After 9 months of my breakup with my ex I still think about him. I been doing better for myself and I haven’t contacted him for 2 months. Why do I still care? Like I wish I didn’t. I don’t want to think about him anymore but I do. I just want to get passed this. Any advice?
I still cry about him. And I want to get the point where I don’t.
I promise it gets easier with time and distance. I know people say that but it really does.
seriously i feel the same way. my ex and i had been on and off for like 3 years. he was so mean to me and to this day i cry about him after years. i never fully have let go tho. we would talk and hangout randomly and hookup but then he would want nothing to do with me after and i was attached. you’re not alone at all. i would say don’t communicate if you can i know it’s so hard.
@Bribri22 I appreciate you sharing. My ex and I after we broke up we would still hook up but we ended that in the middle of this year. And any time in the past when we tried to communicate with each other it would end in more problems. I’m at this point where I’m not talking to him and he’s not talking to me. Sometimes it feels like I’m alone with the pain. But thank you for reminding me that I’m not.
@Anonymous1790 my ex was like the first one i’ve ever had a real relationship with being in my 20s we could hangout alone do whatever we wanted and we were kind of inseparable but he was just so mean and brutal to me with his mood swings we would always fight and he’d blame it on me. i never had anxiety but after we broke up the first time i had terrible anxiety would cry every day wouldn’t eat anything. even tho now i hate him so much but still if he’d take me back right now i would. i always feel like i’m alone and it’s so hard but i feel like i’m almost coming to that point where i really don’t like him anymore at all. i think it’s really the communication tho if you never fully get rid of them you can’t let them go
@Bribri22 I hear you, and again thank you for sharing. The attachment makes it harder especially after a break up. My ex and I both had our issues. But he was my first love, so it hit the hardest. I was so co dependent on him after the break up. I know i hurt him a lot and he hurt me a lot in different ways. But I feel like he’s prolonging communication to end off our friendship. It’s been two months already since he asked for space. I been trying my best to move on. Sometimes I wanna ask for help to get thru this, I’m an emotional person, so I feel a lot. I just wish that I didn’t, bc he doesn’t deserve it.
@Anonymous1790 i’m so emotional as well. i feel like it’s really really hard to be friends, even if you ended on good terms because you still have some sort of attachment there. i feel like there needs to be time and space.
@Bribri22 Very true, especially when there’s feelings involved. I just wish to get over this chapter in my life already, I hate wondering if he will ever contact me again or if it’s finally over with communication between us.
My bf and I just broke up and I haven’t felt this sort of heartbreak in a very long time. I’m crying all the time and can barely get out of bed. Idek what to do with myself and I’m terrified I’m going to relapse because of all the added stress. I think us breaking up was the right decision but it hurts so fucking bad idek what i should do anymore. I’m not normally the emotional type when it comes to situations like this either. Any advice?
my grades are super bad, my ex moved on, i have no real friends at all, and i feel empty inside. i feel nothing but i feel so many emotions at the same time. i wish i would’ve done better in life. i push people away but then complain about being lonely. me and my ex broke up 8 months ago and i still can’t get over him. he got a girlfriend a week after our breakup and it makes me think about so many things. i’ve talked to guys after that but none of them are the same, i got this feeling with him i got with nobody else and it hurts to know i won’t ever get it back. i feel like im not good or pretty enough for anyone. i feel to difficult for a relationship and to tired. i compare myself to his new girlfriend all the time and i can’t stop. why can’t i be as pretty as her? what was so wrong with me that we had to stop talking? we talk every month as friends but it lasts an hour. my heart craves his love again but i know i won’t ever get him back. i remember this one time i tried cutting off all contact with him because of his girlfriend. when i did, he said he didn’t wanna fully let me go because im a good friend to keep around and he knows ill always be there. i don’t know if he still means that because it’s been months but he still texts me first sometimes. i know i need to let go but im stuck in life and i just need him to help me like he always would. but i cant get his help so i feel stuck and confused and sad and empty.
My partner broke up with my about 10 months ago. It came out of nowhere, and I got no explanation before they ghosted me and blocked me on all forms of contact. I have been horribly struggling since then with this obsessive need for closure. For a while I continued to try to reach out to them, on my own accord or through other people, but it just kept ending with more blocking. For months, I was going through the relationship and the breakup in my head over and over, picking it apart to try and figure out what went wrong, but without a conversation with my ex, I couldn't get anywhere. I am definitely doing much better now. the compulsions to reach out to her and the spiral obsession with figuring out what went wrong have both lessened. but they are still present, especially when I sleep. I really just want to be rid of the whole situation, but i want to do it in a healthy way without locking up my feelings. i really am at such a loss though. i still want answers and i still miss my ex in a lot of ways, but at the same time, the though of running into them scares the shit out of me. ive heard some horrible things about them since then, and how they have been spreading rumors about me behind my back. the situation cant seem to get any worse and it just keep happening. and it makes my ocd triggers so much worse too. idk, i will take literally any responses and any helpful advice.
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