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So. Tired
I literally cannot deal with grounal response anymore I'm so tired
I literally cannot deal with grounal response anymore I'm so tired
I get that! Apart I guess from the actual Obsessing and Compulsing (đ đ ), the groinal response is probably the worst OCD symptom. Itâs so confusing, so disturbing. I think itâs because itâs the most difficult one to accept as being an OCD symptom (most peopleâs first instinct, which is obviously wrong, is to think a physical response means our intrusive thoughts are true/ real), and also on a more practical level because itâs just physicallyâŚthere.
@Pudu OCD It also makes me feel like I want it âšď¸
@twerp Except your body doesnât know the first thing about what you want. You do. Your groin doesnât have a brain. It cannot think. Your groin is a very primitive biological system that can react to all kinds of stuff from actual arousal, to physical touch, to tightness or looseness of clothing, to temperature changes, or even to weird emotional states like stress, anxiety (which OCD specialises in) or even anger. You think it means you want it because youâre listening to your OCDâs anxious and panicked voice and believing it. But remember your OCD is triggered precisely BECAUSE you donât want it.
I spent years and years and years (about 10!) being bullied daily by a team consisting of my brain and my groin, not knowing I had OCD. It was a nightmare. Learning later that I do have OCD was a huge relief - to be able to have an explanation thatâs not âI am going mad and turning into XYZâ. It doesnât make the symptoms much easier but at least I can look at them with more detachment/ less emotional investment now.
@Pudu OCD For me my groinal responses are sometimes triggered by breathing and blinking and it makes me think I m doing it on purpose which is awful âšď¸ but I'm going to work on more expisures
@twerp The struggle and confusion is real. What helps me with the groinal response, is to ignore it, and physically go on with my day. I weirdly find that easier to do with the groinal than with intrusive thoughts for some reason. Just physically going from a room to another, getting up to get a glass of water or snack or something. I find that sort of works for me. I know it doesnât for everyone.
I read somewhere that the groinal response isnât just from attraction but also from an anxiety response or just the fact that you would get a response from simply putting focus on that area when checking. This has helped me not put too much focus on it.
Can you elaborate?
@Pascal from PL I'm just tired of dealing with the groinal response it really hurts my mental health and just makes me sad
@twerp I got that. But you respond thatvway to ???
@Pascal from PL ?
Guys I need help. I feel so alone . Basically I have this compulsion where I feel the need to write everything but this stems from me being anxious about EVERYTHING. Like my mom came in my room and I was irritated and snapped, immediately regretted now I keep writing âdonât be mean to mom next timeâ but I keep thinking about it. Then I think about how I finally left my house today and all the surfaces I touched that couldâve been contaminated and now Iâm writing ânext time donât touch this and thisâ. Then I think about all the things I need to be doing for this week and Iâm writing âdonât forget to do this and thisâ even though Iâve written it 5 times already. This is what happens everyday btw. My brain always thinks about something I need to be doing and making me anxious that Iâll forget it which is why I write it down on my notes app. Iâm sooo mentally exhausted I need help pls!! Anyone have any advice ? I used to think I need to stop the writing but really I need to stop the anxious thoughts coming into my head . People say I need to accept the thoughts and let it go but thatâs too hard for me
Every time I go to bed late and Iâm falling asleep, I suddenly get an intrusive thought of a childâs face and my groinal area always responds to it. Itâs such an uncomfortable experience. I am way too tired to try and freak out so I end up falling asleep. The next morning Iâm always trying to figure out whether I had the groinal response first or after the thought. I start giving OCD power but it feels like If I let it go, then Iâm in denial or whatever. I donât want to ever do anything sexual with a child. I donât even feel comfortable talking platonically with people who are 17, much less a child. My therapist says that I have a deep rooted fear that Iâm this horrible person and that OCD loves to feed off of it. When you get a groinal response, it makes the thought that much more real. I never want these things to happen. I want to only be into adults. Itâs so discomforting and stressful. Especially since Iâm hyper checking how anxious I am, and if I find I didnât really have much anxiety, then Iâm like âwell if I didnât have anxiety, what does this mean?â And more questions occur til I end up in a rabbit hole
I can't live with OCD anymore. It's ruining my life. I feel like I'm being constantly bullied in my own mind all day everyday. I don't know if what I think and feel is ever real or normal or okay, what is me and what is the OCD thoughts. I don't know if any of my experiences are normal. I'm exhausted from picking apart every single conversation I ever have with anyone until I'm strung out by a vague and ambiguous feeling of guilt. I'm tired of feeling like I'm a bad person and feeling scared all the time and not knowing why and having my brain spin me out on an endless spiralling train of thoughts that never goes anywhere and just makes me feel disconnected from everything and everyone around me. I don't know what I feel and if what I feel is normal or if anything I am doing is real and actually me or if I'm 'losing my mind.' I don't even know if this makes any sense. I get into these states of mind where every thought in my head and everything I feel and perceive makes me question my own sanity. I don't know if anyone likes me because I have absolutely no concept of what I am actually like. I feel completely lost and confused CONSTANTLY.
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