracts me all day and is interfering with having a future with my boyfriend.
I started feeling better, more calm and relaxed but then I remembered that I’m literally heartbroken and single and I went back to feeling like shit again, all the anxiety came storming back. Why does it have to be this way, I don’t know what to do with my life anymore.
Hi everyone! I’m not sure if anyone has had any issues with sleep and anxiety but these past couple of weeks I’ve been suffering with anxiety when trying to sleep. My mind will latch on to the idea that I won’t sleep and I’ll continuously try to fall asleep and end up psychoanalyzing everything im doing . Usually I end up freaking out and not sleeping and waking up with maybe >2 hrs a sleep a night and have an awful day the next day. I’m lowkey hopeless in this situation, I’ve tried melatonin, sleeping early, limited screen time and nothing will work.. does anyone have any tips and tricks on what to do?
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