Anonymous
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Feeling lonely
It's really hard when it seems there is nobody in your life you can really confide in.
Unknown111 Unknown111
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- 1y
I totally understand where you’re coming from. I think one of the key things to do would be to focus on what I have, not what you’re lacking. Start writing down things you’re grateful for in a journal every day, it’ll change your perspective. Also, I would say try to become your own best friend. Do things every day that make you feel confident and good about yourself: work out, crank out that project, dress to impress. You gotta become your own best friend, and build up some mental resilience as well. And join some meetup groups, go indoor rock climbing!! You’ll meet lots of people that way. I hope this helps!! You got this 👊
KellieDKellieD
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- 1y
It is hard. Even if you can confide in people, it’s still hard to feel alone in your struggle. Just know, you’re not alone and you can find groups of people to confide in, especially here!
AnonymousAnonymous
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I know. It seems even when I confide in people it doesn't help. Plus, when I do, it doesn't seem people understand.
Anon.Anon.
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- Date posted
- 1y
I still struggle with loneliness in regards to my OCD. It really helps me to have a therapist that deals with OCD all day long. It helps me feel not unique and heard. But the people on here are real, just digital lol. ERP helped me get some relief from that suffering.
AnonymousAnonymous
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I have been seeing a therapist. I have been doing ERP for over 2 years. I still feel bad, even now when I'm nearing the end of my hierarchy that I've re-made just a few months ago. Maybe part of my problem is rumination, which prevents me from getting better. But even then, that seems particularly hard with these feelings especially after how never-ending and relentless they seem
Anon.Anon.
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@Anonymous Yeah, for me ERP is really huge for in order to start getting some relief from the OCD. But another piece to that was doing other things to help me see I’m not my thoughts. This in turn helped with the shame and condemning myself for them. Books like, “The Untethered Soul.” and concepts such as “non-duality” (Paul Hedderman’s stuff on YouTube is entertaining but to the point) really helped me with this. I also do other things such as service work and helping others to get out of myself. Anyway, I hope this helps in some way!
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
@Anon. These are thoughts that are in regards to things I believe to be true about my religion and reality.
MissSocks01MissSocks01
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I have the same thing, I have only a few people who I confide in but sometimes they don’t get it and can be accidentally triggering. It’s tough!
AnonymousAnonymous
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I have only a few people too. And it feels like maybe I'm doing some sort of compulsion when I do confide in them? Maybe some form of rumination? I don't know... I feel really stuck
MissSocks01MissSocks01
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@Anonymous I get that, I feel the urge to confess too and sometimes to feel it’s ocd related. Like it might make you feel slightly less anxious if you do. It might be helpful to keep track of the things you’ve said and how helpful they were in sharing 1 out of 10, I have done that before. Then I start to notice a pattern
AnonymousAnonymous
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@MissSocks01 Could you explain more about the keeping track suggestion please?
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
@MissSocks01 Also, I'm not entirely sure what type of compulsion it would be for me to confide in people my struggles and anxieties. It doesn't seem entirely like reassurance seeking or like confession... Maybe it is a mix of compulsions? Or some completely different compulsion?
MissSocks01MissSocks01
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- 1y
@Anonymous For example just jotting down each thing you said that you may have felt was an overshare, or an urge to share. And then evaluate on a scale whether it made you feel better or if it was helpful?
MissSocks01MissSocks01
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@Anonymous I’m not too sure, I just know I feel the same way!
AnonymousAnonymous
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@MissSocks01 Ok. Thanks for the idea. I might try it. But I feel like I already see a pattern... Basically every conversation I bring any of this up in is an overshare it seems. Is this something you came up with or was it recommended to you?
MissSocks01MissSocks01
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- 1y
@Anonymous I have heard other people say about oversharing but it’s my idea so don’t take it too seriously as I’m not a professional!
AnonymousAnonymous
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@MissSocks01 Ok. What did you hear other people say about over-sharing? Was what they were saying specific, like confession or reassurance seeking, or just generally over-sharing?
MissSocks01MissSocks01
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@Anonymous Generally I think!
AnonymousAnonymous
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@MissSocks01 Ok. Thank you!
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