Does anyone else get urges/fears surrounding this? My dad was pretty racist etc. and my mom was abusive. I get a lot of worry surrounding turning into them. I just wondered if it was common.
To be clear I’m worried about becoming my parents. I’m not having a baby. 🤣🤣
I worry that i'm inherently like my dad deep down
@LizzyF What was your dad like?
@NotSoNewb82 Well to use a "box" with a "label," narcissistic.
@NotSoNewb82 And sexist
@LizzyF My dad was sexist too. Not that it would have affected me as much as you. He and my mom got a divorce and I didn’t see him for 8 years but when he was home he was terrible. He’d throw dinners at the wall and he and my mom would be drunk all the time. Once he left my mom started getting really abusive. She beat me up sometimes and smashed a glass in my face once. I understand now that they were alcoholics and that is what alcoholics do but those things still happened and it doesn’t make it easy.
@NotSoNewb82 That must be really hard for you
@LizzyF I’m scared I’m going to be an abuser.
@LizzyF How do you cope?
Either way you see Britain. If you go into and out of Bham you can have a look around that city and tick it off your list.
I have some unhealthy things i do to try to cope with different things, but one thing i know is that God can change my heart and free me from whtever causes me to act like my dad does.
@LizzyF I avoid women. If I don’t have a relationship I can’t be an abusive partner or parent. I’m travelling and I’m in a place that is popular for yoga. Obvs more women than men like yoga so there are lots of single women but I won’t budge. I want to but I can’t. I used to work in a popular bar in my twenties and sane problem there. I’ve lived in hostels too where sex was on tap for the others. I have female friends, I get offers but I just shut down. You’d be amazed at the women I’ve turned down.
@NotSoNewb82 Is that an ocd theme of yours?
@LizzyF I don’t know. I can’t get therapy rn.
𝕊𝕔𝕒𝕣𝕪 𝕚𝕟𝕔𝕚𝕕𝕖𝕟𝕥 😞𝕋𝕎𝕋𝕎𝕋𝕎 ℙ𝕃𝔼𝔸𝕊𝔼 𝔻𝕆ℕ'𝕋 ℝ𝔼𝔸𝔻 𝕀𝔽 𝔼𝔸𝕊𝕀𝕃𝕐 𝔻𝕀𝕊𝕋𝕌ℝ𝔹𝔼𝔻 𝔹𝕐 𝕋ℍ𝔼𝕄𝔼𝕊 𝕎𝕀𝕋ℍ 𝕂𝕀𝔻𝕊 hi everyone, I am really struggling with something disturbing and I'm so afraid I'm a PDF. So my sis came to visit with my nephew for the first time. So the other day we were taking pics with the baby I was already feeling kinda nervous cuz I never held a baby before. Anyway it was my turn and I like I wonder if this would sexually stimulate him( not exactly the thought but the of thought was more graphic and I don't wanna disturb anyone). And I can't remember if I thought that while I was bumping him on my stomach (like how people bump babies on their hips) or before I started doing so. Anyways I can't really remember what my reaction to that thought was or if I started bumping him before or after I had that thought... So I tried not to think much of it but over time I started to spiral really bad and wonder why I thought that and why then I would bump him on my stomach after having that thought or during. I just feel so disgusted. Like was I curious about it? Did I disregard the thought because my brain thinks disturbing things? Ik right now away from that situation that ofc I have no sexual interest in my nephew at all. I played with him and helped changed diaper and everything and never had the urge to do anything inappropriate to him besides that one weird instance. So like I'm so disturbed like did that mean something? I have P OCD but that didn't really feel like an intrusive thought? I also can be very impulsive, and if it was impulsive does that mean I had a desire? Now I'm terrified of having kids even though I wanted some or to foster some. I mean I know but myself I'm not sexually attracted to kids but then why would I think that I am so disturbed really and feel so sick. 😞😞😞😞 I don't know what to do I'm so scared about what my motivation was I feel so bad and scared😞😞😞😞
I'm 21 and eventually I would like to have a child. I am terrified about the fact that I could have sexual thoughts about them... So now I am filled with intrusive thoughts. How should I respond to these? "So yes, what if I will have intrusive thoughts about that?" But im terrified because a normal person shouldnt think about even that at all. I am so scared. I cannot respond "what if" because this is too serious and it makes me so bad if i respond "what if"
Hi everyone, this is giving me so much anxiety even saying this out loud because my OcD is telling me that somehow someone will know who I am on here and report me this goes with what I’m about to say about my irrational stuff. Since my baby was born I’ve had a lot of majorrr anxiety about him getting sick. From there my postpartum ocd spiked. I had this irrational fear someone would falsely report me as a bad mom and I’d get my baby taken from me. I’ve NEVER had anyone tell me I’m a bad mom, as a matter of fact, almost every day I get praised for how good of a mom I am. My child is so loved and taken care of. So why did I have that fear? it CONSUMED ME. Obsessively cleaning my house in case a social worker came. Stopped posting myself having occasional girls nights out for dinner because I thought one of my followers would think I’m a bad mom for getting a break. Not being able to talk about ANYTHING or send pictures of my baby to family and friends to update them since we live out of state because somehow I thought I would say something wrong or do something that would make someone think I’m a bad mom. I was convinced my baby was gonna be taken for zero reason. I still sometimes catch myself over analyzing myself and what I say because I don’t want to say the wrong thing and someone think I’m not a fit mom. I would even replay every scenario I remember and then second guess myself if that really happened or if I said something or not and freak out and spiral from there. with driving, if I go over a speed bump I have to double check it wasn’t magically a person. Then I panic even though I know for a fact it was a speed bump. I hate living like this. I feel crazy. I don’t open up because I feel like I’m the only person in the world. The one time I opened up about driving it was used against me. I feel like I’m drowning and I’m failing as a mom. I don’t even open up to a therapist about my irrational fear about baby being taken bc I don’t want them to think I’m a bad mom. It just doesn’t stop.
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